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Sorry you took my response as me being defensive.

I'm just standing my ground, and letting people know who I am, because it's clear that the only thing people know about me are my party habits.
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I've already said that I appreciate the feedback, and that I am willing to do what it takes to make some changes.

Sometimes we know there's something wrong, but it takes an outsiders perspective...

Just because I REFUSE to take e from people who aren't approaching a situation in a respectful manner doesn't mean I refuse to take their advice.

I KNOW that what I've been hearing is true, and if...

Did I or did I NOT make sure to say that I'm not using that as an excuse, or even as part of my defense?

My point was that I'm not the only one doing it, so it's not that uncommon. Doesn't make...

Now that was completely uncalled for.

You have no right to say the things you said, or to say them the way you said them.

I don't pay to get in the club, it's free if you're on the guest list,...

Well then everyone I know, and everyone they know should be hearing this.

Because we all do the same thing, and we are all around the same age.

And we all drink before we go to the club.
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Of course you're going to tell me I have a problem, and it may seem like I do.

But how can I defend myself without seeming like I'm in denial?

No matter what I say unless it's that I AM an...

Wow... seriously?

Ok to start, I am DEFINITELY not an alcoholic.

My dad was an alcoholic for the first 10 years of my life, then he quit drinking for 4 years,
Which led him to find other...

I wouldn't say it was love at first, but there was definitely something.

My sister and I go to this club on tuesdays nights where we dance, mingle, and meet up with friends.

Before we go in, we...

Hahaha.

Well, it's nice to have a "type" or an idea of what you like at least.

I mean... I get what you're saying, but dude... do you REALLY like crippled, and crazy girls?

Yeah.

There are a lot of things in my life that I stress out about, because I WANT to change them. But I'm trying to accept things the way they are, make the best of them, and focus on the things...

You see...

You might not have cared about their proportions, but you definitely noticed.

For me, it's about looking odd, or lanky, or weird, because the way someone is built should determine...

No... thank you SOO much.

I really appreciate the story, and the response.

The way you put it makes so much more sense.

I've struggled with accepting myself, and my body for the longest...

Sarah I definitely appreciate your response, and I believe it when you say you can relate to me.

I don't think being tall is "unsexy," but I DO think being lanky is.

I've never been over 115...

I think some people are getting the wrong impression about me.

This isn't really about guys, or vanity, it's about not feeling comfortable in my OWN skin, because I feel like a spider, or a...

Thank you so much for all of your replies.

So far I've been hearing the same thing whenever I ask.

Maybe I should just start liking my long legs.

And you are right Jolie... we have to like...

I'm 5'8 and a half, I weigh 112, and I have EXTREMELY long limbs.

My torso isn't "short" but I feel that compared to my long are and legs, it's not as long as it should be.

I researched a...

Aweee,

Thank you yeciatkins!

To everyone who has responded and taken the time to give me your opinion, thoughts, etc... THANK YOU!!

Now I must tell you what this is all about.

I was having a conversation with a guy I met 2...

I totally and completely know what you're saying.

Like I said, I have a huge family. 9 siblings, 6 sisters, and 2 brothers.

I'm 3rd oldest, so not only did I practically raise my younger...

Thank you!

I know... he is an amazing friend, and nothing more.

It was me in the situation, not my sister, and I'M loudly stating that NOTHING happened.

I was just giving an example of how things are these days in our modern world. People (at least the people...

I'm 23 years old. And I was when this happened.

The 411 on this post is that I was talking to a male friend of mine. And this story some how came up.

He argued with me for a good 2 hours about...

I don't know where you've been living, but... where I live there's nothing wrong with having someone of the opposite sex over.

And if they happen to spend the night, and end up massaging your back...

Thank you SOOO much for saying this. You really made my day. I feel exactly the same about the situation.

How I feel really IS all that matters. Everyone has specific intentions whether they are...

Whenever I house sit for my friends parents they tell me I can have whoever over whenever I want.

And since they asked me to house sit over the holidays, and I missed xmas, they were especially...

Over the holidays I was asked to house sit for a friends parents, while they visited her in Chicago.

I posted a bulletin on my web page telling all my friends where I'd be over the holidays, and...

"Well anyway, for KRS, and JAY JAY I think when you say europeans, your referring to Caucasian.. or white"
That is what I said, "I THINK." I didnt say that you were definately refering to white...

Hi all!!
Ive been gone for a while, but Im kind of back now. I was in mexico this weekend, but Im home now... the only thing I didn't like about my vacation was that somewhere during my vacation, I...

I have that problem with my eyebrows... I was actually thinking about getting my eyebrows permed.. so I see how that could work with eyelashes.
I don't think sweetheart just has a curl to her...

HAHAHA, meet the parents... good one.
Ok J_9, your on my team. And cgirl, if you want to play, then you can team up with whizz.
(whispers to J_9): word of advice be careful, the whizz can be...

Sooo, j_9 and cgirl. There's 3 of us... and we just need one more to play water volley ball. Any one of you want to play? If so... who wants to be on my team?

Thanks tal,
You really are sweet. And your right j_9 some people hate it, some people love it, and there Isn't a darn thing we can do about it, and quite frankly... I don't care to. Prefernce is...

Maybe its because all the adult women "I" know hate shopping, and they only do it because they have to. I can't speak for the world, and I really wasn't trying to, and I think its funny how the only...

I think its weird how the only people who responded to your question, were women who seem to dislike/hate or care very little about shopping. And to add to that, I to hate shopping.
I actually think...

Hey, on that very website (the melederm website) there is a product for dark circles. People say that they don't like it because it burns... but it says on the website that it WILL and is SUPPOSED to...

You know it J_9.. Im so glad I finally got the hang of this. Ride them cowboy!!

So like, do you think if I was patient that the whiteners would be something for me?

Aweee, thanks sharon. That's very sweet. I just get tired of being "the black girl" in the bunch. I hang out with people of all races, but my main friends are white and asian. And next to them I feel...

PHEW, hahaha. I thought I you might have gotten stuck under me. I was so afraid... dude you must be fast if you got out of there before I could even unstick my head.
Well now that your safe and...

Runs after j_9, grabs her, and we both land in the lime green jello together.

Moves around a little to free my face from the quick sand like jello. Finally gets my head out, and then realizes...

Talan,
Are you a smoker? The only people I know of that carry lighters in their back pockets are smokers (not that it would be a bad thing, just thought I would ask).
You know what, I think I came...

Just a few words, in response to what has been going on, while Ive been away.
Someone made a comment about something, and at the end they said "my little cupcake" I thought that was cute. I know...

I guess I like to do things the hard way.. I should have just taken the skittles from the beautiful and wise Mrs. Val... you tried to help me a long time ago... and I love candy to, hahaha. I would...

Hahaha am I the only one who see's the whole spank on the booty worse than a slap on the HAND... that's the way I meant it.
Like how you slap a kitties paws when she tries to get into something she...

And I get kicked out of this room for saying SLAP... I think spank is more vulgar, and more abusive than slap.

Yeah I do believe that this product can give me results, but not the results I want, and not in the time that I want it in. I am a very impatient person, and I need something that's going to give me...

Hi cassie,
I don't think this is about right and wrong ("so how can you feel what you say is wrong? thomas is right..." You used the words right and wrong, and to me that means that you THINK (Im...

Sometimes while lounging, and having a nice cold drink.. and I tend to have serious conversations. Its not something you should avoid, or something you should want to avoid. I think of this room as a...

I don't know how to exactly reword the certain parts of this and put it into my own words, so that I can show you that I not only completely understand what you saying, but I agree, and this is...