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Thanks guys. I sometimes read on the train but often find it hard to concentrate and find that even though I'm reading the words I haven't a clue what has happened in the pages! I'll try something...

Hi cat, smoothy, craven and others..
I've asked for more advice in the marriage category. I wanted to put it in the same category as this but I couldn't find it in the list and it recommended...

Hi
I've posted in here before and asked for advice about my reactions to my husband masturbating. I took on some very good advice.
I'm still trying to relax about the whole thing and sometimes I...

Sorry to hear about your late husband judykay. Yes I meant every vow I made when I got married.

Thanks cat :-) xx
Haha judykay, the intentional pun made me smile.
However, I did not mean the kind of scenario you described. I meant a relationship where both parties are able to perform...

Hi synen. That's a good way of describing It to me. I'm going to try and look at it that way.
I am trying to work on my jealousy and control issues too because I don't want to continue like I am. ...

Hi skinnydippin. Thanks for your reply. It's really sad that your ex was like that. And despite what craven has said, if the reason your marriage broke down was because he preferred to masturbate...

Hi t.lamb
I understand how you feel and I agree with you that if a man is masturbating to porn or whatever INSTEAD of making love to his partner then there is something wrong in the relationship....

Ok. Sorry craven.
It's OK. My husband definitely isn't gay. Sorry to hear your storey :-(

Thanks cat and smoothy..
They were great replies and you have both given menlots to think about and I'll try what you have both suggested. One thing I need to add smoothy is that unfortunately my...

Hi.. I have just read your post and found it interseting. Have you overcome this problem? Did you have a problem with masturbation in general? I am worried that I may be heading towards this kind of...

Thanks smoothy.. Very much appreciate your replies here.
I'm so up and down with this it's unreal. I do want to chill our and relax about the whole thing but I don't know how? How do I change my...

Hi craven. Thank you for your comment and time. I appreciate hearing from a mans point of view. Some of the things you said helped... Like the fleeting thoughts comment. I suppose it helps to know...

Hi cat.
Thank you very much for your advice and time you took to write it. I can't tell you how much I appreciated it. And reading these things did actually make me see things differentley!
I...

Hhonestly no, I've never fantasised about men in that way. My dreams and fantasies were always of the nature that I would marry someone who only had eyes for me, because honestly I really do only...

Hmm.. Thank you for your replies. It's not so much the masturbation it's what men do it to. It makes me feel jealous and paranoid when it's to fantasies or images of other women when he can have me...

I've decided to write this as I'm sure there must be others out there who feel the same hurt and upset that I do:
I'm 32 year old and totally and utterly in love with my husband. We've only been...