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Cheers for those last posts guys, hadn't checked here in a little while.

Well, I can now confidently say that I am over it all. Don't know how it happened, but it just did all of a sudden....

Thanks guys... I drafted an email and then just saved it as a draft and left it. I just deleted it now. Its not going to achieve anything and is only just a backward step. I know I am going to run...

I know... I don't know why but a part of me feels immature at not being able to continue any type of friendship with her... this person who knows me better than anyone else in the world and who I...

I am battling with some pretty big urges to send the ex and email saying hello...

Can someone please give me some good reasons this is a really bad idea?

Thought I would check back in again to say hello...

I have been reading over a couple of the older posts, and found yours ,Zeeniie, from Nov 10 really good.

I think I have had me "enough"...

Well the deed is done, I have finally removed her (and her new man) from Facebook and blocked her from my IM. Was just way way too hard seeing photos of those two together and cutesy little comments...

Just a brief update on things...

I have been doing a lot better lately, able to distance myself from thoughts about her and just focus on other things.

As I mentioned, I'm having a going away...

Thanks JMW. The thing is as the longer this drags on the more I realise that she is definitely not the same person that she was and not the person that I was in love with... you are right, the past...

Sometimes it feels like I am going round in circles with all this crap...

Its been almost a year since I first posted on here and sometimes the hurt almost feels just as bad as it did then. I...

Has been a couple of weeks since all this went down and I feel like I am doing okay again but still have my moments.

Have again cut her out of my day to day life (I see a pattern emerging here)......

Hey ITL... I'm sure you know it already, but these urges come and go. Its just a normal part of it all... I have been through so many cycles now I know I can just deal with the crap and move along. ...

Anyway yeah you guys are right, was a bit stupid and I feel like a bit of an idiot. Re-reading it after a day and I want to crawl under a rock. All good though, just another thing to take in my...

Well I thought it was about time for another update.

I'm still doing really well and happy with where things are at. In two months time I'm off travelling to South America for about 3 months so...

Its been a couple of months since I last posted so thought I would give a bit of an update in case anyone is still interested... would be nice to hear a few of your thoughts.

So I'm actually doing...

Who answers being asked out "that made me giggle"? Sounds like a weird situation to me...

You raise some good points 57373 and I can appreciate where you are coming from. She didn't "cheat" on me as such... it all happened after we broke up, doesn't really matter though, she hurt me more...

I've slumped back into a bit of a rut again...

This whole her seeing another guy thing has really hit me a lot harder than I thought. I thought Iwas doing much better than this and would be able...

Hey ITL,

Good to have and update from you to hear that you are doing well. I really feel that our stories are very similar and is heartening to hear of you doing so well.

I know what you mean...

Hey guys,

Well my ex started chatting to me tonight and asked me to give her a call. I knew something was up...

Anyway... this weekend I am heading back home to catch up with my parents and...

So its been a little while since I posted on here... but I thought I would a bit of an update. Most of these threads do seem just to end and you never really know what's going on with everyone's...

Nothing Better by The Postal Service

YouTube - [Music-Video] Nothing Better - The Postal Service

Its an excellent break up song... I listened to it countless times while I was going through the...

Yep... they definitely did.



Looks like this is what has happened to me...



That is very good advice. I did my best to assume her words meant nothing... but they still managed to work...

The dreams definitely suck dude, I know what you mean. You've done well to block her emails and have them automatically deleted. If she has something worthwhile to tell you, you will get the message...

Anyway, I've been a bit sidetracked, so will fill in what happened...

Well it was a week ago that I called her. I honestly was expecting her to be really cold and just generally not care about I...

How are things going JDLNYC?

She's with you, and not him. That's all that matters...

Wow! I am sure you feel better after letting that out. Nice work... and good job on not actually sending it to her. It sounds like you've asked her all this before... she obviously doesn't want to,...

It will be fine... just nerves, which is only natural. Not talking to her has become so normal, it just feels weird to actually be about to talk to her.

I really don't like the fact that I'm getting butterflies in my stomach about this phonecall...

Yeah... I'm actually going back home on Thursday for a few days, but yeah, I'm not going to make any plans to meet. Definitely would not do me any good. And I'll steer the conversation away from...

Basically, this is what the situation is.

For the last 3 or 4 months I have been thinking about doing a big trip to South America next year. Do some travelling, visit some friends that live there,...

So apparently my ex thinks that I "hate her". I know that shouldn't be my problem, but it does bother me. I don't hate her... I think she's a great girl and a wonderful person.

She has apparently...

I think she will know to keep away, assuming she knows that I'm coming up. Its possible I'll run into her at a bar in town or something, but unlikely.

She basically be came friends with ALL of my...

Good point... hopefully she does just ignore it!

The longer I keep at this NC thing, the easier it seems to get. Its become normal now for me not to call her, not to text her, not to email her,...

That's a bit of a blow out dude. Try to keep those fingers in check when those urges arise. Just learn from it I guess.

I know how it feels though... at the time it makes so much sense to just...

Here's a couple of good clips from Swingers that might help you out:
YouTube - Swingers
YouTube - Favorite scene from Swingers

And eventually... this will be us in this clip:...

I know how you feel man... have been where you are. I know you have been reluctant to do it... but use this as the motivation to just swallow your pride, take your dignity, and cut her out of your...

I think you should be happy that your gift was such a good idea that she is re-using it and showing it off. You can defintiely re-use the gift idea in your next relationship and know it will work.

Wow... I actually had a great night. Ended up hooking up with a smoking hot girl and going back to her place. Just kissing and the like, but it was a lot of fun.

This one was better than the other...

Well the way I see it, she was probably expecting you to get something for her, because of the way you've been acting since the break up. So when you don't get her anything, she will probably be...

Save yourself the heartache Gear. It won't do you any good... especially when it turns out that she hasn't got anything for you. I got my ex a really nice Christmas card and a nice gift... what did I...

So what happened?

I actually feel kind of weird at the moment. My ex seems like such a distant memory... having no contact for 5 weeks now, I almost feel like I can't actually imagine us being together, or even being...

Firstly, nice work on the date! I hope it goes well dor you.

That email probably was a bad idea, but oh well, its done. She may reply, she may not. It doesn't really matter either way really does...

Its Valentines Day morning in this part of the world... how depressing. A part of me wants to dig out the card she gave me last year, but I think I'll just save myself the heartache and leave it...

I think that, hypothetically, in a couple of years you won't give a damn about her.

But yeah, I think that well down the track things can work out between people. You will both have grown up a...

Haha yeah I know... makes me feel quite ill thinking about it. I just want to pop all those heart shaped balloons. At least it's a Saturday night so can go out and get drunk and there should be...

I know exactly how you feel gear... and its sucks. It sucks big time. But you need to realise that this happened for a reason, you need to go through this and learn these very harsh lessons about...

Well I seem to be doing better this week. Of course she is still on my mind... but not as painfully. Today marks 4 weeks of NC... its gone quickly and has felt good, hopefully for the next 4 weeks,...

The only thing that you can do to make her want to come back is... do nothing. You trying to convince her to get back together with you will backfire spectacularly.

Its very very...