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Well I am updating my healing or lack thereof. Today I got home and went onto my Facebook and myspace. My ex is not a friend on myspace , she said it was an accident it got deleted or whatever. I...

Hey man I feel your pain, I am right there with you. I feel pretty much the same way after almost 7 weeks. There is nothing wrong with you, its normal. I have come to realize things about myself that...

Well I am still a newbie, going on 12 days NC. Well 12 days since phone conversation , 9 since last texts, so I guess 9 days total NC. Left it on a decent note, she knows how I feel and what I want....

Yeah probably a rebound, same as I suspect with my ex. This guy was there where she worked, she got scared and kind of bored with me maybe after 4 yrs and wanted to see what's out there. It hurts but...

I am in the same situation man, after a 4 yr relationship my ex is seeing someone. We been broken up for 6 weeks and she been seeing him for like 3 or something. It sucks a lot and she keeps saying...

Thanks for being harsh with me, sometimes I think I need that to get going. I need to build up my confidence again, when I was with her I had more confidence because I had that support and knew she...

No I know, I told her that I can't talk to her now and she said OK. I will not initiate any talk with her from now on until I feel I am ready. She needs to deal with this new guy w/out my comfort and...

I texted her back and I know you will all rip me. She just wanted to know how I was doing. I told her fine, and that I need time to heal. I can't talk to her as friends now and she needs this time to...

OK guys I need a quick turnaround on this one. On my way home I got a call from my ex. Very surprising but I think I know what she may be calling about. Last week I helped her with some school stuff...

Hey ash, maybe you are familiar with my thread or not, either way do you think your steps apply if the breaker jumps into a rebound relationship rather quickly? My ex first said she wanted space,...

Why would your boyfriend want to share you and have a 3-some with another guy? Seems kind of weird to me. Another girl I could understand more.

Yeah thanks, I have thought about writing down a journal of some sort but haven't gotten to it. Maybe I will start and that way be able to vent my feelings but I don't know if this will only make me...

Thanks for sharing. I appreciate all of your advice throughout this difficult time in my life. I hope I can be as strong as you and stick to NC for a few months at least. Its going to be hard with...

What happened with your ex? Do you still talk or have you ever since the break-up?

Good morning everyone, just thought I would come on and share how I am feeling today. I had a long talk w/ my parents about this yesterday and they pointed out all these things that they saw in our...

Wow, really well said. Yeah you know it is more clear to me that life will throw harder situations at me and I need to deal with this, grow and become stronger for whatever else will come. I have...

I hear you guys, I do, its tough but I hear you. I will be as strong as I can. I mean I thought it wouldn't be a big deal to just do that as a person that cares for her, not in a relationship way. I...

Hey guys thanks a lot for sticking with me. I know I have probably been a tough and stubborn student. Well I talked to my dad today when I got home and he had some good advice and perspective that...

I don't want to be in the same spot , trust me. Its just up until yesterday I had this hope and feeling that things would be OK in time. Now I have a clearer picture as to what she is thinking, she...

So I mean is this really the end? What does it mean when she says she still cares about me and loves me? I mean I have read posts of people coming back to one another after months or even years apart...

Thanks a lot , I know I need to stop thinking of her coming back and realizing she made a mistake. I just wish I could block it out of my head. Even through all she has put me through recently, I...

Thanks homegirl, I appreciate the words of support. I know I have to become a better person all around and then things will fall into place. Whether she is in my life again down the road or not is...

Very True, I never doubted anyone's advice, just my ability to actually let go. Now I have no choice.

Thanks sad, I know I have to start doing and no more talking. I feel like I am starting over after 5 weeks of this and it hurts today really bad. Well I wasn't feeling any better the past few weeks...

OK well we talked, she has been dating that guy for 2 weeks now. She said she didn't want to tell me because she didn't want to hurt my feelings. Well too late for that, my feelings have been hurt...

Will this make her think about what she has done and how she has treated me? Because now she is not thinking about any consquences because I am still here, waiting and she knows it.

All right everyone, I think I am down to my last straw. I don't think I can go on with this limbo and confusion. I am going to talk to her, tell her that I can't do this anymore. She is having her...

I am starting to really realize that it seems like she wants me here to talk to and help her with school but doesn't want much to do with me on the weekends, when she is out with other people. So do...

Thanks for all the extra opinions and advice. I know I need to just play it cool and not be around but I just wish I could get it out of my head. The weekends are the worst because I know she is out...

Hey thanks man, yeah I am doing OK. I just pretty much have stopped wanting to talk about it and start moving forward. Everyone has given me good advice and I am just sorting out what I am going to...

So what if she still calls me, asks me for help with school stuff or whatever and eventually wants to hang out again? I should just ignore her and say NO?

You know you are probably right. I wish it was as easy as it seems to just follow everyone's great advice. My head is all over the place and my heart refuses to let go. I need more time to really see...

OK, I get everyone's point that I have to start moving on. Let me ask you all something, did you do the right thing when you were faced with this situation for the first time? Did you ever have that...

Yeah that's something I have been trying to do, getting back to the driving range and hopefully if weather holds up start getting to the golf course more often. Golf should take my mind off things...

Yeah I know I keep saying it, it sounds so good,but time is just going so slow!

Thanks, well said, I know the line is thin , I am trying not to overstep my boundaries with her and I don't think I am. I will try my best to move on my own path, but still want her in my life. WE...

Well as I said, she texted me thank you and that she liked them and they were nice and it was thoughtful. She can't talk because she has strep throat and it hurts. So I understand, she said to text...

Yeah, I have probably called her more since the beginning, but that first week or so I was a mess and didn't know what was really going on. Since we talked a few times in person, I have not called...

I may be obsessed with her now, especially not having her but it is not that I have an obsession, it is love that I just feel I can't express to her anymore. It was not like this and this before and...

What you say makes a lot of sense, I know today I may have made a judgment call that may not help me but it was a mistake I made, if it turns out to be a mistake. Yeah I know about living my life...

I get what your saying but I think you are taking it a little to far. We have talked and I know her and they type of person she is, and she is stressed, confused and scared about everything going on...

Thanks sad, I know you are right, just getting there is tougher than I ever thought. I was doing fine last week and then starting yesterday I just started feeling lost again. I know I just need to be...

Thanks for your advice, I am trying my best but it seems whatever I do never seems or turns out right. I hope I can get through this w/out any more damage being done.

Well what's done is done, I will have to live with whatever comes as a result of this. I hope its nothing bad , and ginger, she didn't ask for no contact , just to let you know.

Well I came on here to see what others thought. I know I think its just a nice gesture, nothing too crazy or smothering. But I guess it remains to be seen. I respect everyone's opinion and advice, I...

Well I didn't know her wishes were for me to leave her alone. B/c she never said that to me. All she said is she wanted a break, to do her thing, and time to think. So we still talk and are really...

I know she won't think I'm a jerk for not sending flowers and I know she doesn't expect anything, I didn't do it because of that. I just thought it was a nice thing to do, and make her feel better...

I see your point, but its just hard to let it be and keep wondering if she is thinking about me or reflecting. Well we will see what happens after this, it is hard to always be thinking that...

Yeah well I thought it would be nice, if not then I will deal with it. I know she isn't expecting anything that's why I thought it would surprise her and make her feel better, and know that I really...

Hey everyone, well I did something today that I don't know if it will turn out good or bad. My ex hasn't been feeling well and she has a sore throat and feels really bad today. I sent her some get...