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No of course she didn't sleep with him I wouldn't have gave her the time of day sorry I should have made that clear... im not excusing what she did I still think it was wrong and she said it was...

Thanks that just made me feel wonderful.

I'm not trying to excuse what she done she is really sorry for it... im just trying to understand how guys have been with her when they have just being...

Hi Everyone,

Im wondering if you can help me here... what are subconscious thoughts??

My story in short is when I was just "seeing" a girl ske kissed another guy at new year, I decided not to...

Thanks for the reply

What is EFT??

Hi everyone,

Im from the UK and I'm beginning to become owrried about the way I'm behaving... I have been teased about the way I look since I was at high school. I have an underbite in my jaw and...

I sent the below response to a relationship advice site and he has came back with this response

My question - So what your saying is she is trying to get away with it but in fact liked this guy?? ...

I agree, I never would have went straight into boyfriend/girlfriend status hence why we agreed to officially start seeing each other... she said she would never have dated anyone else when seeing me...

Just looking back here but "official" do you mean ofically boyfriend/girlfriend??

I took "seeing someone" as officall

What is everyone's veiws on these two status??

But I asked her why it happened... I don't understand how staying with her would have made me understand why that happened...

It's as if everyone thinks I'm mad... I honestly wouldn't have...

Tal what do you mean?? Are you saying she could have been lying to me??

Im not mad believe it or not lol... I have read the posts... But does anyone understand that she is against going with others when you are "seeing someone" which is making me think how could this...

Don't you think its strange that she agreed you should only kiss the one person you are seeing someone yet she went and done it though?

A lot of people see "seeing someone" as the same as a...

Yeah I know you are correct... My decision has been made and I will call the relationship off... If she was under the impression that we could go with other people then I could understand her...

We were having fun before all this and it would have continued if she had given it the chance... why risk losing a guy that u have agreed to see and obviously like for a kiss... I KNOW IT SEEMS LIKE...

Well as far as I'm concerned when you agree to start officially seeing each other you are committed to that person only and you are working on it to see if you can take the next step into a...

She has given me reasons it happened... she preaches she didn't like this guy more... if I can somehow believe in my own world she didn't like him then maybe we have a chance... Everything about her...

I know what your sayong and thanks for taking the time to read and respond... I really don't want to throw something away that can be good... if we hadn't agreed to say we were seeing each other I...

Well I have read other people's problems and so many people say "once a cheat always a cheat"... so I guess I have to finish with her... it's such as shame evertyhting was perfect before this came...

Thank for your response... my self esteem is low and her doing this isn't made it better... she has used a reason as to why it happened saying that every other guy she has seen in the past has went...

Im feeling insecure as this guy is quite good looking and I keep thinking in my head she liked him more than me... I wish I could stop thinking like that

It is tradition to do that at New Year but you shouldn't be doing it when seeing someone, this was the point I was trying to make. She has never done that to anyone else when she has been seeing...

Maybe she took it as a feeling of rejection cause I didn't go...

She told me what happened... Yes I agree I should have went when she asked me to the party but I had already made plans with friends

Thanks... You know I feel you have been the only one who has realised what I have been talking about... I don't know if people were clear that we had agreed to see each other i.e. we were now...

Yeah I agree dating you can see other people as you are keeping your options open... We agreed after dating for 3 weeks to start seeing each other but did not mention anything about a relationship...

I agree this happens at new year parties i.e. a peck on the mouth,cheek no big deal... but she kissed the guy full on for lets say a minute and she said she moved away as she said to him "i can't do...

Tal, I 100% agree with you I really do... My clouded judgement lies with when you agree to go on a few dates then all is cool, you just go with the flow and see what happens, hence you are free to go...

I have been reading this page and for some reason I feel it is linked to my problem... People are talking about these two dating and its wrong that she has another guy on the go... so why is it that...

This is the part that is making me a little confused we agreed to start seeing each other which to me seems like we have agreed to be together... She changed her staus on bebo to seeing someone which...

I just don't want to finish it and realise I was wrong and she genuinly can be trusted... I honesty don't think she would do it if she met someone else

Tal I agree that we went out on a couple of dates to get to know one another better and that was fine... I agree that she could date others then if she chose as it wasn't discussed... what I was...

Please may I add that we were casually dating for 3 weeks and then when sat down 2 days before New Year I asked what was happening with us, we then discussed and agreed to start seeing each other but...

There isn't more to the story... if I'm ina relationship with her I will be paranoid all the time now... I feel sick, can't eat can't sleep with all this... All my friends who are girls say if she...

We were dating, we just hadn't agreed to say we were officially in a relationship... we went on 4 or 5 dates before the New Year and I trated her so well, taking her for dinner buying her a little...

Well we had a chat and it semmed to be going OK she seemed to be honest about everything... we were talking and she seemd awkward about something... after me demanding she tell me she did admit that...

Tal,

I feel if I had more self esteem this wouldn't bother me or if I seen this guy as no pyhsical threat I would not bother... In relation to your question I feel I should talk to her about it...

Tal,

Im not bothered if the guy was cracking on I'm just worried she was intersted in him and wanted the attention from him...

Im just worried why SHE CHOSE to spend time with him instead of...

Tal thanks for the reply... What has confused me is "Talon2006" & "Isneezefunny" comments... it seems they think I have a point and I should be annoyed with her sitting next to another guy in a...

I really am confused here I don't want to mess up what could be a good thing with this girl but I can't get out my head what her intentions and thought were about sitting alone in a room with this...

Well what happened was I was in the kitchen tallking to one of her friends and then every1appeared in the kitchen. I then noticed after 10-15 minutes she and this other guy weren't there I walked...

I have sat down the past few days and tried to work out in my head all the possibilities which is causing my really poor self esteem. I have decided to go back and seek help and will make an...

I know I sound silly the way I'm behaving its all down to my lack of self esteem... I feel as if cause my friends sister warned my girlfriend off cause she liked this guy she went for second choice...

She said she doesn't have a problem if you kissed another girl this could indicate she isn't ready for something serious and just wants it to be casual. She also said she need stime to get everything...

I guess no one has advice on this matter. If you do any advice good or bad would be greatly appreciated?? I really need to try and sort this out before it's too late.

Thanks
Tyne

I agree with you and the other people who have kindly gave advice, that I do need help.

This girl could easy be "The one" she is pretty, loving, funny everything someone could hope for and to be...

Thank you to all of you for your advice it feels good to have you guys to chat with I sometimes get a cloud in my judgement and can't see sense. Im not saying my problems can just go away but I will...

Yeah everything you say makes sense it just takes words from someone else to make me see reality... Another problem I have is when she may be away talking to other people and not standing with me I...

Thank you very much for royur kind reply... I guess I'm just not used to having someone who is kind and friendly and this makes me think the worst i.e. something isn't right... The point you made...

Hey,

Story is I have started a relationship with a girl who I think is great and I want to make a go of things... The trouble I am having is adjusting to things. All the time in my past...

Thanks guys I think I may have done enough I don't want to overdo it either, Hopefully everything goes to plan, fingers crossed