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Enough about the religion issue... that is not my concern... me and my girlfriend are in agreement about this... thats what counts

After 3 days of no contact, my mom sends me a message saying...

Dude, she is changing willingly... she ALSO thinks it is easier to raise kids in one religion so that they won't be confused... we can teach about both... I isn't forcing anything, in fact it was HER...

Yeah, she is only changing to make things easier, but we will teach both religions to children... this is not an issue

The issue is about walking out when they told me to choose... I know I did...

Religion issue: we decided that she will ocnvert to my religion to make it easier on the kids, and in hopes maybe my parents would come around. However, we decided to teach our kids about both...

I can live without my family... I love them, but we were never very close... I have been away from them for 3 years, we speak once a week on the phone, and see each other once a year... im OK with...

Lol... slapshot! You know me ;) my mom has cried in front of me (of course I also did), but I still stood my ground

I firmly believe what all you guys are saying in that life is short, and do what...

Been one year together guys! All great.. but now part 2 of our saga :(... check out my new post: would you marry someone from different religion/culture? Thanks

Ive been with my girlfriend for almost one year now. We really love each other, and we seem very compatible, we have great fun, we get along, we don't fight, we don't piss each other off, we can...

So far things are great... almost forgot how REAL relationships were like ;)... her family came to visit her from ukraine,, went out for dinner... they like me, etc. nothing new to say.. all great,...

Well we had about 4 months of a relationship, then 4 months of an open relationship, and now back to a relationship... and she was always hesitant about being serious, and just 10 days ago she was...

Thanks guys... yeah, we are very happy now... we went to a friends birthday party tonight, and everyone there could see us happy together; holding hands, hugging, dancing close, etc

And of course...

Well... this is what happened... after her messaging me and me not answering, she called a couple of times... I still didn't answer...

Then she shows up at my house! So I of course invite her...

I guarantee you that I will not be the one to initiate contact... no way... I wouldn't even know what to call and say! And I know that if I'm the one to call, especially after her lying to me and...

Yeah.. I know I am doing the right thing...

"she will only know ur value when she misses u"... I guess she was getting comfortable knowing that she was never going to lose me... so NC it is... I...

She sent me a message today... it is a religious holiday... so she sent me a message wishing me a good holiday

I didn't reply...

Its going to take more than that for me to consider talking to...

I am.. I had fun with my friends today... I really am OK... I feel fine and was dancing and talking to this girl all night in the club and got her number

But you keep making it seem that she is a...

I'm interested to hear why you guys think she hasn't replied yet? I think its because she is shy, ashamed, caught red-handed, and doesn't know what to say, and she is thinking about what to say/do......

Of course no trust is no relationship... and I am giving it a break... I wrote that message explaining everything... that I'm sick of games and of lying and sharing her... if she realizes she can't...

Haha! Thanks... stay tuned ;)

And a question... if she feels like she did nothing wrong or that its normal because I lied to etc... then why didn't she write smthg back?

Not writing anything back for 12 hrs means that some...

Just to elaborate... yes, I met girls, and flirted, talked to them etc... but nothing serious... for her to lie to me and see him at 1.30 in a hotel means that there is smthg bigger

Again, I don't...

I agree that we both played games... yes... but when did I ever let it get to a point of a relationship with someone else?? And lying! And cancelling plans with me to see someone else at 1.30 am... ...

Also.. she hasn't replied yet...

It is obviously because she doesn't know what to say... if she didn't care, she would at least write back "ok, its too bad, wish u the best too...hope it could...

For the last time... I only slept with 2 tamales... and that was when we were I na grey area... after she told me that she was talkking to her ex of 10yrs again... I NEVER slept with anyone when...

I don't get it? I finally tell her that I'm sick of sharing her and playing games and to take care and goodbye...

What else could I have said?

If she calls.. its simple: u ready for smthg...

