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I agree, and I also agree with Homegirl, above. If he really is just mean and nasty, and you want to leave, do it. Life is too short. You're still very young... and life is also too long to live that...

Bianca, how's the girly thing going? I was responding to your original post and then I saw the date.



Here's the post I typed before I saw the date on your original post:



It's okay. You...

What's your question?

Me on top in the position that works for me does not work for him. His erection seems to wanes if I try to lay on top of him and basically do CAT with him on the bottom. Meaning, laying on him and...

Should you? That's up to you.

You do understand that he told you that he likes being single? And that he's likely behaving like a single young man while he's abroad? And he wants his cake and eat...

We do have conversations about it. If I implied that elsewhere that wasn't my intention. However, 'conversations' about it don't seem to go anywhere. He's either just depressed or angry about it....

Totally normal, as I understand it. I think I noticed mine increasing in my early/ mid-thirties. Now I'm 47 and my sex drive has not diminished at all.

I know that you could be right. We seemed to communicate pretty well in the beginning, even when I was having trouble coming out of my cave. I was single and hardly dated for four years (by...

Sorry, maybe I was unclear. This was in reference to a previous boyfriend, the only other man I've ever slept with that didn't dive right in down there.




I don't know. He seems to have quite...

Yes, I have told him many times that I immensely enjoy having sex with him even if I don't orgasm. But the truth is that it can't go that way forever, all the time.

At his request, and my desire,...

Fingers, yes, with lube or saliva, and without anything. This definitely gets the blood pumping before intercourse but I've never been able to orgasm during intercourse due to a man stimulating my...

Okay, it's probably worth bringing up to him. Still not sure how I'm going to feel having my female parts covered with a protective layer as if there's something wrong with them.



I don't know...

This is something that we need to talk about, in general, I guess.

I'm not much for watching a lot of television (as of a few months ago, I don't even have cable/ TV at my home). If I am watching...

Interesting thoughts and comments about giving it time. Does this actually work for people? The only time that I've ever been in a relationship and the sex was mediocre, and I was hoping that it...

Enigma, have you used a dental dam/ sex dam?

If so, did it feel right to you, physically?

I can't imagine that it wouldn't make me feel a bit unattractive and undesirable to have a man cover...

Enigma, I don't know if he has ever used one in the past but for now I will assume No since he hasn't mentioned it. I've never used one, either.

Thanks for the suggestion. I'll definitely look...

I don't see an ultimatum like that as a good thing.

No one likes to be put in a corner with an ultimatum. Not only are most people likely to 'rebel' when presented with an ultimatum, if he...

I realize that sex is not everything, especially as we get older. Let's be real, though: I'm not “older” yet, and, barring any medical conditions, I hope to have a good sex life well into “older”....

Both are correct assumptions.

Not sure where you're going with this but I'm curious so I'll add:


We currently live nearly three hours away from each other. Although, since I live in a...

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D is a very personable, communicative man. He is very attentive to my needs, overall. Very much so. Food, drink, blankets if I'm cold, is the sun in my eyes, am I tired, etc.

It's...

I don't really understand what you're getting at. Also, I did not say that there is no sex until it is 'my way'.

My boyfriend and I are in our mid-40s. We've been acquaintances for about 12 years and started dating about three months ago. Because we already knew each other and liked each other as friendly...