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Jake 2008
I think you may have had a different focus on what's been asked and said; perhaps you missed my last reply and some relevant points?

Due to a 'recent' disability he is no longer a wage...

Joypulv
You’ve identified his bitterness as have I... It sure has been obvious and the end is near

DoulaLC
There is a smattering of convenience for both of us here I will agree. I would identify...

Odinn7
I appreciate the correction :)

DoulaLC
Your ideas are very sound indeed. But we'll stay put for now and not purchase something together

Talaniman
I certainly have a true picture why...

Cat1864
You are not a Marriage Expert fornothing... You’ve hit a number of issues that we have discussed in counselling ourselves

The "does he have any real say or do I over ride anything that...

Smoothy
Thank you... there is no expectation to bail him out; our financial arrangement is separate from one another. Much to his previous experience and mutual desire.

Yes in the course of our...

My 55year old boyfriend thinks he can get a Bank Loan for a house of his own... At this age he wants to go into debit when others generally aspire to be debit free!

He has always been jealous of...

Sadly you’re married to a man who’s married to the internet and porn, not to you as a woman. He cares very little for your needs and he will not return to the loving person he was… Be that it was...

I once heard; that a person's character is but half formed till after wedlock. Looks like the better half of his character is gone and you're stuck with who he really is underneath all that...

“Whatever” means you're taken for granted and or disrespected… At 21 your daughter obviously has no life skills and monetary responsibilities! Perhaps with a bit more assertiveness and explanation...

Who so ever does the cheating/damage does the repair work… It is their responsibility to answer questions and rebuild the bridge of trust! They work on this; for as long as it takes the other person...

Hello again :)

One thing about ice Giedre is it melts on its own… So try to be patient and hold off on the honesty. Although I agree with you it is a form of punishment and manipulation that both...

Being quiet is really not that bad to some talkative people. Although some prefer a responsive wife/audience, in that they are heard; acknowledged and want your opinion/ideas. Imagine the...

I seem to identify with this… He’s a good provider yet lacks the overall support valve when you need him. Perhaps he’s the type that’s wired for work and lacks the perception/sensitivity for anything...

Sure enough friends are important at any age, and some of us still keep in contact with those from our high school days… Although, this will eventually fade as we all go our separate ways in life.
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After two months of dating him I would not consider that cheating or being a tramp. You were still sorting out your head from the previous relationship to commit to someone who appealed to you etc....

I see that two major stress factors had happened one after the other… and he sort to escape these pressures and feelings/grief via the internet; a place to avoid reality and get validation/support...

A child asks his Mother; Mummy! Do all fairy stories begin with “Once upon a time?”
Mother says: NO sweetheart – sometimes they begin with, “I'll be working late at the office!”

You're right to...

If I understand correctly; we are not talking about a boyfriend, we're past that stage and are now at fiancé status with this sort of horrid behaviour…

Evidently he is saying in his own way; that...

Your feelings do count and your husband “agrees that they have been terribly disrespectful toward both of you for a long time.” It was amiss of him to invite them without consulting you; I agree. But...

I can understand your boyfriends thinking up to a point. You're both young? Some boys/men are more independent from their families compared to us women who keep their family ties strong… I accept the...

Let me ask you Tinbuktum; would you go swimming in the sea where there are RED FLAGS posted along the beach? I think you are intelligent for me to say that you would not.

So let's just say this...

From your previous post - July 2012; I wager HE wants a Divorce due to your insane jealousy! Neither he nor any man would care to be intimate with a jealous, immature, interrogating lunatic;...

I shall refer to this in your next post; "Is my marriage over?..."

Dear Giedre,
Thank you for your post, providing a bit more background and update. You truly are a giving personality and blessed that your other children do not take advantage of you. But I hasten...

“…you didn't want 'A' mistake to ruin your relationship.” None of us do… and I feel angry along with you! But this is no ordinary mistake January2013 and you know it!

