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  1. I can understand that you find your father...

    I can understand that you find your father difficult to live with, at 17 you're young and you haven't learnt to deal with difficult people yet (sometimes even us older people don't know how to do...
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    Sometimes it's really hard for men when their...

    Sometimes it's really hard for men when their partners haven't wanted sex for a while - for whatever reason. They seem to just turn of and then it's hard to 'switch them on' again, or they find it...
  3. Why don't you just 'fess up and let him know you...

    Why don't you just 'fess up and let him know you were embarrassed at being inexperienced and made yourself sound more worldly with men than you actually were?

    It's great and truly commendable that...
  4. Wow, there are so many red flags here - the...

    Wow, there are so many red flags here - the biggest being her continuing to live with her ex-husband while going out with you. It really concerns me that she claims it's over with him, but lives in...
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    Look back at what you've written and ask yourself...

    Look back at what you've written and ask yourself what was really happening in this relationship... there was uncertainty, arguments, infidelity and doubts. A lot of things that are really hard to...
  6. Can I ask how old you both are, and how long...

    Can I ask how old you both are, and how long you're known each other?

    This may make a difference to how I respond..
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    Trusting someone when you don't feel like you can...

    Trusting someone when you don't feel like you can trust the world in general, or when bad things have happening to you in the past, can be really hard.

    There is no easy answer or simple solution,...
  8. Can I suggest that you need to change doctors? ...

    Can I suggest that you need to change doctors? She clearly isn't listening, or perhaps you're not telling her exactly how bad you feel and that you've been hurting yourself.

    As other posters have...
  9. Strength, I find that you're giving really good...

    Strength, I find that you're giving really good advice on other threads. What we often do when people have previously posted, and you may find yourself doing this in the future as well, is look at...
  10. Hi Backpacker, you only need to post one...

    Hi Backpacker, you only need to post one question, rather than three - otherwise it gets confusing for people answering your questions, and you won't get as good a result.

    I'm really sorry to hear...
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    After reading your further posts, I've started to...

    After reading your further posts, I've started to become a bit concerned. I don't think that this is anything to do with your diet, or what's in the kettle, it sounds as if there is an underlying...
  12. Equilibrium, read the stickies at the top of the...

    Equilibrium, read the stickies at the top of the relationships forum, they may help. Also, humility and generosity are all around you, rather than trawling the net to research how to become a better...
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    Whew, steady on mate... before you go accusing...

    Whew, steady on mate... before you go accusing your fiancÚe of cheating, take a deep breath.

    A woman's clitoris can be sore for many reasons and the vagina often produces the while stuff you...
  14. Not always!

    Not always!
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    Sorry, but that is a really revolting statement. ...

    Sorry, but that is a really revolting statement. I do understand your frustration regarding the unexpected pregnancy, but what happened to talking about this together and not just trying to have...
  16. I really feel your pain! It's very hard when we...

    I really feel your pain! It's very hard when we know that the lessons we have to learn are ours alone. No one here can teach you what you need to learn - in actual fact, through this pain and...
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    I wasn't suggesting your children are neglected...

    I wasn't suggesting your children are neglected because it never occurred to me that they were.

    I was suggesting that you spend some time getting to know yourself and them - separate from the...
  18. Question: He Loves Her?

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    Um, can I ask why you married him? And, more to...

    Um, can I ask why you married him? And, more to the point, why did he marry you? He doesn't seem to want to BE in the marriage does he?

    I don't see much chance for 'rehabilitation' in this...
  19. I sort of have problems with your continuing to...

    I sort of have problems with your continuing to see her when you knew you were falling for her and knew it was creating problems in the relationship. Sure, she could have taken the initiative and...
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    I don't know what it is either, but sometimes a...

    I don't know what it is either, but sometimes a 'clearing' can help. I would suggest that you contact someone experienced in spiritual and/or psychic clearings and ask their advice.

    We can also...
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    Look, sometimes we are more open to certain...

    Look, sometimes we are more open to certain people and being more open means they can 'read' certain things about us. We know that people like this exist, there are some very good (and genuine)...
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    If I'm reading your post right, you're saying...

    If I'm reading your post right, you're saying that you and your wife have never successfully completed an act of sexual intercourse.

    Yet you're expecting her to respond like someone that's...
  23. Perhaps you were never destined to be long term...

    Perhaps you were never destined to be long term lovers but good friends - however, moving in together so quickly didn't give you the chance to find this out.

    I suggest that you might try spending...
  24. Your BF gets an an erection because your tears...

    Your BF gets an an erection because your tears and emotions stimulate him.

    Penises respond to all sorts of stimulation, not just sexual stimulation. Men get erections when they are nervous or...
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    Hey, you've had some great advice and what I...

    Hey, you've had some great advice and what I think it really boils down to is that you need to distance yourself from your ex. (and stop that drunk texting!)

    She's had no problems moving on and...
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    I can't give you advice on your current...

    I can't give you advice on your current relationship because I don't think it's going anywhere - I would suggest the best thing you can do is kick him out of the house and take back your car and your...
  27. Revenge is a dish best served cold. The best...

