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Actually she even said that she doesn't know if she wants to actively date someone else... more the fact that we are allowed to if we want but we need to go out and enjoy ourselves for the time being...

Check out my update...

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/update-moving-right-direction-49970.html

To everyone who has followed my progress and given such helpful suggestions...

Link to old post:
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/all-comes-down-46419.html

I met with her tonight...

I'm trying to get a nice looking suit for a new years party and have it tailored. I'd like to find the type of place that is "young and modern" to buy from. Any suggestions where to go for this? ...

I feel like I really understand this guy's situation... it's a lot like mine from what I see. Honestly I think if you do feel like a better and stronger person, and go into that meeting expecting...

truly AMAZING Allheart... that is one of the most touching and beautifully written expressions of the inner human that I have ever seen. God knows we can all relate to some, if not ALL of that.
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Ahhh touché Geoff... that is something we all would desperately like to be able to see with our own eyes.

Thanks everyone, I appreciate all your input. I know what I'm going to do. It's time to be who I am and if that doesn't work... then oh well.

I'll let you know how it turns out!

Thanks everyone

I'm sorry if you guys think "games" are going on here on the forum....this has evolved so much with so many different opinions, it just seems that way. I apologize to everyone that thinks my...

Good point shy. Maybe they want to make sure you don't totally leave out of their life just in case after more time has gone by, they decide that it was truly a better life with you around. This...

I am not in this position yet, but if I do get there, I'd like to know how to handle it... and I'm sure a lot of other people would too.

What if your ex or soon-to-be ex drops one of these bombs...

Good man... that's the best lesson I learned. Keep calm and be very slow and rational about your thoughts and actions, or you will regret your actions later. Make the best possible decisions for...

As Capunchin already said... NC needs to be about making yourself better for now. You have to genuinely work on yourself and everything around you will fall into place. After being dumped the last...

This really is a tough point that you have brought to light here 4answers. Staying in NC is very much a crucial step in putting YOURSELF back together... but there are still further things that need...

I try to keep this as far as from a game as possible. I really feel better about my decision because it made ME feel good for once. I know its easy to see things like this as a game, but it's also...

So I told her I didn't want to meet yet but that I fully intend for this meeting to occur later (and I wished her well)... very concise and to the point. If it were sent to me, I figure I'd be very...

Time is a valuable thing that we must all understand and see its value. Look at me, I've been jumping all over the place the last couple of days and you kind people have tried to give me all the...

Excellent point Allheart. And with that said, if she is concerned as to how I am feeling and wants to hide her emotions in the emails... would it hurt to stay away a little longer? Would it hurt to...

This is very good stuff Val... I really haven't heard this sort of suggestion before, especially with most of the vote here going to NC. I really have to decide sometime tonight exactly what I'm...

OK everyone enough bickering haha. I am not trying to be one-sided here, and I respect everyone's opinions... so as I think of new things, I will post them. For instance now:

I need to look at...

Yea, so I definitely am not going to this meeting... for various reasons. I want her to get that point that it's my turn to be upset and take a stand. I'm not giving into her every request and I...

Skell that is exactly it! I don't know what I want... people here were the ones that called me unstable. I'm not upset at that, it's more of a reality that is helpful in calming me down and trying...

I truly appreciate everything that everyone has said. The outpour of support and willingness to help has been more comforting than anything I could have ever asked for.

At this time I have...

I'd rather not post any of her emails... b/c I have deep down fears that anything can be found on the internet. I would feel embarrassed if she ran search terms on her own email words and came...

The more I think about it... I think Wildcat is right here. Unfortunately I already emailed her and said I could maybe make it this week. Then she emailed me back asking for a good time. I haven't...

No that's not it at all... I just summed up my latest situation and put it in another post. I deleted this post so as not to confuse people as to what is going on with my situation. Sorry for the...

You all make good points. I can't go in there with any real expectations or presumptions of what will happen. All I can do is be myself and be that attentive listener to hear out every one of her...

I have appreciated everyone's input to my situation in the few threads that I have started. Thank you for any additional info you have on this latest situation.

For almost 3 years, my girlfriend...

Ignore this post... sorry for any confusion. Thanks

Are you talking about the paid material or just the free articles? The stuff is pretty good from what I read so far.

I thought I had seen this posted before but couldn't find it in a search. Anyone know where to possibly download free copies of "the system" by the love doc or "double your dating" by david...

My biggest thing that I have learned is that you shouldn't let what is bothering you consume you and have it really tear two people apart. Like you said, wildcat, it has to be a 2-way effort on...

I'm not going to make this a personal rant because I want it to apply to everyone... but I want people to contribute their opinions on what they think about this issue.

Everyone knows how...

I really think I have grown stronger from this whole situation already... and I really do appreciate everyone's input. I mostly feel that keeping no contact is the best idea. But I also worry about...

Trust me, I wasn't all about staying around and doing nothing. But she often said how tired she always was and enjoyed just having some free time. That, and she always commented she wasn't all...

Thanks for all of your help everyone... I know what I need to do now.