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I am not going to MAKE him change his behavior-As you said, I can't.
I am an extremely sensitive, empathetic and compassionate person and I do realize that he issues that I can not resolve. (I never...

Thank you.

I do not crave your feedback. I chose not to take your advice. That is my choice.

I was not going to respond to any of these, because sometimes it is better to walk away. However, I did not change this around. I originally had a few separate threads. All of a sudden, I signed in,...

I don't want your advice, and that does not make me a bad person. Why do you even care? (rhetorical question). I certainly don't care what you think. If you want to get the last word, then that's...

I don't want your advice, and that does not make me a bad person. Why do you even care? (rhetorical question). I certainly don't care what you think. If you want to get the last word, then that's...

I don't want your advice, and that does not make me a bad person. Why do you even care? (rhetorical question). I certainly don't care what you think. If you want to get the last word, then that's...

If you don't think you can carry on a conversation with me, then please do not comment on my questions. I'd rather not hear your opinion. You've been rude, condescending, and combative, and I have...

1. Do you even remember my original question?:

My supervisor is really serious and gruff most of the time. However, whenever I tell him something serious or we're talking about something that is...

I agree with most of what you say here. After about the 5th or so post on here, I already decided what to do. However, people started attacking ME saying that I'm too sensitive, yada yada yada. I've...

"So, again, sorry I mistook your question about personality and reasons why he does things and talked about anything but him. My bad. I was trying to help, and clearly stumbled."

Wouldn't it make...

The only thing that I am defensive about is the fact that I say what he has been doing, and then it seems like you are saying that I'm doing something to deserve it, or it's my fault that I let it...

OK.

"I fail" haha. Don't call me dear, with that condescending attitude. I just love that people are judging me when they don't know the whole situation. I have my reasons I am dissatisfied and I don't...

There is a lot more going on at my job than what is posted here. Just know that I'm not THAT sensitive. This is just a drop in a lake. The point is, I do not deserve how I am being treated. Period.

I have decided that in the month I have off from school, I am going to look for another job.
I have spoken to friends and family about this situation, and am honestly on here because I know they are...

I am a sensitive person. I do not consider that a bad thing. I think that for them to continually say these things to me is INsensitive. I don't care if you think otherwise.

That is exactly what I am going to do, say, "My usual bird/rabbit food".
I don't react with annoyance that I know of, but maybe they can sense it.
P.S. I don't eat chicken-I used to.

Thanks.

I USED to eat chicken, sometimes. I do not anymore. I was just describing what I used to eat, because this started before I became a vegetarian.

I already decided that I am not going to say anything. I wasn't going to try and "train" them to leave me alone; I was going to address it directly. However, that is unrealistic. I am not very...

I agree; those are legitimate questions. I am just not very outspoken, which is why I haven't said anything. I mean, this really isn't that big of a deal; I don't really let it bother me or act...

I recognize that I have the ability to not let it bother me, and it does not bother me so much; I am just curious, really. Believe me, there are many things that this man does, and ways that he acts...

I see your point.

artlady:

I agree. The thing is, I try not to volunteer any personal information, but he is very nosy. So, trying to make conversation, be polite, and not be disrespectful, I answer his questions....

JBeaucaire :

What exactly am I doing that is wrong? I am just trying to understand WHY he behaves the way he does. I DO work, and I AM productive. He IS mean and nasty, and that is why I wonder...

Oh, and now my boss says I don't smile enough now. He jokingly said he's worried about me because I don't smile, and he thinks I'm sad. I told him I smile all the time, and I'm not sad. He said,...

Well, I'm not sure how bad they need me. I know they probably don't want to look around for someone else. (and I do my job well, but I'm not sure if they realize this.) I haven't looked for another...

That could be the case. However, I think he has deeper issues. He is mean and nasty a lot of the time.

I agree; it sounds like they are trying to get you to quit. I am kind of dealing with a similar situation but I'm not really sure what is going on. It almost makes you want to stay, and stand up to...

My supervisor is really serious and gruff most of the time. However, whenever I tell him something serious or we're talking about something that is serious, i.e.. Talking about when I was really sick...

Mudweiser: Yes, I agree. I need to say something. In fact, there are many other things that I am going to address, and I will address this at the same time. Thanks.

Thanks. I think you're right; the moral of the story is I just need to stand-up for myself and address it directly. However, how do I do that, I mean ignore them-w/o seeming disrespectful?

They say things like,
"What's for Lunch?"
"Just salad?"
"Oh, veggie calzone; is there any protein?"
"No Protein?", or "Where's the protein?"
"How many calories", "How much protein?"
"What do...

Thank you, that is some good advice. The only thing is, I have responded before with telling them that someone my age should get 45 grams of protein per day, I get plenty, and tried to educate them....

My boss and supervisor are OBSESSED with my eating habits! They are always making comments; I can not just eat what I want in peace. I am a vegetarian, but even before I became a full-time vegetarian...

There's an update with this ridiculous situation that I posted on the other thread, "my coworker asked me to take school off to work for her" and I need to rant for a while:
So, my boss said to me...

There's an update with this ridiculous situation, and I need to rant for a while:
So, my boss said to me that because she has done the majority of favors for me, I need to basically cover whatever...

I also think that he is mad at me, because the other woman that works here (the other days of the week) wants me to take days off from school next semester to work for her so she can go on vacation,...

I do not EXPECT compassion from him. I EXPECT him to be critical and nasty, because that is who he is, even if I am on time and do everything right. The thing that gets me is that when I came in @ 9,...

I can't quit; I need the money.

I'm not making excuses. There are REASONS I am late that I do not want to tell him because he has no compassion. I hate my job because he is a bully, and I am up late tossing and turning in bed...

My supervisor has always been an overly critical controlling bully. I am supposed to be in a little before 9am. Lately I have been getting to work @ 8:55, or 9:00. The other day, I got to the office...

It is very passive aggressive to try and make an employee quit rather than firing them. If there are productivity reasons to fire her, then you should have no reason not to address the problem...

I think you're both right, I just need to be true to myself. I will just tell them that I would like to help, but I can't do it because my grades will suffer. They will just have to take it or leave...

It sounds like this person doesn't want you to look like you know what you're doing; they probably feel threatened by you. I can relate, my supervisor where I am currently working acts similar to...

That seems like an easy thing to do, but I'm just afraid that I will look like a jerk to the boss, because she has covered for me before, and switched her schedule around completely (twice). But I...

PS-
She just left me a note last week, saying, "I am going to need some extra Saturdays off starting in January; I'll find out the dates and let you know. Just a heads up."
Instead of asking me,...

Here's a little back story:
There are two of us that work as receptionists in a small office. I work 2 weekdays, as well as every other Sat. and she works 3 weekdays as well as every other Sat. I...