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Ever since we broke up she has done this so many times, why have I not noticed this pattern. It is clearly just a check-up to see if I'm still sitting around waiting. Every damn time, she contacts...

Yes. Such a dumb pattern it is. Still chit chatting here and there. All initiated by her, and I know she doesn't want anything serious with me. I'm ready to disappear but wondering if I should exit...

Funny Talaniman. "used for sex" I think we used each other.

Sad soul, Samesame. You are both correct in what you say. However, this is a pattern that keeps repeating itself and is always...

I wish I was stronger and meaner. This is just never going to end. Gosh!!

The ignoring was clearly getting to her. Her away messages were very negative and some of them were obviously directed to...

Thanks for the great pep talk samesame and everyone. I live by your last sentence now "It's time for you to get back your self respect! and get back your balls!"

She has tried to text message me 2...

Thanks smoothy. It all makes sense 100%.

The problem with all this is that I have dated hundreds of girls and had many girlfriends in my life time. The past ex is the only one that actually means...

Yes something is really bothering her. She is definitely acting like I'm the one that broke up with her. It is almost like Mckenzie always preached a long time ago. He used to say, immediate zero no...

Ok so I don't really have anyone to talk about the issues in my life so I bring another tale to you all. I've been dating all sorts of girls. The ones that I go on dates with have not been what I'm...

Thanks for checking back. I'll try to keep this short.

So about 6 weeks went by that I had not spoken to my ex. All of that changed around The beginning of December. Her mother called me to see...

Well samesame. A lot has changed in about 2 months. What is with your negative attitude? I hope everything is OK on your end. Your tone has never been so mean and bitter. I guess I will be feeling...

Well looks like my relationship has died out, just like this thread. I'm sure these will be my last updates. I'm not sure if I would even call them updates but I don't have a personal journal so...

Send someone over to get this cat. Someone that won't tell her about what you have been up to.

Unless you want her to keep this cat to contact you in the future.

Ok so I'm at work on my computer yesterday minding my own business. I'm about 1 week away from 2 months of No contact with my ex. And out of no where an AOL instant message pops up on my screen. This...

Youneek. Be happy that she is being honest with you because I see her email as truthful. Be happy you got a good answer why she broke up with you.

Now is the time where what you did or didn't do...

Well I had originally left out all the details about the lyme and stuff because I was worried she might stumble across this story some day. But at this point I really don't care. Jaydee, I'm glad at...

Your situation is rather strange. Are you 100% positive she isn't seeing anyone? Did you do something real crazy that scared or hurt her? If you are sure about her not seeing someone then I would...

Yeah well I tried for 2 months straight. I called her and called her and called her, which she would only return calls and never initiate them. We would talk, and meet up. I went to 2 of her...

Yes smoothy, what you say makes sense.

I think this Thursday will be 5 weeks since I last saw her and had a voice conversation. So I guess it has been close to 36 days of no contact. It is strange...

If she is interested she will answer or call back. You will be shot down many more times than having success. I would call one last time on Saturday. Don't forget that text messaging wasn't around...

You also ask "how long should I wait before trying again?" I think the longer the better. That is part of the mystery. You wait too long and she starts to wonder where mysterious Tyne26 went. That is...

I would steer clear of the text messages. To them it might seem like you are hiding behind text messages and afraid to call them. I could see where some girls might be comfortable but the majority...

Sorry all this has to be a game but that is just how this all works. Your number one issue might be coming out and telling a girl exactly what is on your mind. Such as if you think she is very...

Boy my first two exes were honestly total pieces of crap. They were cheaters and I had no choice but to get rid of them. The first one was supposedly the love of my life and found out she had cheated...

"You have a wonderful life to live because of who you are and I
wish you could focus on you and living that life for you. I do hope one
day we are able to start over with all the right steps...

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Samesame. I wouldn't make any more attempts ever again. You have tried just like I have, you exhausted every way to win her back. Over and over again. Your story is very similar and we are both in...

