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Sigh, there's now som pretty convincing (given the people who've seen all this) rumours that my ex and my friend (in the title) now are a couple.
First, he talks to me about wanting to be friends...

Wow, I'm a bit overwhelmed by how my ex is handling all of this now.

Keeps contacting me, saying she misses me and trying to make me feel bad because I don't talk with her like I used to do.
I...

Hi again.

Well, I doing better and better. I'm no longer so much blinded by love, and I now see clearly that I should've ended this drama way way way much earlier.

My ex tried contacting me...

Short update again, had a lot of fun today, hanged out with mates. Last night was fun as well, finally got together a new band with some of my mates. Actually feel happier than I can remember at the...

Okay guys, time for an update I guess. This will be long, but lots have happened.

First of all, I know I've done stupid things, I know I didn't always listen to what you guys said I should,...

Hello everyone!

Long time, no update, sorry about that. I might do an update in near future.

The reason that I haven't updated isn't that I don't need your help or anything like that, far from...

I disagree with emopunk7.

Or, to be more precise, it depends on why you broke up in the first place.

Many issues may be worked out, but if the issues that made you break up in the first place...

You can't change your past, only your future.

I know that, and I agree, it was simply a way of admitting that I'm not completely over her yet, but that I know what I must do. I'm not going to ask her to come back to me, and I'm not going to try...

Hi! Thanks for your reply!

Have your read my last posts? I've had it with this drama, and I'm removing myself from it now. I won't interfere with what my ex and my friend might and might not do...

Thanks a lot for your reply!

Yes, I agree with all you've said. I don't know if I have been completely blinded of love, but I think she has changed during that past say two months though. But...

No it doesn't, but (in case you think this) you shouldn't think having sex with a guy you find attractive is the key to find the right guy either.

This post is actually more of a form of self-terapy, I just need to get this stuff out somehow. It has no real questions or anything, but I'd love to get relpies with opinions anyway!

I think I'll...

I can see your point, I really can. I agree that I need to get my mind off my ex, when I woke up this morning I really missed her, you know. But I know I'll get over it in time.

Being away from...

First of all, there is no such thing as a height girls prefer! Girls are different, and so are guys, not everyone likes exactly the same!

Second of all, if a girl doesn't want to be with you...

Yeah, well, I really want to get rid of all of this drama now.

I want to keep my friend as a friend, but I will put myself first this time around
(I haven't really done that in my relationship...

I've gotten to the point where I agree with you about my ex. I still have feelings for her, but at this point, all the negatives summed up is more than all the good things. As I said, I still have...

Okay, this will probably get quite long, as always.
I don’t know quite where to start, but I’ll try to take things from the top and keep them in that order:

We talked on the phone for about two...

That's really what I want by now.

I want to get over her - and I definitely feel like I'm heading the right way there. I have been at most two days without really missing her.

I'm not waiting...

A tiny bit of my story matches yours a little, so I thought I could just share my experience (it's somewhat related).

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I had a relationship with this girl for about one or two months.

The...

Another short update: I'm not very good at NC, so when my ex contaced me (on MSN) and started to talk with me, I replied.

I told her that I'm still very confused of all of this, and (with all due...

I will do as you suggest, talaniman, however the following has happened:

She contacted me, and has assured me that the message was indeed intended for her friend, and not to mine. She also assured...

She wrote "amor mio" with hearts around it.

Yeah, I'm going to go NC now after I've gotten a chance to ask her again. The reason I wasn't NC now was the definitely was sending me signals of...

Short update (actually, it got quite long as usual):

We (my ex and I) have been a little on and off on the contact side lately, so I decided to send her a good night message last night (text...

Here's the best tip you can get, even though it's old:

BE YOURSELF!

You don't want to pretend to be someone or something you are not. No matter if it's "better" if you are that way. You're...

Hi again Jake, thanks a lot for replying!

Yes, I definitely feel like I'm in control again.

