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That is what I was afraid I would have to do, and also what a few other friends have told me... I'd like to hang out with here still but not as frequently, at least not for awhile... until I get past...

Okay so there's this girl... she happens to be my best friend literally... for a good year and a half whenever we would go out to the bar or whatever with each other she would be all over me and we...

This isn't necessarily totally relevant to your question. But your ex, what was her relationship like with her parents? I'm really curious here... particularly with her father...


Also I feel...

Where to start... I broke NC in September about a week or two after my last post here... I was really disappointed in myself... I hadn't texted her for 3 weeks or more and then she text me asking...

Just under 3 weeks now no contact whatsoever... Still thinking about her constantly and have had the urge to send a text or call but by god I'm fighting it, its so hard... this is the longest since...

Its not rambling at all, thank you very much for taking the time to read my situation over and offering some insight and details about your own. There is definitely a few things we can relate on as...

It's weird its like I'm addicted to the pain and the dwelling...

Like you, the day we broke up, and the following couple days I felt a sense of relief because I know it was unhealthy and I should...

I just don't get why she would feel the need to tell me that stuff... Seems like its to try and make me jealous or something... Either that or to boost her own self-esteem since she had a major issue...

Well people are going to be disappointed in me... I got partial NC going for awhile, I say partial because I texted her once in a blue moon every now and then... this past Sunday it was just about 3...

And if you want to get an understanding of what I came out of check out my thread...

It sounds to me like you developed a dependency with each other, I came from a similar type of relationship... Only I found while in the relationship she was more clingy and dependent towards me and...

But I find myself reliving every moment in my mind... the more I try not to think about it, the more I do think about it. Even when I've exhausted all the "what ifs".. and negative thinking, I go...

I'm also having worries of, well... last time, as I said there was a huge gap where I had nothing to do with her and I made a promise to myself back then that I'd never have anything to do with her...

Thanks kitkat for the reply. I consider myself a good looking guy, hygenic and in pretty good shape and pretty intelligent. I don't like to toot my own horn though as I hate conceited and cocky...

Yes I was diagnosed with it about 6 years ago and I have had treatment in the past. I had stopped seeing my 'doctor' about 2 years and change ago. I was doing good for awhile until this person came...

Well it's now been 2 months since we broke up and I've unfortunately been "on and off" with NC...

Every once in awhile I cave in and send a text just saying "hey whats up" and just the typical...

Forget this girl... I know exactly how you feel, and I'm a huge hypocrite as I'm still dwelling on my own experience (I wish they would unlock my thread after they merged it so I can get some help...

They last about a month or two and fail... on average... It's just using someone to not feel lonely

Dude... she was with a MARRIED man, SHE had sex with a man who was married, not separated... not divorced... MARRIED... think about that for a second... You went as far as to say you'd love to marry...

Yes but the thing is you will meet someone who is totally different than him AND every other person you have ever been with. You are putting him on a pedistal that you shouldn't be putting him on......

Don't ever make the same mistake I did... which was going back repeatedly to a person with a child because of the past emotions and familiarity... I did it four times and the result is me being more...

Thanks chuck for cleaning up the thread and Sam thank you very much for your reply and advice I really appreciate it. This whole thing is really affecting my life to the point I cannot function...

Your correct, but I'm not attempting to treat my OCD here. This is entirely to do with the relationship, I suppose I'm basically asking for suggestions of other things to occupy my mind and to work...

I have had professional help before, and taken things to help with it. Medication does not work for some people, it actually makes it worse I found. The method of dealing with OCD is called CBT which...

I'll start this post by saying that I suffer from extreme obsessive compulsive disorder... I have made a few posts in the past pertaining to this issue with this person, my ex... It was a very odd...

I'm interested to know how your doing d6mi I know way too well how your feeling

It's scary how on this site there's been a few people who came from almost spot on situations as I did, with the only major difference being the # of times with that person...

She broke up with...

^ This is the perfect response, wow... pretty much literally nothing else can be said. I came out of a situation like you, almost EXACTLY like you, its creepy in a way... I know precisely how you...

Well I unfortunately suffer from OCD so I take these things a lot worse but... what I learned is that no matter how much you love a person or how much they may love you... If there's going back and...

Yep... that post above me is the answer to "What should I do?"... why keep stressing yourself over this, what's the gain from it, how is it helping you? It isn't... I came from a semi-similar...

I realize you're a caring guy, as am I... but you need to stop doing this to yourself, and I need to take my own advice as well... All it does is cause you more pain and strain on your mind than its...

But who cares if something is wrong? She is not your responsibility anymore, as harsh as that sounds, let this other guy worry about it, let her friends and family worry about it... it isn't your...

Basically, she was prodding, ignore it... and YES it's a bad idea, you cannot be friends with her, not with an emotional history with her like that, no way is that a smart idea... you need her out...

Can't say it any better than the post above me, NC and forget about her, your young and you have your whole life ahead of you

As soon as 'She said she wanted time to "Be 22" and "Live her life".'...

You've been doing the right thing following NC, you've done a better job at it than me... I admire that... I came out of a situation where over the course of 8 years I tried working things out with a...

Thank you very much for the kind and encouraging responses... I've been through this before with the same person and as I said it seemed so much easier in the past.. this time it just racks my...

On top of that though, if you really did love this girl and you believed she loved you... don't be resentful or spiteful about the break up, you can love someone and they can love you inside but not...

I know very well how great NC works as I did it quite well for almost 3 years with a girl until last year when it was broken when she called and we tried to make it work again, well obviously it...

Dude that's why you don't talk to her, you didn't need to know about that... its not serving any purpose but causing you to think more and rack your brain... I am going through a similar situation as...

Why do this to yourself seriously...


Once a cheater always a cheater... are you going to be so forgiving when he does it again with a ring on his finger? Or when there's a child involved

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That's the problem though, your trying to steer him into that direction it sounds like... me and my ex-girlfriend had a "distance" for 2 years, we were together twice in the past, 3rd time she came...

Don't mouth her off, don't even think about her... as much as you may want to and as much as you may think she deserves it.. I know exactly how you feel being that I just got out of a somewhat...

Oh one thing I forgot... dude do you think she is letting this bother her as much as its bothering you? That's an honest question... like do you think she's letting this pray on her mind and thinking...

talaniman is 100% correct... I believe it was you who posted in my thread a few weeks ago... I'm a deep thinker with OCD and wear my heart on my sleeve... I just broke up with a girl I was with 3...

Ok an update... today is the first day of NC, I've fought the urge to text her all day, its extremely difficult based on our emotional past... I'm doing my best not to give in as I know it will only...

Thanks to everyone for the replies, especially talaniman...

To answer your question I am 25, we first met each other when I was only 17... and your pretty much perfectly right about everything...

Long story short, me and this girl I truly love were together twice before, the last time was the third time... we just broke up on the weekend. Its difficult to say who broke up with who, it was...

Dude, do NOT hang out with her. Do you honestly think you could hang out with her without the akward feeling of not being able to kiss/hug her anymore? Or show affection... leaving away from her...

Your perfectly right... I got to that point to. The only difference is with this girl we were together twice past, this was the third time... (flashing lights I know, after 2 times I should've...

Wow you almost described exactly the relationship I was JUST in.

Seeing each other less with her being busy with stuff like work/school/kid, wanting the things like affection and her not giving...