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I've been married almost 5 years, but I'm not sure if me and my husband will stay together. I want us to go to therapy for a while and then decide.

My question is, if we do divorce, I'm worried...

If he masturbates everyday he does not have a low libido!

How often do you have sex?

You said in your original post that he loses his erection when you have sex. Has it always been that way...

"oops you must spread some rep around before giving it to Cravenmorhead again"

Totally agree about the "swallowing your pride" when you get answers here.
You have to learn to take criticism and...

I agree that she should go to therapy. But I don't agree that she needs to wait for a relationship/ start dating until she's improved a ton through therapy (that could possibly take years).

If I...

You shouldn't feel bad if your mind automatically goes to sex when you see someone you're attracted to. We tend to think only men have sexual thoughts all the time, but women do too. I'm not...

Funny, the guy I dated who was a premature ejaculator was an extreme bragger too! Not about his past sex life but about EVERYTHING else. At the time I just thought he was the coolest thing (hey I was...

I bet he is telling the truth. I once dated a guy who ejaculated very quickly, like 30 seconds or less (premature ejaculation). He probably had some insecurities about it but he never brought it up,...

Wow I'm so sorry to hear that JudyKayTee. That is a terrible nightmare no woman deserves to go through.
I'm so glad you don't have to deal with physical pain from it anymore though.

I had the same problem. Everyone (nurse and gynecologists) told me to just "relax". One told me to drink wine. For the longest I thought the problem was me and I was making myself squeeze tight...

I know a woman can get pregnant if she has sex during her period, but I've always read it's because she ovulated shortly after.
I just looked up "can women ovulate during their period" (because I...

Oops, I didn't know it took that long (I was thinking it took 1-2 days for the sperm to reach the egg). Can the egg implant inside the uterus during your period? Since she'd most likely still be on...

jwright07, the only way to get a woman pregnant besides having sex is if you had ejaculation or pre-ejaculation on your fingers and you used your fingers to penetrate her. Is that what you did?
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Some pics of JoJo as a puppy and older

I give my dog some veggies and a little plain chicken or egg here and there too. I'm not going to go to the point of making all his food though. I don't even make my own food half the time. I have...

I have a 5 and a half year old Pembroke Corgi, named JoJo. :-) We always fed him Nutro since he was a baby, until he started throwing up sometime late last year (fall 2012). Since we always fed him...

JudyKayTee deserves some greenies (it says I have to spread my rep around too)! Judy, you definitely got to the heart of the matter.

Also Talaniman great advice too! Very true.
"and the key is...

He's 40. Having a lower sex drive than you (a 25 year old) is to be expected. Especially since he has such a physically demanding job that exhausts him. AND helping take care of a child! On top of...

Oh wow, there are quite a few things that make this sound like a nerve issue. But at least it is numbness and not pain! For me it wasn't just gymnastics... I also had a bunch of small things that...

Samanthak,
From reading everything you've said, I think your guesses in your original question could be right. It could be neurological. To me it sounds like you could be some what numb down...

Did he explain why he thinks it's wrong? Has he always felt bad about watching porn or thought it is morally wrong before he was with you? Or does he only feel wrong about it because he's with you?
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Why would you feel uncomfortable having sex with him? Because he's watched porn? It sounds like you need to be more comfortable with yourself.

He lied to you about it because he knew you'd get...

Smoothy,
That wasn't a real answer I just felt like being silly. I'm running on not much sleep!
But yea, I'm not into people being prudish or sexually repressed. I've found there tends to be an...

If a puritan is happy with his sexually repressed, buttoned up lifestyle then who's to say he's the one with the problems?
Unless he secretly has a mistress on the side, then he's really not...

Yea I agree about romance novels, just not romantic comedies or chick flicks being female porn. Or at least not every woman has that sort of reaction to them.



Trust me, I know everyone doesn't...