For now you take deep...

You have availed yourself to being used and relied upon for years and not just in the last six months! You now see the results of your type of parental generosity! It does not make for an...

Yes you can run for help; but YOU CAN'T HIDE!

Fact is; you enable your Husband's behaviour whereby he feeds off your weakness to get away with murder or in this case; steal Meds, threaten physical...

There are three issues here; Boyfriend, his Sister's behaviour, by her borrowing money and her comments that affect your emotional well-being. In a relationship there are but two people I consider;...

Have I read this correctly;” I have been dating a bloke for 4mths…”? Given its longevity I fail to see the level of devastation when you're supposedly mature aged. How could this possibly be...

When it comes to Step-Daughters; I have but one who happens to be a lovely young married woman; although her ‘present’ house keeping skills are untidy to put it politely... When they visit us, our...

Sounds like you're a very loving family guy Artizam… With a good head on your shoulders! I can see your head ticking over the math; pros and cons of spending time with your Family – 35k, verses a...

Here you say; SHE is an extremely callous lady, is a completely insane woman, keeps creating trouble, and she will ruin our lives… I think you have it all wrong nehha11!

It's not her, but YOU who...

From the outside looking in; I suspect there is nothing creative or exciting in your present life to distract you from this mediocrity of thought and focus on your estranged boyfriend! I believe in...

If this was a baseball game; it would be three strikes and you are out! Goodness knows how many times he has tried to steal second or third base before hitting a home run!

The analogy is; you are...

Looks like we have two different personalities; one a bit quiet/boring and the other more social and outgoing? In the beginning these opposite traits appealed and attracted you to one another… 7...

Since I arrived here a bit late to answer your question, I thought of sharing with you instead, and believe me you're not alone in this retched feeling. Wondergirls advice has even given me a new...

If I have understood you correctly, the issue is; you not knowing her, a Facebook photo and him not telling you of this particular invite over to your place when you were away? Considering he...

Let us FORGET the personal issue with your Mother in law Katy; she is not going to change, she does not have too and it does not matter in the scheme of things; unless you want to go blue in the...

I sometimes wonder if that person would act so very playful if their girlfriend was in the same room; by flirting with a female co-worker. It also appears that it takes very little for you to...

Ruth, you must use the Internet and search for; Women shelters in South Africa. From where I sit in Australia I cannot (physical) hold your hand and take you out of this darkness. However, GOD can...

Fact is; your generation (not all) are so screwed up worrying about Facebook, texting each other, waiting for a reply, getting emotional (sometimes irrational) about why someone has not replied or...

Lets put it this way; if she asked you, …how would you FEEL if Mom moved in and our sex life, romance, privacy and spontaneity in life 24 7 move out! Would you still be worried about who does the...

Resentment builds up over time and makes good if you want a feature brick wall in your marriage! If for whatever reason you have built it, be it that he is no longer the same nice smiley personable...

Further note; a baby boom can occur in any country at a time when there is economic prosperity, medical science and even for propaganda reasons etc. Historically and using 1935 to 1957 as an...

Between those dates; the trigger was WAR, WWII and the Great Depression.
Some countries encouraged their women to have children in aid of economic growth there after. When service men returned home...

What is going on inside that head?
Plain and simple mate; She's NOT THAT INTO YOU!

If a Ms. Sparkling arkling eyes has to change her phone number; I beg the question as to what's really going on...

Dear little sister 83; 10 days ago you had a problem with a best friend and now it seems the real underlying problem is with your boyfriend! Apparently you care too much for others whilst neglecting...

Not knowing your country of origin and hobbies makes it a bit hard to advise you; whereas in Australia its pretty laid-back, and friendly. America I am still to find out next month, Europe and Asia...

What a fantastic job you both are doing with W! Others may say you are a bit too involved, but on the strength of it; you care to oversee this little mans personal development and growth as if he...

GRANDMA

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