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I sill haven't had a chance to talk to him, but I'm sure it will be soon. Some days are worst than others. Today is one of the bad days. All I can think about is how much our life is going to change,...

Thank you for all the great advise. I will post again!

Thas is such a great idea. I know if I give him heads up or at least let him know that I want to talk to him, before I actually do he will not be as upset and probably listen more than just walk away...

You are right!! I will talk to him. As stupid as it sounds I just wanted to make sure his mother was back in town, since she was gone for several weeks and I knew he was going to need the support. I...

I know, you are both right, I should know better and not let him treat me this way. I just... He talks about all of our goals as if nothing really happened, I'm sure he doesn't really know that I...

I don't even know if I should even keep trying, or just give up...
I've been married for 13 yrs. And have two beautiful kids. I thought we had a wonderful marriage until last year. Last year all of...

I am so sorry, I googled "AMHD" and it gave me some medical terms, so I was confused. Thanks! I mentioned him this website, and I told him how much it has helped me, so we'll see if he gets on it.

I'm sorry but what is AMHD? Thank you! If anything this has help me realize a lot of things about me, I am learning a lot in this painful process, but I know that things happen for a reason and I'm...

Thank you so much. You have not idea how this website has helped me. When I first found it, I was suicidal. I was such a coward to even think about it but I couldn't talk to anybody about it, or at...

Before I go on, I wanted to tell you how things were before all this crap. Both neither my husband or I had any opposite sex friend that we kept in contact. Once we got married we both just agreed on...

You are right! This is not going away, but I'm such a chicken and I'm just dreading this. I can't help it.
Last night we went for a walk with our kids after dinner, it was really quite at first, he...

Tal, Thank you again. You give me the strength that I need. You are great at what you do. I was trying to wait until the next phone bill so that I can check on the calls, since he has been nice, I...

I Know I need to. This is what bothers me the most. I know he needs his space but I have such a hard time holding back when he is so close. We havent' had sex for a week now and when we did I...

Well, it was an OK evening. I got home with an open mind and a great attitude, and I did notice a difference. We actually ate dinner all together as a family. He said he had some errands to do, so I...

Thank you. I will bring it up, I just want to find the right timing, when we bring up the bills or something so that he doesn't get all defensive about it. I need to work up to this too.

This is what is weird. I know he is not seen anybody at least in person. He is home most of the time. When he is not he is in class. Let ma back up a little. About a month ago he went out of the...

You are right! I do take things personal. When I woke up this morning like I said before I felt different, which I was happy about. I didn't know if it was anger or just that I was getting used to...

That is so true. He's cheating not only on me but my kids. Last night after work, I got home and he was finishing a course online so we didn't talk for a while, I ate dinner by myself with my kids....

Thank you again. I should just get the courage to do it, but it is so hard. I will get help and if he wants to go, great, if not I still have to do it for me. I am so drepressed that I cry over...

Thank you, I will try to bring it up tonight. I know I need to do this not only for me but for my kids. I just hate it. I sometimes hope that it was a nightmare. That somehow I will wake up one...

I've been so sick to my stomach all morning from this. I can't stop thinking about what he is doing, or if he's on the phone with her right now, or wondering what time he'll call her. I never had a...

I am still so confused, and apparently so is he. We are still sleeping together, he acts like nothing is going on, we talk some but not as much as we used to. I try not to ask him too many questions...

Thank you so much!

Well, that actually started this whole thing. He didn't grow up with his dad. His dad cheated on his mom while she was pregnant with him, but they were not married. My husband met him when he was 13...

I don't even respond anymore, I just listened and try not to show my pain, since I've read some other threats here. What questions should I ask?regarding our marriage, or just him?

[Thank you for your concern, he is doing better!
Well, my husband surprisingly didn't go to the bar last night, but he left to the "bookstore" as soon as I got home from work and was gone pretty...

That is it, but I am not even going to attempt to go there, he is already having issues anyway and if I ask him to spend more time with her or interact he will think I am trying to control him, or...

Interesting... I did notice a change of behavior on my 4 yr old, she is more stubborn and just cryes to get attention. She argues back all the time, which she never used to do. She over does it in...

Thank you again! So far I've done everything that you've said and it seems to be working, I really appreciate all of your support, it has been one of the toughest situations for both, worst than when...

He never used to go out at all. He started to drink a lot which he had stop for a while since he had said that he didn't see the point of drinking and now...
As in regards to his goals, he wants to...

Thank you for that HUG!;) It was a horrible night again. He didn't come home until 2 am, he text me throughout the night to let me know that he was coming home and didn't make it until early this...

Wow, I will give him his space. Should I still let him tell me all of his feelings even though they are painful, since he normally talks about not being happy, and how he has never been happy with...

Thank you so much "talaniman"! This has been so hard. I'm hurting so much, and have to hold it in. He was ready to leave last Thursday, luckily he talked to a good friend of his, and told him that...

Thank you for your advise! That is probably what we need, just time for ourselves. We have two little kids and they have taken our time lately. But do you think that is why he all of the sudden...

His last physical was 2 yrs ago, and he doesn't act or he doesn't think he is depressed, but he has gone through so many changes lately. He was converted to another religion which he liked for a...

Thank you for your advise! I will look that up. He also just talked to his dad whom is 52 and he said that he feels the same way so now he feels like he shouldn't make the same mistake. Thank You...

I need help. I've been married for 15 with ups and downs like everyone else, but for the most part very happy. I am still in love with my husband like the first day, I've always supported him on...