I think it's silly to say romantic movies or chick flicks are like porn for women. Romantic movies don't bring me to orgasm! They don't get my lady parts crazy aroused! The romantic movies I do like...

For a lot of women it can feel like a vaginal orgasm or a clitoral one. From your name I'm guessing you're a guy, so you've never experienced how different it can feel.

Here's an article that...

From reading the link you posted I can see how it's confusing. On that thread it seemed like the topic was about "g spot" orgasms, but some of the women were calling it vaginal orgasms. There is a...

Gah, I'm so tired of feeling like an idiot compared to those super smart porn stars! I mean damn they spread their legs AND speak very intelligently at the same time. One time I caught my husband...

No wonder you get so irritated/ sensitive! I don't recommend pushing through the pain/ sensitivity to reach another orgasm. You'll end up feeling sore afterwards. :-/



By focusing on the...

Joy, Good point. I have a similar issue (I have very low back fractures and get nerve pains), but I didn't know how to also mention that sort of thing without it sounding scary. But yea, if it's...

Maybe you focused on that spot more than usual or weren't as gentle. The cl*toris is super sensitive. I think I read somewhere that it has 4 times as many nerve endings than the head of a penis! ...

Talaniman, I loved that so much. What great advice and so true.

(I tried giving you a greenie but it said I need to spread my rep around first) :)

How old are you? How often were you having sex in the beginning, and how often now? How long has the lack of intimacy been going on?

It's hard to say what the problem is. There could be underlying...

Thanks so much Tickle!! :)

I've complained on here before about my husband's low libido. Well he finally got his testosterone checked and it was barely in the normal range. From what I've found online it is definitely too low...

Doctors should never talk about their patients medical problems to anyone (even if they know your family). They can get in trouble for that. But if you're really worried he'd tell your family then go...

Have you gone to the doctor about this yet? That's more important than anything. This could be a medical issue. I'm not an expert, but off the top of my head this can be a symptom of diabetes, high...

Yea, I've heard estrogen cream can help. It thickens the skin, improves blood flow, and helps maintain health down there.
I haven't tried it, but heard good things from people who truly needed it.

I bet the abuse is a big factor as to why you seem to have a mental block/ shut down when you're intimate with someone. Counseling could help you understand why you do this, and help you get past it...

My husband is the same way. He didn't really have a relationship before me (he only had 2 one night stands), plus he was bullied pretty bad growing up. So he thought girls just didn't like him. Which...

The doctor didn't check for a urinary tract infection? Besides STD's, UTI's can cause pain in the genitals (especially when urinating), and pelvic pain. If untreated the infection can get into the...

Smoothy,

So you translate "mother and son porn" into "milf porn"? There is a big difference. One is incest with your mom. The other is just having sex with a woman a lot older than you.
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So what there are porn stars under 5 ft, flat chested, and 80 lbs! That means nothing. I highly doubt they look 9 years old. You can be completely flat chested, super short and thin and look like a...

What gets me is that she said they look like "pre pubescent" girls, like 7-9 years old. Not young teens (of course looking at young teens is wrong and illegal too). It's quite hard for an 18 year old...

Like Fr Chuck said, that pill can throw off your cycle. And probably cause spotting and such. I doubt you're pregnant since you used the pill so quickly and then used condoms safely the next two...

Are you masturbating six different times? Or like having 3 or 4 orgasms in a row? Cause it can be normal for women to have multiple orgasms back to back. If it's one time or two times a day (but...

I hate to say it but you'll probably end up miserable (at least in the sex department). It seems to go further than a low libido.. she said many times she just doesn't like sex. And she said she's...

Have some compassion for her!! Good lord. She is in pain. She is giving you oral sex 3 times a week and you're not at all thankful? You ARE getting some!

"she won't even let me touch her in any...

Wow thanks Judy!! That means a lot coming from you! :)

Wife is trying,
I'd suggest coming back after a while (a month or two) and reread the advice you got. It was great advice! I've been on the receiving end of advice too,it can sting. I didn't get...