    Revenge is a dish best served cold.

    The best revenge is for you to move on and move him out of your life. Is there any better revenge than shutting such a liar, cheater and hypocrite out of your...
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    Actually, I'm a woman and I can understand that...

    Actually, I'm a woman and I can understand that you feel angry about this unwanted pregnancy. Women seem to have a lot of power don't they? - The power over life and death and you have no say in...
  29. Because his friends teased him about you and now...

    Because his friends teased him about you and now he's saving face by acting mad at you.
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    There ARE words for this and they are called -...

    There ARE words for this and they are called - abusive female with narcissistic tendencies...

    Inflated sense of her own entitlement - tick
    Lies to get her own way - tick
    Dumps you when you...
  31. Hi Avenger, from your previous posts it seems...

    Hi Avenger, from your previous posts it seems you've had a few on/off on-line interactions with girls. I think that what you describe sounds like an interesting friendship, but I wouldn't get my...
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    It's your manager's responsibility to be...

    It's your manager's responsibility to be monitoring the people that he or she is responsible for. It's called 'management'.

    If your co-worker is flouting the rules, you manager is responsible,...
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    Asking, I think that one of the issues is the...

    Asking, I think that one of the issues is the distance. Things seem to be fine when you're talking over the phone and not having to fit into his life, but once you are in HIS environment, it all...
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    One of the things that struck me about your post...

    One of the things that struck me about your post was how many rules you're made for yourself, how many things you WON'T do, and how you believe that you can plan or map out your life - and, you're...
  35. No I don't think that a marriage can survive long...

    No I don't think that a marriage can survive long term if the sex sucks - particularly if one person feels frustrated by it.

    What I read in your post is that you're with someone that doesn't...
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    He's 50 year old. He's a big boy now. He's old...

    He's 50 year old. He's a big boy now. He's old enough to have a mature discussion about sex (and so are you).

    Go out for dinner, somewhere private, and talk to him about it. If you can't...
  37. The thing is, you're reacting to what you...

    The thing is, you're reacting to what you perceive his memory of your relationship to be, which is then affecting your memory of the relationship.

    YOU know you had some happy times, YOU know that...
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    Unless you've seen evidence with your own eyes,...

    Unless you've seen evidence with your own eyes, this is a really difficult situation. Chances are your 'source' may well be right, but it's still third hand information.

    If you really want to...
  39. I'm so sorry that you feel so terrible - it's...

    I'm so sorry that you feel so terrible - it's like having your heart ripped out of your chest and your guts kicked in isn't it?

    The reality is, she didn't want to be with you any more, but she...
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    That is not love. That is regret. Love cannot...

    That is not love. That is regret. Love cannot be forced, and in many ways you tried to force your 'love' on him. When you try to force something on someone in the name of love you're confusing...
  41. Look, I think that in the end you're being really...

    Look, I think that in the end you're being really obsessive about this.

    You can't change the way another person thinks. Sure you can weep, wail and wish things were different. You can stay in...
  42. Roxy, I'm so sorry about your dad, I hadn't read...

    Roxy, I'm so sorry about your dad, I hadn't read the other thread so I'm bit belated in my condolences - I can fully appreciate why you're not sleeping!

    I have found Valerian to be good, and it's...
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    Part of the problem is that you're playing into...

    Part of the problem is that you're playing into his drama by responding to it.

    You either back off and don't have contact with him, or simply tell him that his friendship with you is at risk if...
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    Why don't you just treat it like a friendship,...

    Why don't you just treat it like a friendship, rather than a romance?

    Your expectations of her are probably too great at this early stage of the relationship - I mean, it's only been 3 weeks!
    ...
  45. I think that trying to change what he thinks of...

    I think that trying to change what he thinks of you at this stage is madness. It's like trying to convince the doctor in the insane asylum that you're not mad - if he thinks you are, you haven't got...
  46. Sorry, but I don't see marriage and happy ever...

    Sorry, but I don't see marriage and happy ever after happening here.

    This guy is talking with his actions - he doesn't want you to move in. He has doubts about you and your personality and keeps...
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    I'm so sorry that you're feeling so bad. It's...

    I'm so sorry that you're feeling so bad. It's really hard to lose someone that you love, particularly if you weren't conscious of what was coming.

    Notice, I said the words - 'weren't...
  48. So what keeps you with him? I'm not being...

    So what keeps you with him?

    I'm not being provocative, I'm just interested. He's rarely home, you don't have sex - what holds you together?

    It sounds as if you're missing more than just the...
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    I don't really get it. She's your EX. Why...

    I don't really get it. She's your EX.

    Why did you have an agreement that she wouldn't do anything with guys? (Are you both girls?)

    Furthermore, why did she tell you about the shower shag -...
  50. I don't think that he wants to commit to a new...

    I don't think that he wants to commit to a new relationship. He just wants to be with someone where he can talk about his dead wife.

    Sorry, but he doesn't even seem to be making an effort, and...
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