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Don't call!! What else is there to talk about? She made her decision. The only way she will ever doubt if she made a mistake is if you don't talk to her..

Sorry but unless I'm missing something I don't see anywhere in your post that he has said he doesn't want you living with him.. You are just assuming things.

You said : "Before I brought this up...

Oh I've been there and it sucks!There's nothing you can do. The first thing you have to do is ACCEPT that it's over.. I spent over a year in denial still seeing him and letting him mess with my head....

Yes the question really is why do you stay?? Women that end up with men like these usually have issues of their own to begin with. Why would you let yourself be treated in this way? Don't you want to...

You say she is 13 years older than you? That's is quite a bit older.. She is probably ready for marriage/kids etc. Are you ready to offer her these things?

Looks like she wants to have her cake and eat it too.. Life doesn't work like that. Cut off all contact! Who cares if she wants to say goodbye 'nicely' just forget about her she's not worth it..

Stop talking to this loser! How dare he say that.. You need to love yourself more than you love him and that means doing what's good for you..

So the only way to get your confidence back is to...

I think if you truelly love someone you will make time to see them.. No matter what.

I think you've made the right decision in breaking up with her..

Although I have been guilty of the using the "we're just too different" line..

As well as "I wanna go on a break for a while"

And also ending it over text :S

I'm much more mature these...

An ex boyfriend once said to me.. " I just can't be the bf that you want me to be"..

I was thinking but what kind of boyfriend do I want you to be? I still don't know I should've asked lol

I don't think the website helped you.. lol your ex obviously still loved you and I'm sure you fed her some BS to make her come back.. "I'll never do it again etc etc." don't give people false hope!
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It is definitely not you.. But you do need to talk about it as it's not going to sort itself out.. If you're going to make it work with this guy you are going to have to talk about your feelings...

You know the saying.. "the grass is always greener on the other side".. I think that's what's happening in your case..

You have never been in a proper relationship with E.. For all you know he...

It's great that you realised that this is the best way to go so quick after the break up.. A lot of people go through denial after a break up.. me included :) lol you are on the right track be strong!

I'm going to begin with.. ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER.

He is not upset that it happened he's upset that you found out! Think about it.. If you haven't would it really have stopped? I think...

Thank you all for your replies! I feel MUCH better today really helped just letting it out.. See I'm fine when I don't have little reminders. That's why I've become such a fan of no contact! Haha..

It has definitely been a long process for me to get over him.. and a long long time passed before I ACCEPTED that it was never going to be and this was actually 6 months ago when I made the decision...

I believe in soul mates I think you ended up with yours..

Why after so many years of a happy marriage, children etc. Would you question this? Do you know how many people go through life and never...

Thank you for your replies.. Oh I've deleted everything a long time ago.. Facebook.. Changed my number and didn't give him my new one it was the only way.. Otherwise he'd always get in touch every...

It's only been 2 weeks... take it easy. At this stage you shouldn't stress about things like this just enjoy eachothers company :)

No that's the thing. For the most part I'm fine I don't think about it.. It's just when I saw this stupid update last night?

It's not him it's the situation of how it happened that I think about..

I had a set back last night! Hoping someone can talk me through this.. For the most part I have completely moved on from my ex.. I have had absolutely no contact with him for the last 6 months.....

If he wants to cheat there is always time to do it believe me. If he's done it once he will do it again no question about it. What kind of a person cheats on his daughters mother while she is STILL...

It wasn't cheating if you were not together at the time.. But if you feel that now there is no trust anymore then there's no point for you to be together anymore.. Once the trust is broken there's no...

In my opinion he did cross a line.. I have been to a strip club with my boyfriend and if he did that I wouldn't have been too happy about it.. It was disrespectful.

I do agree that this is a...

I think changing your number is a good solution.. But you have to completely accept that it's over for good first..

I did this, changed my number because every time my ex would get in touch I...

Hmmm I'm kind of intrigued lol I don't think my boyfriend would go for it though!

Yeah that's thing I don't I could make it work because of the jealousy factor.. I wonder if it would work if it were two guys and one girl? Hehe

Sorry but I have to agree with everyone that it seems he just wants to have his cake and eat it too..

This is not at all negative I'm just really curious in regards to this situation lol.. How can you be in love with/ be attracted to 2 people in the same way? For me I feel like this situation can...

Years ago I went out with a guy like this for about a year.. So I understand how you feel. I can't tell you how much my confidence suffered because of this. And to this day he has still not been with...

Interesing.. It doesn't usually work because people don't usually like to share the one they love with someone else.. I guess in your case it does because they are friends.. I wonder though are you...

If you really want her back you have to accept what she is saying.. Yeah you didn't cheat but she believes you did and this is why she is acting the way she is.. I think she still loves you and it...

I understand why it upsets you but you can't change him.. So either accept that it's not a big deal and let it go or let him go and find someone that does not look.. It's really that simple :)

I know how hard it can be to let someone you love go.. But she needs time to experience life and grow.. Getting married at 21? You wouldn't want her to get caught up in the fantasy of it then wake up...

I'm sorry but if they are an ex there is a reason for that so they can't be that amazing.. It is obviously feelings that are clouding your judgment to mislead you into 'idolising' them.. As time...

Yes actions will speak louder than words so stop saying and do whatever it is you have to do to be a good boyfriend.. With time things will settle down and you will get the relationship back on track...

Yess I get that you don't want to hurt her but the longer you leave it the worse you're going to hurt her...

If you don't see a future for you and her then you got to be an adult and end it

Think about it.. You wouldn't be having these feelings if he was genuine.. Don't ever doubt yourself. Women have amazing intuition when it comes to these sorts of things.

You know the answer...

A relationship is supposed to make your life better not worse.. and there doesn't seem to be much good in this one from your post..

Yes it's going to hurt her if you end it but don't you think...

You got to wait till she comes to you.. Speaking from personal experience she has probably always had feelings for this ex as if she didn't she wouldn't be THIS confused after being with you for a...

My ex boyfriend came across as the most innocent most trustworthy person in the world. Lol until one night we were out in a club together and he went to the bathroom.. about 5 minutes later a girl I...

I think she will try and contact you again and probably just when you start moving on ( ex's are annoying like that lol) but in my experience once a person has made up their mind that they don't want...

Even if he did say to you lets get back together would ever really be able to trust him after all of this? I know I wouldn't.. Seen in time and time again even from personal experience men like him...

I know you said that age is not an issue here but I think this is a fundamental reason why this is happening..

You are at different stages of your lives.. She may seem mature to you but in...

Yes you are over reacting... this only happened once years ago. You have been with your girlfriend for 4 years don't you think that worth a little bit more than what happened between her and this...

I kind of regret telling the girlfriend because it just caused drama and they actually broke up for a little while because she said to me that she had always had suspisions about me and him.. lol...

Do you think that maybe these feelings are coming to the surface now because your current relationship is rocky? If she was the one then nothing would have stopped you from being with her back...

Yeah it's an amazing feeling! And the sooner you do it the sooner you can finally get over it.. But you have to be in a certain mindset where you have actually decided that that's it and there no...

Wow! It's a bit scary how similar your story is to my own!lol

I did the same... Kept in contact/ sleeping with my ex for a VERY long time after the break up.. this messed with my head to the point...