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While I don't know the whole story, it sounds like she is possibly trying to shift the blame to you, even though she is the one who left. It probably helps her sleep better at night to 'believe'...

No offense but you are coming across as needy to me. I think if you did have a chance with her, its long gone except for having her as a friend (and not the type of friendship where you hope she sees...

Some of you will remember my story from before (bitter breakup, she cheated etc). I have gotten well past the stages of worrying about that. My biggest thing right now and its driving me crazy is...

Your little trip up really wasn't that bad. IF you can truly learn from it, it will help you to NOT do this again. You will be tempted to do something stupid again but remember how you felt right...

You guys all seem to be doing great. I can tell you first hand there is no worse feeling then breaking NC for any reason (its amazing how one can justify it at the time) and having to start at day 0...

Everything people have said here is true. I went through the Same thing in August and I followed a lot of their advice. Going into No contact mode will save you months of pain, for a little temporary...

Congrats on keeping yourself composed in the situation. I know we were both posting here a lot a few months back and its nice to see the people who were going through it as well and their progress....

You say you won't cheat again, but it is going to be pretty hard to convince him after this. You may have to take this as one of lifes lessons, and move on. It sucks to hear but you created this...

Well another month (and some more) has gone by, just checking in with everyone. With christmas and new years (and my bday) over it was quite the relief. It was tough but Ive had worse. Ive actually...

I don't have time to give a detailed reply just yet, but I seriously suggest you go and read some of the other threads/questions asked here. You will be surprised at how many of them were the same...

First off you don't have to be psychotic to benefit from seeing someone for help. And I might be wrong here, but I doubt any anti depressants start working 100% in the first month, let alone the...

So just checking up on everyone who has been posting these last few months. How is everyone doing/where are you in the whole process?

I think I may have finally made it over that final hill...

I wouldn't hang out like you are if you guys are broken up. She broke up with you and she should have to live with the consequences (ie you not being there anymore). You could be helping her ease her...

Why are you going to see her? Mutual friends? Work? School? 2 weeks is awfully quick to get over a 2 week relationship, I think a lot of feelings are going to resurface as soon as you see her.
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I would think that she is trying with you again because she feels bad for you. Is that really what you want? I wouldn't feel too good knowing that someone was with me only because I persuaded them...

I don't think anything is too deep to fix, but something like that might take a lot of work. Realizing the effects of your jealousy on the relationship is the first step.

Meh, not a big deal we all slip every now and then. Just remember how doing this made you feel afterwards, and you won't do it again. Definetely don't be so hard on yourself please. Next time you get...

Yeah Today would be roughly the 4 month mark, 3 months of NC for me. It really does get better, even if its very very slow progress. I still miss her more than anything, and the fun we had. I also...

I think space is the answer. Let her cool off, and let her come to you to talk if she wants to.

Well now that her friends are backing up the story, it's a little better. I don't think it was any of your business, mainly because you only heard it from someone else. It could have only been a...

I would really not try and get hung up on this. Yes she said she wanted to get married etc, but you don't know why.

It could be that she felt the relationship was dying and thought that might make...

Well I do feel sorry that you have to see them together, as I know I would be a lot worse if I had to see my ex with their new person.

Is there no way to avoid seeing him? Taking a different...

The part about sex again, what if it wasn't good. It almost made things worse because then you miss your ex even more.

Time to dredge this topic back up again I think.

Its been a month since I posted this one, and its been a bumpy ride. I find myself getting depressed every few days, but on the bright side its not...

I feel more comfortable after checking this site again. If I go a few days without it I start feeling really down, but coming back reminds me that I'm on a path where the end goal is to be completely...

Yeah it really sounds like you are putting all the onus on her to 'end things'. Do you really need to hear the actual words? I think her actions should be clear enough. She isn't going to say what...

You might have to accept the fact that she doesn't want anything more than friendship with you. Do you want to risk losing that to push the dating? Because you will lose the friendship (if its not...

Do you really need us to answer that one for you?

How I envy you and the fact it was only 2 months with this girl. I have a similar story, but we were almost a year and she left me for someone else. She said all the 'im not sure what I want' and...

Its one thing to say you aren't going to check their facebook/myspace etc, but it's a whole other thing to actually find the will power to not do it. Trust me though, from the moment you stop, it...

As twisted as it sounds, it makes me feel better to know there are other people feeling the exact way I do right now. Sometimes I start to wonder if its just me and if my mind is broken... but seeing...

To me, that speaks a ton of his character. You don't really know how serious he is with her, he could be lying to you. Just remember that if he is willing to cheat on the girl he has now, what's to...

A month is probably way too soon to think you will be OK on dates. Im at the 3 month breakup, 11 weeks NC, and I really doubt that I'm ready to meet someone else. I was dating a new girl for about a...

It really seems like getting as far away as possible from this girl is the best choice of action. With her history, I think I would guarantee the cycle of cheating repeating itself. Don't take her...

I guess my question to you is what is your long term goal here. I see you mention 'playing her game' and you say know she is playing games with you. Im just sort of curious what you are trying to get...

You may have to accept the fact that you might not get what you need for 'closure'. It could also come in an unexpected way. My ex phoned me 7 weeks into NC and asked a stupid question about her...

Well judging by your post, it sounds like you are still in contact with him? If so that is the first thing that has to stop, especially if he is saying things like its all your fault. You will NEVER...

No offense to the above poster, but this situation seems a little worse than you are thinking. First of all no one has the right to control another person like that. Even if he is doing it to stop...

I think that you really need to stop analysing the information you are getting from your ex's friends. I really wouldn't even be talking to them at all as a part of the NC. Even if things don't work...

Well this thread has taken a turn for the weird in the last few pages. As for the last update, I think what it boils down to is that she didn't enjoy single life as much as she did, so she has...

This is going to be a long hard road that you now have to go on. The good news is at the end of the road you will be a drastically improved person in general.

Your ex was probably growing tired of...

She is using you right now. Are you OK with being used? As soon as something materializes with another guy, you will be dropped. Don't let her do this to you!! Have some self respect and drop her in...

I was in the same boat as you, and I realized I couldn't do it. In some weird twisted way, the new girl kept reminding me of my ex. In fact I thought more about my ex when I was with this girl then...

Your actions have crossed a line. Personally I think that what you did was beyond anything you should be doing while you are still with someone. You can try and justify your actions by saying he...

Yeah personally it is nice to read the success stories. I know myself it didn't make me want to break NC but I can see how it might make the people holding onto the false hope think they should try...

It is nice to see the other 3% of breakup situations.

Well after 6.5 years, it may be worth talking it out in person. The part about 'after 6 years he should know if he wants to marry you' really stood out to me. If he really feels that way, then I...

I have been in your position in an old relationship, and the same thing happened to me. I thought I needed time to sort things out after 3.5 years (in retrospect I knew she wasn't the one) but after...

Little tip for all those people who can't stop themselves from checking the ex's Facebook, or have mutual friends and don't want to see the EX's name anywhere. In the privacy settings you can block a...

The how's and whys don't matter anymore. It happened. You will never find an answer to these questions.