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You seem to have the upper hand in all of this and you don't depend on him half as much as you think - YOU pay the bills, YOU organise everything, you have your own car/phone/money... it's just the...

This website looks like it has some good advice. I'm sure you've been reading through a lot of websites but it might help a bit x

Coping with Grief and Loss: Support for Grieving and Bereavement

Well as long as you're okay and feel content with your own company right now, that the most important thing. And you have all of us to talk to of course!

In time you might feel like talking to...

Hey there,

Your situation sounds tough because like you said you love her so much and you can't bear to let go. But, you said you've done everything you can think of to try and win her back. And...

Like I just said above, go at your own pace and do what you feel is right at the time for you. Don't rush yourself. It might take a while to "accept" what's happened.

I suppose lots of people in...

The thing is, without realising it you are being so strong, you say that inside you feel like you're a wreck, well it is totally normal to feel like you're falling apart right now, something very...

Dear Marianne, I am so so sorry to hear this news, I have just sent you an email but wish to say again that if you need anybody to talk to at any time then I will always be here for you, as I'm sure...

Hello Marianne,

Nice to hear from you. I'm okay thank you, getting by, slowly but surely! It's a rather long story since we last spoke but basically him and I agreed to gradually give it another...

Hey Marianne. Yes it was just a short break to show Catherine around my University! Glad you're well, yes the weather's fantastic! Been sunbathing in the garden all day in my favourite bikini, hehe!...

Hi guys, how is everyone? I've arrived back home from my trip today, although rather unexpectedly early as I had a bit of a problem with my eyes yesterday so had to go to Accident & Emergency at the...

I am going away for a trip with my best friend now. I am feeling very positive about this. Him and I are going to go our separate ways and work on OURSELVES, alone, in order to become stronger and...

Everything you've said has made complete and utter sense. A lot of sense.

"Until he can define himself, you will never define the both of you."

He needs to find himself. He needs to work out...

Okay enjoy yourself and I hope Stephen enjoys playing with the children too! Speak later :)

Nonono I've said it all wrong. That was what he said at one point, but I think I took it in the wrong context - he actually DID say that he accepted responsibility for his actions, was sorry,...

His Mother divorced his Dad after 6 years. She married him when she was 18, moved to Egypt, converted to Islam, then divorced him and moved back to England because she was too "westernized" as you...

I have learnt so much about myself during this break, especially that I am actually a really strong person and am very capable of looking after myself. I truly think that I would never let a man tell...

[By the way, I feel a bit guilty for going on and on about myself on here... sorry if people are feeling fed up by all this.. I know my family and friends probably are so even if you don't read what...

Hi Marianne, thanks for the like, I am going on Ebuddy so if you're around...


I am scared. What if we decide to see each other slowly and gradually again but still lead our own lives how we...

Thanks to you both. Like I said, I am going to do a lot of deep thinking for a while and work on myself and decide what it is that would make ME feel happy. I do love him to bits and if I decide that...

Kit, I am soul-searching right now. It is hard but I am taking all those questions into account and trying to work out what I really want. I think I also need to listen to my own head and heart and...

And it's also not just about changing.. it's about the fact that we want totally different things. He wants to bring up his children as Muslims. He still doesn't agree with most of the things I want...

Yes I am really rather confused too. I am so lost with all this. A part of me really wants to give him another chance but I am so scared as I don't think he could definitely change.. I don't know.. I...

By the way I know in my heart that at some point soon the best thing for both of us (him as well) would be for us to go no-contact to let him heal, but I genuinely don't think he's quite ready for...

He is absolutely devastated. And I mean devastated. The way he was, you'd actually think that somebody had just told him that his whole family had died. It was horrible and nasty and cruel and I feel...

I am leaving in half an hour. Pretty nervous now! Will let you know later what happens.

Thank you, I want to click "agree" for most of your posts but it won't let me because I haven't "spread enough reputation" or something!

Not quite feeling the nerves yet, I've had to get up...

Thanks guys, I'll be on in the morning. Have a good night and speak tomorrow. You've both helped a lot. Night x

I've only just seen your post Marianne so I'll read it now x

Hi, I can't take a friend with my tomorrow as she's busy, and also I don't see the point as I'm not worried about getting hurt (it's a relatively public place) and if a friend is there it will be...

I've just been reading over your last post and the files you sent me with my Mum. We have been talking about them a lot (with regards to my relationship AND her relationship!) and we have both agreed...

I will do this! I will think positively and tell myself that I can do it! I doubt myself too much I think, it's bad because I know what I want and I know I can do it. I will do it! And I also did...

Okay, this will be so hard but I think that what you said is the best way. Although I do love him very very much so I think crying will be inevitable and something I won't be able to prevent. I am...

I think he's going to do everything he can to woo me, like buy me presents, bring food and possibly even tickets for a holiday or something. I think he's still in denial and doesn't think it will be...

Thank you. Just a bit of an update for you.

He tried to call me earlier but I didn't answer. Instead I texted him saying "What's wrong? Is everything okay?" because I was worried about him. He...

Hi Kit, sorry to hear this, I am really pleased that you have managed to stay strong today and I'm sure he would be proud of you :) He also knows you are thinking of him and knows that you love him!...

Hi everybody! Glad you're okay! Happy Father's Day everyone, enjoy time with your Dads. Yes you're both right, now it's "me" time, not "guy" time! I'm actually quite excited underneath it all!

He...

Thanks, this list is really good and really helpful. I had a great night out clubbing last night by the way, really enjoyed spending time with my friends and dancing. Got a bit of male attention but...

Hi, just popped on here very briefly before I pop out shopping... positiveparent what's wrong? Are you okay? I hope nothing has happened that has made you want to stop talking on this site :S...

Hello,

I have just read that poem again and it's wonderful. It would be amazing to eventually achieve all those things, and it's a very positive and inspiring poem. Thank you! Your relationship...

Thanks so much to both of you, really strong and wise words, you're helping me so much. I am absolutely exhausted as it's 1am here but I will reply properly and in full tomorrow or the next day after...

Haha! Yes you certainly know how to deal with them lol! Thing is these girls are people at his University that I've never met and never will meet, and one of them's in Egypt (again I'll never meet...

Hi, hope you're both well and have had a good day.

So today I had a bit of a shock, I went on his Facebook and saw that this girl who fancied him throughout our relationship had written a reply...

Thank you positiveparent, yes you have sent that one to me along with the others but due to my hectic revision schedule I have only read the one titled "The Control Freak" for now, and am planning to...

What a brilliant article! This is very interesting. Thanks for sharing, I will read some more of the other ones you've sent me tomorrow!

Off to bed now, have had some girly friends round for the...

Thank you guys! I am so grateful for everything. Just warning you though - next week might be a bit of a traumatic weeks (I have to meet him next Monday or Tuesday to give back stuff and tell him...

I am going to bed now! Positiveparent I've begun reading the files you've sent me and they're really really interesting. Thanks for that. Good night everybody!

Hi! I am fine thanks! Sorry I didn't post, it's just because I have been feeling reasonably happy today so thought I'd only post when something new happened or when things got bad. Sorry, didn't mean...

Aw your little boy sounds so cute! I love it when children get into dancing.. maybe he will become a break dancer or street dancer! Or a belly dancer judging by the bottom-wiggle! Hehe :P

I am off...

Hi! Yes I am fine thank you! My second exam is over now so I have a weeks' break until next Friday, feeling much happier! Still feeling like I'm getting better and better at coping here on my own and...

Wow you have done so much.. counselling vulnerable women like that must be a very helpful and also rewarding thing to do, especially when you know that you've helped them through a difficult time and...