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Just out of curiosity, did you date anyone else during that break? Also I'm wondering how long it took you to start really missing him, and wanting him back.
.. and yes, I understand that my...

If you are putting yourself out there looking for the right guy, I'd suggest trying places you have never been to before. Don't continually go to the same bar, or bookstore, or wherever you like to...

Well, if he already has a girlfriend and is happy with her, then it is going to be very difficult to get him even slightly interested in you romantically. He may just be one of those that gets away....

Don't be afraid of being too blunt. As a guy, I would respect a girl who openly makes her feelings known, I hate being kept in the dark on things.

If he rejects you for being direct about this,...

This is the 9th day of No Contact.

Ran across an email from her saying that she wants me to "get on MSN more."

Also another email, giving me her new cell phone number.

I haven't replied to...

Yep, just like I said, they will get bored with you.

But not until you finally believe that they love you and you get yourself attached.

I guess I'm saying that you can't really be satisfied...

Thanks for your help, and I really appreciate your concern. I know I shouldn't and I'm not going to, but I keep thinking I should tell her new boyfriend not to get too attached and turn into...

I'm not a very material person, honestly there isn't anything I want.

Back when she first dumped me, I'll admit I did look into all of the "How to get your ex back" bull, and I did stumble across the Jackson guy. I knew it was just another scam though, and didn't...

From what I can tell nothing works. Guess we just have to get used to the idea that it will only get worse, and you shouldn't really let yourself feel secure with anything. If I could go back and...

I guess it really is true about the whole "ignorance is bliss" thing.

Funny how, in my head, I'm still trying to figure out a way to get her back even knowing that there isn't any hope in that....

It's official, I've been replaced.
She's now together with that guy friend of hers.

I've reached a new low of sadness this morning.

All right, since basically everyone said not to, I'm not getting her anything, I'm just curious what you mean about it being a "stronger" message that way?

Thanks for the help again.

So.. Valentine's Day tomorrow. I was thinking of getting her something, nothing big, just maybe a rose and homemade card or soemthing that just says I'm still thinking aobut her.. not sure if this is...

So (and this is just a hypothetical question) if I were to still have strong feelings for her in, say... a couple years or so, and she was available, would it be insane of me to try and rekindle...

So, I've been re-reading all of this and thinking about everything still. This quote seems to be a recurring element in what everyone tells me. "The one that will love you." That is something that...

I just got back from that Portland trip that I had been talking about, and.. well.. I guess it was exactly what I expected. I picked her up at her house, and one of her guy friends happened to be...

If I tell her I don't want to be around her or talk to her or anything anymore, I just feel like she'll never ever come back. If I stay as a friend, and keep trying to at least be soemoen who will...

Yeah, I'm starting to really see that she isn't too worried about how I feel. Just the way she talks to me now is so much more cold, lots of one word answers (Oh. - Yeah. - Heh.) and things like...

I just don't have it in me. Sorry.

That's the thing, I really thought that she was in love with me, everything she did, until about a month before our break made it all seem so real, and I really felt like it wasn't going to change.
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It's got to make you wonder what could have happened though, if you might've just said or done the right thing.

That's true. I guess I really can't do anything. Knowing my luck, she probably will just start dating another guy and she'll probably start sleeping with him and stuff.

Noooooo, no way in hell would I be fine with that.

But I can't make her love me, and considering that it took us over a year to actually have sex, because we wanted to both be ready and make sure...

She did manage to tell me a slightly different story the other day about her reasons for our "break" (yes, she's still calling it that, and saying "the day will come when we are back together") and...

Then how do I "solve" this?

Sorry I haven't posted in awhile, been trying to just stop thinking about it all because weeks are going by and I'm not improving really, so for the last few days I've been trying to do other things....

It's just hard for some reason for me to go ahead with no contact, I can't seem to make myself do it, part of me is think that I need to just completely ignore her, and forget about her and try to...

I guess I'm glad I posted it here before sending it. Well, every time she tells me about what's going on with her guy friends, and the whole thing about how the stuff she is going through at school...

1 Corinthians 13:4-8

It just dosen't add up, she used to go out of her way to make me happy. I don't see what's caused this personality shift to make her not mind teasing me and making me want her more, while all the...

Oh for F***'s sake, now she's talking to me on MSN and telling me that the new thong she recently bought is fitting well and she's happy she didn't waste money on it. Then she had the nerve to say...

Hm, okay.

Uh, it's 11:30 at night... I could... uhhh... chew.. some gum?

So, I took some time out today and thought about what I would say to her about how I feel right now if I were so inclined to do so.

What do you guys think?

"Hey, I wanted to tell you something...

Hm, I guess I just can't get over this feeling that if I break all contact, she might end up hating it and missing me and indeed wanting me back, but what if she dosen't act on it? I know her quite...

Wow, I don't know if it's how you've worded it or what, but it really feels like it's all making sense now for some reason. So, if I completely cut her off now, it won't hurt her feelings and make...

Hm, again, another really helpful post.

But now I'm trying to think of how I would have wanted her to act if I asked for a break. Would I really want her to just stop being there for me if I...

Thanks for this post, it's another one of the ones that are really kind of getting through to me. I didn't do anything really pathetic or beg, or anything like that when she told me she wanted a...

That's just it, I really don't know if I am fighting a losing battle. If she wasn't talking to me at all, and not wanting to do stuff with me, and just completely not having interest, I'd probably be...

I think I should just completely break all contact with her and wait for that wonderful special person who will love everything about me and not get tired of me and we can live happily ever after....

I asked for advice on how to get her back. Not on why she asked for the break, or what I did wrong.

I do know those things, I DON'T know how to get her back, or how to really get myself to stop...

Also, it seems like a lot of you are under the impression that she is a crazy who is messing with my heart and purposfully putting me through pain, and I just don't think that is what she's at.

I think what's not being taken into consideration here enough is that I was the one who smothered her too much, and now I really see that, and that is what pushed her away, I can't blame her for...

She wouldn't do that though, and I'm 100% positive of that, so if you're going to use hypotheticals, at least make them within the realm of actual possibility.

Even if I go through with no contact, I'm still going to be constantly wondering what's going on with her and if she still feels like it's a break.. and all of the stuff I'm going through right now,...

Honestly? I think I could deal with whatever pain I have to as long as I know there is still a chance of getting her back.

That actually seems like it'd be a relief at this point. It's not knowing that is killing me. I don't really know what she wants because she says she wants space, and yet still talks to me and makes...

Well.. I guess I'm sort of happier knowing that she still takes the time out basically every day to talk to me and make jokes and such with me still. I figure without that, I don't really know what...

So, telling her the Portland trip is off, and then completely breaking contact with her and not letting her contact me anymore is going to give me a better chance of getting her back?

And don't...