I actually feel more or less ready to start working on my friendship with my friend again. I know...

Listen up.

I can understand you feeling guilt because of this, and feeling down.

But there's nothing you can do. Okay? I know this might sound harsh, but it's the truth.

It's really kind of...

Warning: This got very long, I'm sorry and I hope you'll bear with me. I just have a lot to say.

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Thanks a lot for your replies, everyone. I have read them all, and I appreciate all of them.
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I don't know if you should be worried, neither do I have enough knowledge about miscarriages to say much about that.

I will say, however, that I were to have a GF that cheated on me and got...

I'd like to add what I would do if I were you.

First of all, I would give her all the time she would need. If she's ever going to treat you the same way, it's going to take time.

Second of all,...

Okay, you don't say much about what happened and when. I don't ask about this to be digging in too much, but to get a better idea of what happened.

Did it happen more than once?
Did she discover...

If there's one thing I'm learned, even though I'm still very young, it's that you can't make anyone love you if they don't already.

Just respect that he's not ready to say something like that and...

I know that she won't return to me, and I'm starting to accept that. I know this.

I really meant nothing else than I said I meant by using the word 'girlfriend'.

I'm sorry to seem so arrogant...

Yeah, I know that about my ex, she's been completely honest about losing her feelings for me etc. It sort of makes it easier for me to get over her, strangely enough, knowing that she doesn't feel...

Whoah, yeah you are definitely right, and I've been calling her my ex for the previous posts. I guess it's what you could call an online slip of the tongue.

EDIT: If you mean in the part where I...

Thanks for all of your replies. The last 24 hours haven't been quite as I would've thought.

Last night, she sent me a message saying she wanted to call me. She said she wanted to talk, because she...

I know I should be staying away from all of this, especially my ex - which I believe I am, going one week of no contact now.

It's just the whole deal with my friend that's bothering me the most,...

(I'm afraid this got quite long, as usual. Sorry!)
Thanks for your replies guys.

I know you are right, but I'm just so confused by my mixed feelings right now.

On one hand, I suspect that my...

Imagine if your own mother were dying.

I don't say this to upset you, or offend you in any way, I'm just saying try to place yourself in his situation. He must be in a very emotional state right...

Yeah, that's what I think as well. My only problem is that I go to school with my friend, and my seat is the seat right next to him in the classroom.

On the bright side, I have just five days left...

I talked with my friend today.

Before I said something, I needed to know where he was standing right now, with my ex, so I asked him straight out.

He told me that after all this, there...

Yeah, that's what I thought. I'm not going to ignore her if I walk past her, I'll still say hi to her, you know.

But I'm starting to move on now, I think. I don't think I would be depressed or...

I think you might be right, talaniman, because I have that feeling as well, and you always seem to be right, so I will do as you suggest and stay away from her regarding a Christmas greeting as well....

I have considered talking with her parents about this, also at several earlier occations while we were still dating. I said that I could just be there with her, or talk for her if she wanted me to,...

If he is physically abusive, stay away from him! Seriously! You can do so much better than a guy that beats you.

If he continnues to threaten you or physically abuse you, I'd recommend going to...

Thanks for the great advice talaniman. I don't know how you do it, but all of the advices I've read from you makes everything seem so clear.

I have gone for what I believe is three days now,...

Yes, but I think her mother were kind of splitted. She have actually been worried about me taking drugs (at one point I had a mohawk), but I and my girlfriend have assured her that I'm not into that...

I don't really know if you are being ironic or not, but the christmas present would be as neutral as it can get, if you understand me. A friendly gift, not a boyfriendly gift.



I agree, and I...

Help, I can't stop thinking about her! Even when I'm at my busiest, like at school today, where we had an exam-light (called tentamen as opposed to eksamen in norwegian), and the deadline came...

No worries, thanks for the replies and tips, plus all of your kind words!

Well, I spoke with my GF in the weekend, and I asked her straight out if there was something more between her and my best...