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I totally agree with both of you. So basically, I need to ignore, avoid and run away whenever I see her. Hoping that eventually she will give up. Even if we're on the bus together -- I need to wait...

We are both in college. She is 1yr younger.

I will give a very brief account of events. Basically I was seeing her starting in mid September. We weren't official until November, and we lasted 2...

Moved to its own thread

After a recent discussion, my ex has agreed to stop messaging me and calling me, and talking to me -- however she continues to contact me. I've had her blocked for 9 weeks...

The situation is NOT the same. In this thread, I wanted the girl to fall for me, or at least show some interest in me.

For the new thread I do NOT want this girl to fall for me. I don't remember...

Well, I will just return to this thread if it concerns this situation (or a situation similar).
If this is in response to something: I'm pretty sure I posted something recently about wanting to stay...

Paxe, are you saying I should be passive about this, and not consciously try to improve this dimension of my life?
But then I will stay in my comfort zone and won't get anywhere! :D

All kidding...

All right. Thank you everyone!!

Maybe this is the false hope talking but... what if she contacts me?

Good point Talaniman but I didn't phrase my question properly. Maybe I should just explain what goes through my head and maybe you can attack some of my issues that way. Thank you Asking!

So I'm...

Should I enter NC mode with this girl?

I forgot to mention, I am a young man. I'm not really self conscious about my nails in particular, but it bothers me that I have no self-control.
EDIT: It bothers me sometimes when I damage my nail...

I've been biting my nails since I was a young child. I never was a "bad" biter. Most people would look at my nails and say "they're a little shorter than usual, but they're not grotestque"....

Asking, I think that post was very insightful, but it doesn't 100% apply to my situation. I was never taught to expect things like that. I definitely didn't learn this from home. Maybe I thought that...

Hmm... so it really boils down to "you can't be friends with everyone". I know that this applies after you've attempted to be friends.
There's no attempt here. Why do I expect her to want to be...

OK let's go into more detail about HOW to approach them.
So I walk into the same public place every day. Pretend it's a coffeehouse, or a food court.
I see the same people every day.
I'm at the...

Emopunk, your approach is interesting. I'll bust out my protractor when I get near to her. That should get her attention for sure :D

I agree so far with the eye contact, smiling, etc... these are...

You're right. It's a sucky feeling though. I feel like I was never given a chance. Even though nobody said I'm supposed to have a chance. Why do I feel entitled to having a chance?

As I pointed out in the thread (just now); I want to be just friends with that girl. She obviously isn't interested in more -- but I didn't think she would be. Basically being more was never really...

Believe it or not, I don't have any "plans" for her. I just want to be friends with her. I want to meet up with her so that we can be friends.

There's this girl I've been keeping in touch with. I asked her to meet up a few times, but she always turns me down. Why do I still think we can be friends?

I think you might be onto something, expert :D. I'm not going to question your advice but maybe it's time to discard some of my own beliefs about this kind of thing. These beliefs seem to be holding...

Charles, all due respect, from steps 3 onwards, your advice should only apply after you get to know someone. In general of course. Step 1 would be great, if I knew how to approach a girl to begin...

I know nothing about her. I could ask about her to friends, but even then -- I'm not allowed to talk about what they told me, because then it doesn't look good.
We don't have friends in common as...

But I am socializing and meeting new people. So far, none of this has helped me approach a girl I don't know.

But I can't approach her. I get very anxious. I say I'm going to do it, but I hesitate.

Being myself and talking and getting to know girls isn't my problem. I'm a good conversationalist I think....

I have a confidence problem that many others might also have. I have trouble approaching an attractive girl. What do I do?

If the thread is going to take this angle then maybe we should move it (I don't know how to do this). The only reason why I put it in dating was because of the "stop thinking about girls" part.
The...

School
My band
Getting maybe 20h of work a week.
Guyfriends?
Health/fitness perhaps

I've decided that I want to quit pursuing girls altogether and focus on my other priorities.
I know I'm human and subject to human needs/desires. I guess I could have them as friends or...

I'm changing the tense of my situation now :P.

I'm continuing the friends thing but I'm not 100% sure where I stand with her. She responds to my texts and we almost saw each other recently but she...

I agree with I Wish.
You need to move on. This guy doesn't deserve your thoughts. He treated you terribly.
NC for the win in this situation.

Original post is very good. Very thorough IMO.

KC and Jake, Boy doesn't know Girl too well... I mean maybe if the first real conversation goes well -- but it's really risky to "ask her out". Maybe after a FEW convos.

UhLeeUh,
Thank you for...

*take her places = bring her out with him to have fun and laugh and stuff.

Literal language switch ON.
Boy meets Girl. He awkwardly and shyly avoids her whenever he sees her, because at one time he thought she was too good for him. Now he realizes that there is nothing to...

CC, it was directed at me for sure.
I think my thread title is a tad misleading so I'm going to start a new one with literal language! Thanks for your help guys -- amhd ftw.

*a total mean-spirited person.

Mudweiser,
That post just made my day. It's easier said than done though! "nobody will know but you" I think you're onto something there!

JustCurious,
So far the only thing I'm SURE of here is...

Thanks a lot everyone. I really appreciate your feedback. I will read the sticky now.
Also: I've noticed that if I see her, in the past I was prone to just walking and getting away (avoidance). Now...

I have a very good job at the moment. I am always clean shaven. My look is pretty neutral. I could change that. To be honest, it's my attitude. I just have anxiety when I see attrative girls. I want...

OK that's not it at all. I totally did not word my question correctly.
I'm making the presumption that she can do better than me, and she won't want to stick around past 2 dates. That's all that was...

In the future I will be more literal and minimize my use of "everyday language".


no. I don't care about social standing. I'm saying that for my own confidence, it would be good.
I'm far from a...

I've known this girl for about 1 or 2 years (I can't remember which semester we were introduced) but we were only introduced once. I have since spoken to her over msn, Facebook, (you know all the...