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Broke up 6 months ago. Things are incredible now!!

Yeah, there was those couple of months where I thought my life was over, but WOW how time can change things. Life really does and has moved...

LOL.. I haven't been on for a while cause well, things are going real good. But Rome, I just had to say, I love your tag line at the bottom. So true!

You did the right thing. Stop concentrating or concerning yourself with how he feels or what he is thinking.

Take of yourself and stay away from him. Don't contact him and stop allowing him...

Well, its been 5 months since breakup. Wow, has it really only been that long. Can't really talk about NC because there has been some communication every couple of weeks initiated on his part. ...

Thanks I know I did the right thing. I just wanted someone to tell me I'm not a b*tch. : )

Its just I feel fine now. I'm happy, dating, loving life. I absolutely now see that us breaking up was...

So, you can read my other posts but my ex boyfriend broke up with me almost 5 months ago because he "didn't want to be in a relationship anymore." We'd been together for 4 years and the subject of...

Sorry to hear Rome. In this case I think the best thing to do is try to explain to her exactly what you just told us. You at least need to clear the air at this point. After that, the ball is in...

Bigbird - Don't worry about me. I'm not crazy... or at least that crazy! I would never get back involved with that drama.

Sneezy - haha I know! When I first opened the present, I was like "oh no, I don't know if i should accept this." then I was like "screw it, i earned this!" And I told him that.

It hasn't...

In a very weird turn of events, after 4 months apart the ex and I saw each other last weekend at his request. He's been trying to call me for weeks but I've been avoiding it. So, last weekend we...

I don't think it matters how many partners you have or haven't had. The point is to find someone who looks at "sex" in a similar light as yourself. This goes for both girls and guys. If you look...

I hear you bigbird. I started wearing this diamond necklace my ex gave to me this past christmas. Best gift he ever gave me. I refused to wear it after we broke up but then last week I saw it my...

Ex called me again today, twice. That makes 5 times in the past week. I never answered any of them. Today he sent me a text that said "sometimes, i miss you :-'

Agh! Ofcourse you miss me, we...

Ex has been calling. Great, right! NO! More of a nuisance then anything.

Broke up almost 4 months ago after 4 years together. Haven't spoken in about 2 months. Now, this week he's called...

Closure is a fallacy! Usually "closure" equates to hearing things you probably would rather not hear. Trust all of us who've been there. Trying to get "closure" usually just winds up dragging on...

Awww, Tal! That actually made me cry a little bit! Ur tough love helps a lot and I hope everyone appreciates it. I know I do.

Now, 3 months post breakup, its unbelievable how good things are! ...

Ok, I just read some of your other posts so I got the details of your breakup.

Basically, DON'T ever sleep with an ex... as long as they're still an ex. She's acting this way cause she can. She...

What are the details of the breakup? Who broke up with you? That'll help explain a lot.

God, what happened to the NC calendar? It use to be a bunch of us crybabies on here... and now no more of that. Everyone seems to be doing AWESOME! Yay for us!

Who knows what day of NC I'm on...

Yeah, its been over 2 months since we saw each other and a little over a month since we last spoke. Doing really well actually. The thing that absolutely makes it easier is not talking/seeing them....

I hear you westy and f104. I too indulged a bit too much last night and had the feelings of wanting to reach out to my ex.. but then I reminded myself that its not HIM I miss. It's a relationship I...

I had all my guy friends telling me that guys expect sex on the 3rd date. So I waited until the 6th date. I guess at the base of it, that's really what I'm feeling. Like maybe I did it before I...

I should mention the past 2 dates we've had sex, spent the night together, and gone out for breakfast the next morning. I guess if I sleep with you its assumed that I'm interested in you. : )

I like him. What I know of him so far. I'd like for us to get to know each other more, yes definitely. I don't want to jump into anything. At the same time, I don't want to waste my time on...

Just got back in to the dating scene after a 4 year relationship and I really don't know how to do this. How long should he be chasing me? And how long until I should be making the initiatives with...

