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Everyone makes mistakes mate, hell I almost broke NC yesterday but I got slapped round the head by vanheart (thanks mate). Seriously she has shafted you, your seriously dodging a bullet by not being...

Yep I figured when I said you will 'never here from me or see me ever again' that she would understand it, I think it is a pretty blunt and direct statement. She hasn't gotten the hint though.

Yep could be that too, I was going sort it out next week. Received an abusive text from her at 1am saying that I don't 'reserve the right not to talk to her and that we are still sharing the dog...

We purchased the dog together, we agreed at the time that if we broke up he would go to whoever had the best place for him to stay at. Which in this case was me and I doubt that she will find a place...

I've got the dog currently, he's in holiday mode having great fun back at my parents place. I walked away from everything else of mine that she has, not worth the trouble! I'm happy that I'm annoyed...

I'll try calling the last vet we had next week, haven't used a punching bag yet but I have been going to the gym 5 days a week, today is a rest day for me so I might go and kick a football around...

Howdy guys, well I thought I'd give an update on what's been going on. Been on the road to recovery and doing pretty well, have been loving the freedom and independence so much. Made a heap of new...

Hey mate stay strong, this is seriously a guilt call. She has no concern about your future, only herself! It would only be about you joining back up and she would try and talk you out of it, not...

Hey mate I'd ignore her, I've been on the no contact train for a while it hurts early on but you'll regain you're control. Employ the military discipline with NC as required, turn the negative into a...

Hey mate, congrats on the 90 days! I know the urge your talking about as well, I've had it for the last couple of days and have been missing my ex a considerable amount. Im finding it's things I see...

I'm curious as well Tal, I'd also like to know if there are any serious differences in the new church she is attending?

My apologies for the delay in replying...

Cheers Elwood

Glenfare, the situation in some ways is similar however there are some differences that I won't get into as it doesn't reflect your situation.

Contact wise, her birthday is a great opportunity to...

G'day glenfare,
Her husband does very rarely come for a visit, it's quite awkward for everyone involved but we manage. He too suffers from small man syndrome (I'm over 6ft as well) but I don't...

My family has experienced a similar situation with my sister. She married a very controlling individual and went to his church and starting cutting all ties with us. The invitation to the wedding was...

If your very bored and I mean very very bored you can have a read of my debacle! Talk about being a mess!

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/having-face-inevitable-484198.html

All the...

4 days! Woot! Good work keep it up your doing great ;) I reward myself for not talking maybe an icecream, catch a movie etc. Early on I used to write a list at the end of each night with what I was...

Hey sillygirl, 3 1/2 days! Your doing great! The first week is the hardest, but once you get through it you feel that you've achieved something. I found after the first week that I'd regained self...

Learning from mistakes is an experience that both of us are going through, this is a good time to reflect and see what you want from your future relationships. I've Learnt personally that I want a...

Sillygal, after reading your last post there is one thing that springs out and that is you blame the failure of the relationship it seems entirely on yourself. Which is not the cause what so ever! He...

Sillygal, tal tends to speak very directly and the it can take a bit to get used to. I tend to avoid giving advice, only say what I have experienced. I know where you are coming from regarding work,...

Vanheart what's a life without challenges, very boring! Living on base is nothing like the movies, well not this base anyway, not going to get any jarhead 'fun'. Tried out my knee for it's first real...

Have to agree loneliness sucks, but I try and use that to go and meet new people. I'm in a new location and I'm starting to make new friends and come across old ones. There is an advantage to a new...

Lol got me running scared! Mental note don't p*ss off Aimee...

Staying away from females for a while, not finding it hard to switch back to single life I was always been an independent guy but...

Lol Aimee You wouldn't have to travel far to slap me, she lives in Sydney and is about as likely to move as the harbour bridge. It's a no go zone for me 100km buffer placed around there!

No robot?...

Hey guys, was really surprised at how many posts there are! Seems my mates joke has caused some a lot of comments. Firstly I'd like to say that it was a joke, I never intended to do that and lower...

