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I think you do have a problem with her going out with her friend. You seem to not want her to do it in the future and you also seem to want her to be sorry for doing it. It is fine to feel this way,...

Hi Anonymous91,

I don't know if you're still reading this post, if you are I hope this helps. I think you may face a lot of problems if you want to have a relationship with this girl. You both...

While you might be smothering her, I don't really think you should apologise for it. Is she going to apologise to you? What is the deal with this relationship? How do you treat each other in average...

Hi, this is my first time writing on your thread. After reading your posts I would advise a slow approach. If she is as into you as you are into her than she'll understand about taking more time. She...

I really liked the suggestion of doing things you've always wanted to but never have. I'm going to write out a list and start doing them. At the top of my list are learning to sew and going on a...

I think you need to break up with her. And have a bit of 'me time' where you do what is best for yourself.

She was pretty thoughtless and mean. She made fun of you in front of her friends and...

Yes, I'm also very interested to know where you are coming from. Are you a straight guy? A girl? A gay guy? Or unsure?

When you are next alone like in one of your bedrooms (not during sex), say jokingly: "so hey are we seeing other people or just each other?" And go on from there in a light hearted manner. If he...

Mikey,

Do you really want to propose and keep this lie? You love and care for her deeply and yet are willing to put her in a situation that keeps things from her that you know she would probably...

Sonia,

I think either you need to take tal's advice, which is be independent in order to find your own happiness. i.e. stand up for yourself and do what you think is right for you. There is a lot...

He's treated you so badly. And he is showing you that he wants to be with his girlfriend and does not want to make you his girlfriend.

Unless you're a sadist, there is no reason to keep hanging...

He totally doesn't even respect you or his fiancée. There is no reason to want to be with him. He doesn't really care about either of you.

If you do want to leave her (or already have) than that is the right thing to do. And disregard the following if that is so.

This is what I was going to say before I read your last post: If you...

Maybe you could introduce her to some of your female friends. Or invite her to things where a group of your friends will be, then she could socialize with other people. And then push her to interact...

I think it would be beneficial to see a counselor and that it would be good to arrange it on the 12th. The nurse sounds like she has been a great listener and supporter, so I think you could still...

Just because you are not on your knees anymore to get her back does not constitute seeing reality and all the advice given to you. To be blunt, she is not into you at all, she is only into you being...

This is the post by tal that I referred to.

I really agree with tal's post at 2.20pm. It is what I wanted to say earlier but he put it much better than I could have.

I am kind of sick of listening to your posts because you don't seem to be...

I agree with Tal's statements. If you're to have a good relationship with your friend, you need to trust him. So trust him and see what happens. And I am so glad that you said you are moving on and...

Hi again,

I found this really great post by Zeenie

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/not-sure-how-deal-ex-fiance-walking-out-me-3-months-before-wedding-269548-18.html#post2128432
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Brambleyapple,

I apologise if I am being a bit rough =), I haven't had any sleep yet. So if I seem a bit abrupt, please forgive me. I hope you are happy whatever you do.

Okay, look at it from his point of view. The point of view you're posing. So you are a guy that loves a girl but has been really hurt in the past. You have been hurt by someone you love. This girl...

I agree that they are as you've said nice and kind people. That is why you liked them in the first place. But I agree with what Jake says about the bs. Even though your ex is trying to help you by...

I don't think that is something you should be concerned with right now. You can sort that later on with your friend when you are better, sometime in the future.

Also, if your next girlfriend loves...

He knows he can be with you, and he obviously isn't with you. Unfortunately no matter what he says, he has the means to be with you if he wanted to, clearly he doesn't.

I think you are lucky to be...

I think you need to stop calling her your girlfriend.

Dear Cally,

OMG, what a mess! I feel really sorry for your boyfriend. This is a terrible situation he is in. If you don't do something to remedy this constant contact with your ex, it then becomes...

Even though it is the hardest thing to do, you need to do nothing. Just leave it alone for the moment till you have more perspective. And definitely don't give you ex a present!! That would only do...

Dear Misshersomuch,

I hope you follow Talaniman's advice. This is out of your control and will only serve to hurt you if you keep giving it importance in your life. All the best.

I missed the last few posts, before I posted the above. Maybe you shouldn't get involved. It sounds like how you are dealing with everything has improved dramatically. I agree with talaniman and so...

Hi Misshersomuch,

There are so many new events that have happened that I want to reply to. But I'd like to say I didn't read all the pages of this feed. Until yesterday, I had only read pages one,...

PS. About my second last post (the long one :s), I think I might have been a bit pushy. I apologise if I was.

Hi misshersomuch,

I just wanted to say something more positive. I was rereading your original post and I think you are very optimistic, open and giving. And the best thing is that you are open to...

Hey misshersomuch,

I'm really glad that you've decided to have no contact with her. I think it is the right thing to do. At this point any contact with her will just drag you down. I think you're...

I didn't realise there were more posts after the first page. Well... my above post is a bit late and now seems a bit thoughtless. I hope that you feel better soon. I am sad that you are feeling so...

Hi Misshersomuch,

Your entry really moved me. Your writing is very clear and would be excellent for a person whom english was their first language.

You seem like a really nice person....