Life's a rollercoaster. You get the highs and the lows. You just got to go along for the ride.

So, yes relationships are worth it. Every failed relationship teaches us something and helps us...

I feel in my heart & not trying to be naïve that he does love me a lot but we are probably not the right match for each other... [/QUOTE]

Listen to what you just said. That's a very wise and...

And here's some practical advice. As you know, we broke up around the same time so we're in a somewhat similar place in the post-breakup calendar and I truly believe these are some things that I did...

I know the feelings of despair you can feel, especially in the morning. And for whatever reason, the mind wanders back to the ex and we start playing out in our minds what they're up to, what...

Bigbird - I see things a lot like you too. Now, I'm like "why did I put up with so much". The last couple of months we were together I kept thinking the same thing... "why are we staying together?...

God, almost 3 months post break-up and things are really starting to clear up in my head. Meaning I'm really starting to see my past relationship through unfiltered eyes.

Funny story. My ex...

NNG - Glad to hear the good days are outnumbering the bad days. That's healing and growth.

I haven't been on here much lately cause I've actually been keeping busy building my new life. Almost 3...

Yeah, I really hate all this "texting", its so impersonal and I swear I don't trust that they don't get lost sometimes. Why don't you call him? Just once. If nothing, then just give up. Its just...

NNG - I agree with bigbird. Its tough but it sounds like she's trying to use you for her own ego boost. She wants to know that she can still have an impact on you emotionally and she's lonely and...

You need to be an active participant in your recovery. Don't just expect to think or do things just like always and you'll magically get over it. You need to get it your mind that you're going to...

Hey all -

Its been awhile but I'm back. You all seem to be doing really good and I'm so happy to see such a strong and truly caring group of complete strangers. Hang in there. There's light at...

I'm in a similar situation. I met this guy I'm seeing now about a month ago. 2 months after the end of my long-term relationship (4 years). And I don't really know how to play this "game". For...

I wouldn't be surprised if emo was back on this site under another name cause the same thing happened again.

I was on last summer after the 1st breakup with my ex under a different name. Then...

Well a little over 2 months since we broke up. Can't/don't count NC anymore since we actually spoke twice the weekend (he called 5 times).

It was weird. We just chatted like old friends. I...

Thanks, spion_kop. That's exactly how I'm starting to feel again. Like I have "control" of myself. Its good to start to feel like I have that back.

But, I'm not going to pat myself on the back...

Well, I broke NC! But I'm remarkably okay.

For some reason, I guess I felt like testing the waters to see how good I actually am.

I called him and his phone was off so it went right to...

From a girl's perspective, here are some of fav's for mending a broken heart and giving us all some hope:

- The Holiday (Kate Winslet and Cameron Diaz. Love Kate, hate Cam, but she's actually...

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I'm glad to see you didn't respond yet. I understand you not wanting her to feel bad/guilty but your actions should not be dictated by her feelings. Think of it this way:

When she...

God is everyone on here from New Jersey! I'm in Jersey City. Hudson County representing!

Well, I wish one of my friends would play tennis with me. Whenever I want to clear my head of stuff, I take a shower and put on a face mask. I've been extremely clean lately. : ) haha But my skin...

No, you're not being dumb. You're being honest.

Trust me. I know if I was in the same situation, no matter what anyone says, I would still eventually respond. For the same reasons you sight. ...

BTW, when I'm myself in these situations I wish I was as able to think so rationally about my own actions. Just goes to show how the heart and head can work in complete opposite.

Ok, if you HAVE to send an e-mail, I agree with what plonak says. Just do that one line and nothing else. Don't mention the Facebook at all.

However, I still think it might be a bad idea. ...

Agh, bigbird. That's a tough one. I hear you about you "knew it was coming". Anytime my ex has contacted me I felt like I knew for a couple of days it was coming and then it comes and you're like,...

Please, I could use some happy stories.

Broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years about 2 months ago. Been doing pretty good. But the past couple of days have just started feeling a little down. ...