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Has anyone been to any of their leadership courses? Know anyone who has?

Someone came to me the other day and said this “For every year you were together you will have one month of pain in the healing process”. Looks like I have 4 months of healing ahead of me. I am not...

No more limbo - we have ended things, for now. I can't tell you what the future holds - we may, or may not be able to work things out in the future. But now I live for me.

Life changes have...

The title of your thread is invalid – its not the relationship that has uncertainty, its you.

My x had insecurities with himself as well – they all were the result of something that happened in...

Thanks for your response – I am not asking people to tell me there is a chance, because as with anything there is a chance. All I am saying is, sometimes people give up too easily. There comes a...

I sometimes don't know what to post here – simply because I feel like no matter what I say/do here the only answer that seems to make sense to most is to walk away.

I will admit there is a small...

I go home for lunch. There are few days a week where people actually get together and go for lunch. This place is very “clicky” where those who have worked here for a while seem to gravitate to one...

I know I'm not busy enough – but the kicker is, its when I am at work. After work I have no problem avoiding the phone and not calling. Work is killing me – I find I am spacing my work out so I...

Since mentioning he wanted some time to think, he has never said its over.

He has chosen to go to therapy for himself – but also so that we can be better together. This is where our circumstances...

How do I curb the urge to call?

Every time I have acted on my gut I have found something to prove my gut feeling - cheating etc. You have to use rational thought and emotional in trust situations.

^^ Ya. She should come on here and read this post.

Those of us who have been through breakups knows that this is one of the major problems when it comes to a broken relationship - we over think things and make them out to be worse then they really...

She can talk to legal authority, but until she feels that her life is in danger the police will not do anything about it - I am educated in legal matters such as that - however; my point and I think...

OK - I get it now.

OK - I am confused - who is she with now? The one that beat her or Levi?

We went from not talking to talking again - but not hanging out. He contacted me first and we have been talking ever since. He suggested that we talk on a daily basis (or if I feel the need to...

Man how things change in a week

Its not cheating if its an open relationship - but he lied. You should always forgive but never forget - and forgiving doesn't mean you have to be all right with him.

I actually stopped coming to this site because of all of the mixed communication being mashed around. The whole situation is, he is not stalking her, not showing up at her home un-announced and he...

Very true! Keep up your hard work.

I was thinking about that last night - I am moving forward - but as I have written in a previous post, everything in life needs closure. Right now, I am not ready to tell him I am walking away - but...

Ideas?

Check your PM's

You're over thinking the situation - if she has never given you a reason not to believe he in the past then you can't not believe her - unless you have proof. You can't be thinking about her going...

Have you both ever talked about this in person - one on one since the breakup?

^^ you've said this before.

Thing is, a lot of the things that you keep going over in your head you have asked on here and been given very logical answers on how to approach them.

I am similar to you - while I am at work I...

I ask because maybe there are people on your messenger list that can help you talk things through.

Do you use any IM clients at your work?

I am going to talk to my therapist about this today - see what she thinks.

Thanks - any other comments and insight is greatly appreciated.

Is your work getting done?

My relationship with my dad has been improving - but I think I pushed that memory into the back of my head and never thought about it until now (mostly because I am thinking of things that could have...

You're driving yourself nuts - go out and do something. Get away from the computer - for like three days straight you have been on here. Write in a journal - something... staying inside alone is...

Even though that thought is constantly in the back of my mind (How will we get passed it if things work out) I do know that there is a way - when he and I spoke during a previous conversation we both...

When my dad left he met another women - whenever I would spend time with him, she always had to be there - I asked him many times if just him and I could spend time together - he always told me that...

Is it a subconscious thing? I feel like I trust them - I just don't open up to them affectionately, because I am afraid they will reject me.

I recently went through a very unexpected breakup with my boyfriend of 4 years.

The breakup brought a lot of issues to my attention - I have sought professional help to deal with these issues so...

Everything that comes to an end in life needs closure - funerals are closure - one person saying its over is closure - especially when someone says they need time. That could go on for forever if...

By the time we speak (If he doesn't contact me before) it will be 1.5 months since our breakup - At that point I feel I will be strong enough to be the one to put closure to the relationship.

I hear you loud and clear - as for a definitive date for re-grouping, for us there isn't one. The re-grouping timeline that has been set was set by myself - simply because a relationship needs...

He has asked me to send him an e-mail about my session today - promising?

I just have to stay positive and continue NC till my personal deadline. I think once we approach the 30 days it might be easier for me to start preparing myself to tell him to " or get off the pot"...

To be honest, I am just going to stop replying here because everything everyone says isn't enough...

I hear you - I have my moments where I am the same way. But one thing K said to me during our most recent conversation was "What would K want you to do?" So if you have the urge you sit back,...

AS in most relationships there comes a point when things get comfortable and sometimes you get too comfortable - he often stated how he didn't care how I looked, he would always love me - so I didn't...

Keeping it all in is bad - so is acting on your emotions - I know this from experience. I rushed over to my ex's house during one of our talking periods and I was ready to end it right then and...

Guys who are 19 are different then guys who are late 20's early 30's. Most men and I say men, want someone who is comfortable with who they are and what they want in life - K, knew that with me - I...

If you need help then you should seek professional advice. Because you aren't listening to anything anyone is saying here - you are making excuses for your behaviour - that's fine at first but go...

To be honest - when I was her age I didn't know what I wanted and was extremely selfish.
She sounds a lot like me when I was 18- JUST recently - and trust me, something will happen to help her...