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Choice A: a man who is addicted to work and video games, says he doesn't love you as much as your daughter, a home in shambles, financially unstable. But he's got a great personality. And he's...

If you have expressed your love to her and proposed marriage, she may be in shock right now. Give her a little time to think and be patient. The worst thing that will happen is that she'll say no and...

Three to four years of your life. That's 1,095 to 1,460 days spent loving someone who is not returning your love.

I'm sure there are reasons you're stuck and unable to move on. As this is a major...

Thank you so much for the encouragement/ideas, I really needed it. I went to the Y today but did not yet find the courage to swim. I did, however, manage to fight some of my fear and get onto an...

Does anyone have any thoughts or tips on combatting fears? I could really use the help!

I've loved swimming ever since I was little. I've had a wide number of weight problems and emotional problems and am currently 5'3" and 257 lbs. I decided to start an exercise program and joined the...

Thanks for the kind words. But I really think your words would not be so compassionate if you knew the truth. For example (and these are just examples), if I said I murdered someone when I was 14...

Thanks so much for your help. I deleted my follow-up posts, I felt very exposed and vulnerable. I'm obviously not ready to deal with this, even on an anonymous level. Thank you for the compassion...

Write out a list of things you love to do (or used to love to do). Force yourself to do some of those things every day.

Also, force yourself to do basic things every single day like: take a...

I am a woman in my early 30s. I am in psychotherapy for a variety of issues. Depression was crippling me. I have an issue I am unable to talk to anyone about. I did some very bad things as a...

I am a single, morbidly obese woman in my early 30s and I have an intense fear of social situations. I have skipped family events and graduations. I have skipped social work functions. I have...

The bottom line in this situation is that it is WRONG. What you're doing is not right in any way and it's going to lead to heartache. I've been where you are, so I know. I was a side dish to a...

The #1 life principle is Do No Harm. Therefore, you must not do anything with this man that could potentially harm his wife, his children, him, and you. I've had an affair with a married man and...

You've made your feelings known to your boyfriend and he doesn't care. Time to either accept the situation and stop complaining about it or find another boyfriend who respects your feelings.

I do...

I think the best thing you can do is make yourself happy. That doesn't mean break up with him, but it means that once you feel you're a whole person, you will bring love into your life.

Your...

Phil, with all due respect, I think your "call me if you want" note is weak. If I got that from an ex, I'd ignore it. That simply does not let her know how much you want her. Saying that maybe you...

Oooh, this is so romantic! I love it! Since you don't know where this is going to go, give it your all. Show up with her favorite flowers. Give her a card or letter. Invite her to dinner on...

I agree with the above posters. Do not compare your grief to anyone else's. Allow yourself to feel whatever sadness you feel. Pain cannot be avoided. You must go through it in order to get...

Lenovo, you know, I'm having second thoughts about you and your girlfriend. You label her fantasies as "weird" and "strange." Then, at the end of your question, you worry that she's trying to set...

Wow, I have the same fantasies. Give it at least one try for her sake. Even if it's a turnoff for you, I bet seeing how turned on she is, will make a big difference. However, if it's traumatic for...

Hello, again. I did a small bit of research and found that using a mild, unscented soap is best for cleaning the outside of the vagina.

As for cleaning the vagina itself, it is not necessary...

I use Dial or Ivory soap. I'll do some research on whether it's dangerous to do so. It's not like you're cleaning inside your vagina and cervix; you're cleaning the labia and mounds pubis.

If...

Stay far away from this woman! The age difference isn't the problem. Her marital status is an issue. First, it's wrong to have an affair. Second, you have no idea who her husband is and what...

Yes, he's using you. All the signs are there. He's sweet when he wants sex. He ignores you when he doesn't. You're a booty call. You're his f@#k buddy. Either accept it for what it is or cut...

Give her the number. She doesn't trust you anymore and therefore doesn't believe what you have to say about the affair. Do not call The Other Woman and warn her that your wife will be calling.
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Dear Help82: You just need to stop. You need to stop taking all calls. You need to suffer through the pain of this loss. You need to let your heart break and then mend. You must do this. ...

Just thought I'd give everyone an update. I'm going to my psychologist weekly and he is trying to lead me into deep discussions about my abusive father. I'm having a hard time discussing some...

Your ex-girlfriend sounds very, very confused and her inconsistency is causing confusion for you. She initiated the breakup and then came back but wanted to start over as friends. You couldn't go...

Ask her out and see what she says.

Your boyfriend was very honest with you when he said the relationship was a "phase," "a fling," and he sees no future. Appreciate it (although it hurts) and move on.

My heart breaks for you. I've never been married, I've never had children, so I don't know what to recommend. There's no easy answer.

I grew up in a home where there was physical/emotional...

I finally went in for my yearly physical and the doctor's ordered tests associated with obesity (cholesterol, diabetes, etc.). He spoke to me at length about my excessive weight and said it's time...

At the risk of offending, I think a man in love should treat his woman like a child... now let me explain before you throw rotten tomatoes and sulfuric eggs. What I mean is that children love and...

Oh, after you fight the fear and ask her out, reward yourself no matter what she says. If you were a woman, I'd suggest a manicure or new lipgloss. But I don't know how men reward themselves these...

If you're asking if love is going to happen for you, I don't know. I'm sure there are common traits that women have that find true love. I imagine that they're healthy, happy, busy, fulfilled,...

At this point, the best you can do is take good care of yourself for your unborn baby's sake. Make sure you get child support from your ex regardless of how much or how little he wants to be...

Another vote for Booty.

If you want something, you're going to have to go after it. Do your part to make it happen and then the rest is out of your hands.

I'd suggest finding a time where she's relaxed and not busy and...

I don't think this guy is interested in you at this time. He turned down your date offer and hasn't called. You know he hasn't had a partner in one year and you're not sure of his sexual...

It sounds like your entire world is revolving around this guy. That's a large part of the problem. You need to force yourself to do things that are good for you. I mean, get out a piece of paper...

My heart goes out to you. You're in a lot of pain right now due to this breakup and the rejection. It's obvious that you love your ex-girlfriend's little boy and feel like he's your son. It's also...

You're blinded by love; you do not see the truth. He is a liar. He lies. He lies like it's nothing. Lies flow easily from him. And he's a convincing liar, too. That's why he's been able to pull...

Thank you for the great support! This board was instrumental in giving me direction. I'm still doing unhealthy, destructive things, however.

I'm struggling quite a bit, things are not peaches...

I've started doing some research on past issues... I grew up in a home with domestic violence and I'm discovering how it colored my world. My issues with men, food, sex, friendships, trust, etc. can...

Things I did this week that are good for me: I went to my optometrist for contact lenses. I went to the salon to get my eyebrows shaped. I babysat for my cute nephew who's almost crawling. I made...

Lilliandiana, I'm sending lots of strength and energy your way. You're so in love with this person who does not deserve undying devotion! You're simply not seeing clearly at all. You're not...

At some point, you have to gather together the courage and just do what needs to be done. Almost everyone has urged you to do what's right and break up with this married fellow. This is a situation...

I went to see my primary care physician today to get his take on my feelings of late. He believes that my weight and poor sleeping habits are causing my exhaustion and feelings of being overwhelmed...

I feel like I have a lot in common with you. I never thought of myself as a bad person when I was involved in a 19-month affair. I thought no one was being hurt. It was fun, good times for him and...

Big victory today: I made it to work! I called in sick Monday to Thursday but forced myself to go Friday. I treated myself to a mocha latte on the way. I drove right past work (on purpose) and was...