Thanks guys, well I'm getting along all right, had to exchange a couple texts over some gear and I behaved like a gentleman I refuse to give her an excuse to justify her actions. Must be frustrating...

Getting onto that right now, cannot believe that she would post that, it's my house and she's hitting on the removalists! Seriously she obviously is trying to bait me... Not going to give her the...

I thought that's what she's doing, trying to get some attention from me. She's currently moving her stuff out if the house right now, she called me chasing after a missing measuring spoon. Seriously...

Well I moved onto base today, felt a bit nostagic when moving out which made it pretty tough but I got through it. Now for my rant! She had to come up on Tuesday to sort out some removals stuff,...

Had this perception that the situation wasn't effecting me that much, when it still is a considerable amount! Still struggling to move forward at the moment, but slowly edging there.

Well a bit of an update, I've boxed almost everything up in the house. My folks are coming down to help move most of my furniture etc back home. Also cleansed my fb of anything related to her...

So I'm trying to work this out, she was having a relationship with the Internet guy before you guys broke up? And now you are taking her out for dinner and movies while she is still with the other...

Hugostrange22, I have found myself in a similar situation regarding Internet relationships and my ex girlfriend. This isn't advice, just a question that I had to ask myself and one that you will have...

I can't wait either mate! I've already got a plan in place to keep me occupied, I'll be planing an overseas trip which I'm really looking forward to doing. As for the work phone, can't avoid it has...

No contact I hate to say it won't be fully enforced until next Friday when removals are all done, house is shutdown and it's properly sorted. I am avoiding contact with her as much as possible, if I...

Cheers vanheart, I certainly feel like I'm heading on the right track and as you say it's going to take time. She called me at work today, I had emailed her about a bill that I wanted her to pay half...

Thanks tal, figured that I was pretty much on the money with what I have been doing. Got woken up by her trying to call me this morning, ignored the call she didn't leave a message so it can't have...

G'day starry nights, I have read your post several times and it certainly has given me some food for thought. I have thought it over thoroughly and I'm pretty sure that I should stay no contact....

Hey fireguy had a good read of your thread and I can say we both have made similar mistakes! Thanks for the support! Btw thanks for doing your job, it's greatly appreciated.

Nothing much to...

Thanks pp that's what I thought she was up too, I have been quiet restrained with it all, I've had to bite my tongue a lot! I think last night was her first night out being single, she probably had a...

I know what you mean tal, still feel like a chump though! The text I sent in reply to her why am I confused txt was along the lines of 'because the next day you posted the lyrics to 'need you now'...

Well I've had a crappy day, seems I'm getting shafted. So was organizing the removal today, turns out that work will pay for her removal, which is great but I have to move out of the house because...

Thanks positive parent, I know it's a long road ahead but it will take time. I may still have to see her one more time, depends on if I am required to be there for the removal of her furniture...

Ok folks sorry about the delay so as I said last night we had a talk, we bad both presumed that it would be a fight. Didn't pan out like that thankfully.

I'll try and start at the beginning, she...

Well that was the most surreal experience of my life... So she arrived and needless to say I wasn't the most social person on earth. Got all the boxes sorted out with everything now separated. She...

Well here's a great example as to why no contact should not be broken, well she's worked out my work number and called me. God dammit! Oh well she's now driving up tonight to help go through the...

Well I broke no contact, sent her an email informing her about the status of the removal saying that I was going have everything sorted by the weekend. Kept it strictly professional and it wasn't too...

Howdy folks
Vanheart have to agree with you justlookings post is something special! Certainly a great pick me up :)

I have to agree with the no drama, however I'm employing a bit of tact with...

Thanks just looking, I really appreciate the effort you have read through this thread and then to post some great advice.

Just a very quick update, received an email from her today asking about...

Well don't tell my dad that he would have had me chopped a lot more!

So here's the update, I have returned back to my house after two weeks off forcing me to return to reality of the situation....