Thanks for the words of encouragement.. appreciate it

Yeah... I didn't believe that she was going to end it at 1.30 am either

I think she was shocked that I caught her red handed, panicked, and...

This is all interesting, but listen to what finally happened:

I ENDED IT

I saw her today, and we had a nice time, we had the usual kissing and making out, etc. then I askd her what she was...

She messaged me in the morning asking me how my night was... so I called her.. I asked her out to lunch, but she said that she couldn't because the guy that bought her the watch (who she apparently...

You think if Heidi Klum came to me, I would tell her "no, sorry, im in love with this girl, or i really like this girl, etc.?" of course not...

Its poor logic..

Look at the facts... she wants...

I can understand it also to some extent... so it is a question of: do I wait around until she is ready to commit, or do I just let go and hope when she is ready she will call?

I know it is on some...

She didn't ask just to be friends... she said she is not ready for smthg serious but doesn't want to lose me... so we ended up in this sort of grey area/open relationship

We act like a couple, but...

I appreciate all the posts and advice, but I feel closer to slapshot's statements

U say I have to commit first, and then she will follow... its not simple... she KNOWS that I want a relationship...

I wish! But I also got some people saying that "she will meet someone else, she can afford to wait"

This is what I'm wondering... if these past few days were just an emotional surge because of her...

Took her and her aunt to dinner at the burj al arab hotel last night... spent 1000 USD! At the stroke of midnight I surprised her with a birthday cake... then we went for a drink... she told me that...

Dubai is a great place man... and if you do visit, do look me up...

But I can say the same thing about u.. I would love to g oto Boston or New York and see the night life there...

UPDATE: she...

By the way, I'm 27, she turns 25 in 2 days... bought her gifts totalling 2000 USD today and taking her and her aunt out to dinner... im so sweet :)

There is never any pleasing you guys! I actually go out and try to meet some girls and do my own thing, I get a bashing... when I stay with her or go with her for lunch, you say I'm a lap dog! I...

None of your business is smthg, and lying is smthg else... anyway, advice I got from some friends is to not care/think about it... just concentrate on OUR time together

Went to the concert...

Enken, I agreed with your post... I should do exactly what you said and worry less about the other guy and more on the time she spends with me...

But I have a question here (for everyone), since...

By the way, I noticed smthg... when the guy calls when I'm with her, she either doesn't answer or answers and cuts the conversation short

I do the same when a girl/tamale calls me... but the...

Your right... I don't know... maybe because from day 1 I wanted to have a serious relationship with her, and she was hesitant... maybe because for 7 mnths I wanted to sleep with her, but she wasn't...

Thanks for the "ur not a bad a guy" comment, talaniman.. ur right ;)

Its true... I can't win, if winning is having a serious real relationship with her... it seems she doesn't want one or is not...

Takes one to know one, eh... guess that makes 3 of us

I guess we will see... the idiot leaves tmrw... so we'll see how she acts when he is not here... all I know is that SHE called me today

I'm going to see her tmrw or most probably Friday (have a...

I'd like a piece of that as well!

But you have to define what you mean by "leaves for someone else"... do you mean she gets in a serious relationship with someone else? Like bf/gf or more? Or do...

I'm not the only one that is contradicting himself... didnt you guys also say that I should not get angry or bothered about the new guy or the fact that she is dating him because we agreed to an open...

Bro, its not my definition.. trust me... I was either single or I na relationship for 5 yrs

It's the first time I encounter this sort of thing?

I took emotions and hope into an open...

Of course not... no one wants to be number 2.. but we are both not ready to let go yet

U think this will last much longer? I don't...

I'm really interested to see where it goes with this...

Of course I care if she is sleeping with someone else... just like she is probably wondering what happened with me tonight at the pub

But isn't that what "we're free to see other ppl" is about?

What do you want... for me to end it because she is dating someone else?

To the new guy, she is also dating me...

We both agreed that we would see other people, but we "will always have each...