Well I decided to take her stuff to her mothers. That way I don't have a reason to contact(text) her. So I ended up contacting her mom to let her know I'll be up their way and that I have some things...

Thanks tal. I'll limit my contact with her cousin.

Samesame. Yes things are starting to set in pretty good. Rather bummed out and low for the past few days. I think it has been about 10 days...

Don't let him call you needy because he is the rude piece of crap. I'm sorry but this behavior can only get worse. My last girlfriend used to complain about different things in our relationship but I...

Well samesame. You were correct about when I should have done absolutely no contact. You see she missed me the most after the 2nd grad party. I found it strange she missed me more after the 2nd party...

Yes Mckenzie. I saw the sister in law today and told her that what she thought was a good idea was completely idiotic. I must have come across as so needy and helpless to my ex. All of this has...

I regret having this needy conversation. I must of seemed so needy and pushed her even further away. I don't think it was good. What I am sure about is that I should have listened to everyone's...

I guess I should look back on how this all played out. I contacted her for weeks on end and didn't really get anywhere besides went to some grad parties and nothing really happened. I was her friend...

Yes she is throwing me bisquits. I'm not eating them right away but ,I'm letting them sit on the floor for half a day or more and then eating them. I will continue to listen to you all. I'll stop...

talaniman agrees: I think she is used to the attention, but is he ready for friendzone??


Friendzone. That sounds like a scary place I don't want to go.

Yeah. Before when she would text me I would get all excited and call her. But she only sent a few texts in the past. I was the one who was always chasing her.

I know contacting her first is out...

Ok. So about 4 days have gone by since the last text message episode. I have not initiated any contact to her. I used to contact her almost everyday for 3 weeks up until these parties. And I quite...

Yes talaniman. I am my own worst enemy. You are very correct again. I texted her back 24 hours later and said "Yeah I had fun, Thanks for the the 2go food". She text back "no prob."

I can...

So I went to the 2nd grad party. Boy did I feel strange. Ex met me outside and we went in and met everyone. It is hard to hug and converse with all the relatives when you think you may never see them...

I agree talaniman. I was all about strategy in winning her heart back. There is no strategy when it comes to getting a loved one to come back. But what I do see is that being their friend is...

Boy oh boy. Prepare yourself for the worst. If she shows up with some guy that will set you back pretty hard.

Samesame, Mckenzie. Look at all our stories. We were dumped, tried hard to get back...

Is there anyone here that I can mail my phone to? I want to mail someone my phone and they are not allowed to mail it back to me for a set amount of months. But of coure I'll supply return postage. I...

I know exactly what you mean. In my mind I think that if she sees me more then she will think about me more. Or this could be her chance to try and get back together. But we have all been through...

I once saw Mckenzie tell someone to take their cell phone and seal it up in plastic baggies. And then go to a deserted place and bury it for a while(months). I'm really starting to consider that...

Also, why the text messages? Why can't she just call me?

Through all this time she has genuinely not seen anyone. Several people have confirmed this and she has told me too. Her dad even said she...

Boy trying to figure out where the hell I left off. Sorry this might be long. For those out there wondering if they should be friends with their ex then read up and decide for yourself. It is now 2...

Harlos. I wrote her a 7 page letter that explained how I felt about her. I gave it to her 2 days after we broke up. So basically she has this letter to read anytime she is wondering how I feel. But I...

Thanks for everyone's advice, I appreciate it all. I should have maintained no contact from day one in order for her to miss me but I kind of messed that up. I keep going through this mystery process...

To be honest. I haven't been doing anything but staring at the ceiling and the sky. I have no will to work or interest in any of my hobbies. All of my creativity is shot and I can't stop thinking...

Yeah. I understand what you mean. I think part of all this is because I spent too much time to myself when we were together. I got too caught up in my hobbies etc and didn't spend as time with her as...