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It may sounds simplistic, but why not try to find someone who can and will meet your needs, instead of hanging on to someone who shows no signs of changing in 2.5 years?

Most man like women who...

Yes, I agree with I wish. The longer the relationship drags on, the more painful the break up will be.

I admire you, Adam, for realizing that what you did wasn't really the best choice for either one of you. And even better, you are trying to prevent others from doing something that they may only...

It sounds like you think your romantic relationship should work in the long-run because you love each other and are best friends.

Yet you are finding out through cold, hard experience that that's...

Some of what you say makes sense, but I find this "rule" particularly troubling: "While they are dumping you, never say you can't be friends. Agree to whatever they want, then disappear from their...

Your numbers show no evidence that Dems spent more than the GOP. The table I cited was already adjusted for inflation-- standard for any longitudinal study. http://tinyurl.com/5mq65x It clearly...

I the fact that this "empty" feeling is bothering you so much means that it's very important. What's not clear is what it is that's really bothering you. You're probably wondering that yourself. ...

One possibility is: my late boyfriend (similar to "my late husband").

"No man made a greater mistake than he who did nothing because he could only do a little."

- Edmund Burke, British political philosopher.

With all due respect, I disagree. She's not responding as women do when they are interested. If things are not reciprocal after a few weeks, they probably never will be, but at least he can nip it...

It was ruined before? You may want to preserve what you have, but this does NOT sound like a happy friendship to me. Also, why don't you seek out other friendships that could be happier & more...

Dreams can be terribly frightening. How sweet and loving that you were able to literally embrace and comfort her when she needed it most.

I believe that this kind of comfort in an emotionally...

You're right-- people nowadays call it a "loaded question." However, the wife-beating question usually is asked under conditions of an unfounded assumption, whereby no such admission of having...

Yes, I agree with answerme_tender. If you can get counselling and/or support for people going through this, that would be the very best thing for you and your children.

It sounds to me that the emotional risk of telling her what you want is really scary to you. Others may disagree, but I think that your fear is partly founded. There are people who dislike certain...

I don't think it's too soon-- and apparently neither does ITStudent.

What I'd like to know is... what happened 5 years ago? Are you saying that your sex life was good for 25 years and now suddenly it has stopped-- or at least-- stopped being good?

It sounds like...

OK, so how was the sleight of hand managed? What relevant information was left out? With all due respect, I do believe your claims are specious.

Correction, I meant to say in my original post (below) that the Republicans spent much more than the Democrats.

Here's the table to prove it: http://tinyurl.com/5mq65x

Thank you, Adhern, for...

Yes, they already adjusted for inflation. Had they posted a table without such an adjustment, you are right, it would render their data invalid. I'm fully convinced that they did no such thing....

I think that Talaniman's ideas are very interesting & worth considering. However, I DON'T think your side sounds crazy, & I don't think your POV is selfish, as he seems to imply. However, he may be...

Yes, it's a dilemma.

I've even heard that people will avoid committing to the person they dating during the divorce because that person reminds them of the divorce!

I think if you're already...

Many people do not realize it, but this is often the way it is with abuse. It's usually not one-sided. It's shocking how cavalier she was in admitting that, but again, relationship abuse is rarely...

Hey thanks, that's great! Hey, where's you get that smiley?

I don't know where to ask-- yes, I do have questions...

I'm sure it's very disappointing and even discouraging. However, as kind as you seem to be, I'd like to see you be with someone who appreciates it. She, apparently, is not up to the task. I don't...

I disagree with the previous poster. It's clear that in the last 25+ years, the Republicans increased the national debt much more the Republicans. It was worst under Reagan, who tripled the...

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Yes, it sounds like this relationship has become emotionally, mentally, and physically abusive. Please get out and stay out of this relationship. Please get help if you need it.

I don't know if...

Very sorry about that! I apparently I missed that part in the rules.

Is there some way to undo what I did?

Yes, I agree with Altenweg's more complete explanation of it.

The fallacy is known as "wife beating."

As in: "When did you stop beating your wife? It's much worse than a loaded question, IMHO.

A loaded question might be, "Did you do your homework?" to...

I agree with Altenweg. I don't think that this makes you a terrible person.

I applaud you for writing us and also vowing to put a stop to it (in public!)

Doesn't that make your character much...

Well, how sad!

You've discovered a part of yourself that you never even knew that you had with a friend of 5 years, and she not only rejects your love, but your new- found identity!

She puts...

What kind of man does this? That's good question.

I think you really want to know how you make sense of all that has happened to you.

Unfortunately, there are people out there who will take...

It's so sad that you are going through this, especially with 3 children.

It would be difficult to say if he "really" loves you. Unfortunately, it may not matter. Because of his current mental and...

It's great that you've met a female that you like talking to, and I think even better that you knew her previously. It's particularly exciting because you've never dated any before seriously, as you...