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Hi everyone, I am in need of some really good advice...

About 2 years ago I let my sister move in with me, my husband and daiughter, into the spare room! At the time she wasn't working so pretty...

The extent of the lies is beyond what I could ever believe and am finding it hard to believe still... 5 women is the start of it!

I am glad to be out of it but still find myslef in it in a weird...

Hi everyone, I quick update.

Life is pretty good, had a holiday with friends, got asked out so many times that my confidence is at a all time high, feeling pretty good with myself for the first...

I don't have a problem with trust as such I just have a problem trusting him and now because of him I imagine I will have no trust or doubt most men I meet in the future!!

I feel like my head is...

The man will sink to all kinds of levels to make me do who knows what...

I recvd a text the other day in the early hours, shich I didn't get till the morning, saying in a round about way he was...

I completely agree with everything everyone has said.

The more time that goes the stronger I feel and the I realise what he is doing and how I could NEVER have him back... never ever.

Its taken...

The more I talk the more I know I couldn't and wouldn't have him back!

I don't feel lonely how I used to or miss him how I used to, I do miss his good bits but not enough to have him back! I don't...

Oh I can def live without him, I have been for months now and it really has got easier.

What I meant was that unless I can see it for myself I don't believe he would do anything to better...

I think you are all right, its an odd feeling to want him back and at the same time I don't!

He says he has got some help and had therapy but honestly I don't believe he did for one minute.
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He has said he would only consider therapy if it meant we could try again, he would do it for us but not himself! Which is quite worrying

He doesn't see himself really as being anything wrong but...

At the moment I am having a lot of doubts about my decision... he is promising the world of therapy and what he can do and will be like if I considered giving it another go... my head is a mess as I...

Something that is really getting on my nerves is the complete rollercoaster of emotions and feelings I am having... I go from one day feeling like it's the best thing I ever done and can't wait for...

Its been 7 weeks now since we split, I am feeling more positive, I still have my bad days when through lonliness and sadness you would do something stupid like take him back but I'm still here......

I have had several conversations with my ex, all quite amicable ones, I have made it clear although he wants to we will NOT be getting back together, that as much as I will always love him I couldn't...

I am struggling at the moment and am even having my doubts about what I have done, its hard to say that for eveything he has done!

I don't want him and couldn't let myself but there is something...

Am feeling very low at the moment, find myself wanting to cry a lot, I thought I was getting better but feel as though I have gone 10 steps back but I don't know why!

I think about him most days,...

Thank you so much for this link, I have read it several times over the last few days, I can relate to all of it.

It has made me start looking on the net for similar things, which were quite hard...

I am shocked with what I read here, whether it be for a job or adventure or power, whatever the reason there is no excuse or reason for doing what she did!

No matter how selfless an act she tells...

Thanks Kat, its driving me mad thinking about him everyday, I don't want to, I try not to, I'm waiting for a day when it doesn't happen bu tthen I find myself looking out to see if I see him but what...

I am taking every day as it comes after a VERY down weekend... am finding this all very hard

I do wonder what's wrong with me, I feel sorry for him! Im pretty sure I'm the only one hurting and that's been dumped on and I feel bad for him! How does that make any sense? I think from...

I was talking to a counsellor the other day and they have said he shows all the symptoms of a sociapath... when I googled it I was shocked by how accurate it is to him and how I have had a lucky...

I am not involved with him anymore, there has to be the odd conversation due to our child but other than that there has been nothing... I feel stupid for thinking about him what feels like everyday...

Hi gonenuts

I have read through every single thread and really feel for you.

Firstly don't ever feel she is the best you can get after she's done what she has, every woman is looking for a good...

I can't wait for the day I don't care, the day I don't think about him... I have never felt so lonely and alone :(

I am only able to do the NC to a point as we have a child but I can keep it to that ONLY.

I have printed it out and it is helping, thanks guys and gals. It is getting easier again everyday as I...

What amazes and upsets me and makes me angry is that he has managed to get in my head again and have me thinking about him... im doing everything I can to think and do other things to occupy me but...

Hey everyone... what can I say it was just getting easier then I see him, we talk and now I feel almost as bad as before!

He was he's usual self, charming! And I played the I don't care act. BUT...

After examining my passport closer I noticed it doesn't specify miss or mrs, only my full name, sex etc. My ticket says miss but as my passport says neither there should be no problem?...

Well, its been a few days since I last posted and I have had a real up and down time. I have had all kinds of grief from my ex in phone calls and texts but they really haven't bothered me, I am...

If only I could put on here the sort of thing he has done that I do have proof of, I doubt one person would say to stay with him.

You can't help who you love and I think I proved that with him,...

Sorry, meant I was previously an investigator... not any more but you don't lose the instinct.

He is a very charming cheater and very very clever, this isn't the first time he has been caught by...

I have also previously been in an investigator and have always never believed anything without proof, this is why I have stayed with him for so long. I agree that the more I ask for peoples advice...

Also the problems I have with him are many many more than the question I have put on here... the list of lies, deceit, theft, conning, blackmail of sorts is endless... there aren't enough pages to...

WOW I am surprised at that being said although I do see where your coming from, half the problem is that he did it and got her pregnant, partly because he carried on contact with her after we got...

Something that has really bothered me today is that after talking to a girl cousin of mine, who knows a lot about him, has agreed with my friend who says if we weren't together what can I say... am I...

I have a few friends who are great but do have families, my own family either live far away or have their own families now. I don't feel shut out but I feel like I'm intruding on their family...

Thanks Tal and everyone, its been a hard easter break, I have felt quite lonely, all my friends are in relationships or married with kids so they spent the easter hols with their family... I have...

If we had been legally separated then really there wouldn't be too much I could say! But unfortunately its not :-(

Same goes for him being a serial cheat, again I wish it wasn't so and for to long...

Judy, he says it only happened while we separated, which was for 6 weeks ish middle of last year, not legally separated or anything, in regular contact with him constantly asking for another chance....

I was prepared for what I might find, but as much as you prepare yourself its nothing like the bus that hits you when you find it! No matter how much you suspect and I have purposely never snooped...

I am in general getting there, I think and hope! Im not quite at the stage of not caring who is right or wrong or what he is doing but I'm trying. I am spending a lot of time with friedns who new him...

The problem is that at the moment, no matter how I know I have done the right thing... I do miss him, wish I didn't but those few good points he had, I miss!!

I think something that amazes me is the rollercoaster of emotions I have had so far. Yesterday was a good day and today I can feel myself feeling down again. I seem to go from feeling positive to...

I am separated and passport in maiden name, holiday booked in maiden name but as miss. Ill query with passport office too just in case

I am due to travel soon and my passport has me down as a MRS, my travel docs have me down as a MISS... will this effect me flying or being allowed out the country (UK) or back in?? HELP!! I have 4...

Well I went to the school today and saw my soon to be ex husband... it was odd because I thought I was going to get upset or be angry at him but I felt nothing but slightly uncomfortable, it sounds...

I still don't understand why she said it though, on a weak day it could put all kinds of doubt in anyone's mind. I think she is beginning to see how much he's hurt me and that's why I can't do it...

My agony, I think I didn't explain myself properly. There is no way on this earth or any other planet that I would consider having him and his cheating back in my life, bed or heart. I couldn't do...

I have got up today feeling a little better about things, yesterday was a bad day went to bed in tears... again! I have also just realised that there is an event we both must attend for our child...