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And I think 3% may be a bit generous.

Anyway, she's gone. It will be hard to accept this but you must. This is the perfect time to immerse yourself in something new and exciting (like taking up a...

She wants time? Give it to her.

Simply disappear. Don't call her or even go to places she frequents (within reason). There is an outside chance that she may begin to sniff around, but that isn't...

Those feelings are perfectly natural. You're still in a state of grieving.

That said, do not dwell on those feelings. If you feel them start to bubble up, find something that you like to do to...

To tell you the truth, I don't think she knows what it means. Anyway, you should put some distance between you and her for now. Pushing her to find out what's wrong is the last thing you want. Living...

My old ex used to call me her "teddy bear". So I know at least one of them is true.

As for why women leave? Maybe they want someone else to do the things you listed.

First... please use punctuation, reading one LONG run on sentence isn't pleasant.

Second... You can't get her. She already has a boyfriend. Leave her alone and find someone else. If she's willing...

I wouldn't call it good terms (but I was the dumpee), but I'm over her and look back on those times with fondness, not regret or anger. She didn't do anything terrible while we were together, and I...

Hello everyone!

Today is my ex's birthday. While we've been apart for over 6 months and I'm completely over her. However, I would like to acknowledge her birthday, as it is a big thing to her. I...

That's a good site too!

BigNe, you have to tell HER about your feelings about the sex issue. She won't know unless you tell her directly. If she does care about you, she will try to make things more comfortable for you.

Forget about her. It's that simple, although very difficult to put into practice.

No contact will help you immensely.

Yeah, it is a funny saying. But it's also pretty appropriate.

@Stunning
Your day is much closer than you think!

Don't worry, sypher. You've come to the right place if you want to get help. Although it will hurt like heck for a while, you will become a stronger, wiser person.

As for me, she's contacted me...

I agree with everything you've said, except for placing a time on it. Only you know when you're ready to start another relationship, but putting time constraints on it just puts undo pressure on...

Talk with your partner about it. Once the sex life dies, it's only a matter of time before the relationship follows suit.

So true. I thought I'd go down this road, cursing women and becoming quite misogynistic. But in the end, I'd end up a bitter old loser, not being able to accept my responsibility in a failed...

I guess it's one of those social norms. Men are just expected to make the first move, even if the woman is head over heels for the guy. I used to think that way, waiting for the woman to make the...

Skell and Chuff

Thanks for the advice.

No more analysis. She broke NC, I've moved on, I'm happy.

LET'S CELEBRATE!! 1111!! 1! LOL

I could name several people on this site that I would prefer this happen to rather than myself, you included. Don't worry, life has a funny way of working itself out. By staying positive, positive...

I can't say that I "broke" her. I went into NC, sent one Happy New Year's message, and then got on with my life. She just happened to IM me, wondering who I was (I take it she doesn't remember my...

That's how I'm going to play it. I have other things of more pressing concern than her at the moment.

I've thought about that as well. I decided to give her the benefit of the doubt and assume she'd forgotten. For all I know she could have known exactly who I was and played dumb on purpose to see if...

Yeah, I've reflected on this, but I try not to give her so much of my thought space (she's had enough). I chalk to it up to sheer curiosity, not any attempt to reconcile. I honestly don't think...

True. It took me a while to believe this. But it's funny that she starts sniffing around now when other women have shown interest in me! Oh well, I'll continue to play it close to the vest, and live...

Hello Everyone.

You all know my story, so I won't bore you. Suffice it to say, I haven't heard from the ex in almost 3 months... until today. I was on Yahoo messenger when she sends me an I'm...

Hey Geoff.

I'm happy that you've made real steps in your healing process. Changing your number can feel good, as you sever ties with things that brought you pain. If she wants to contact you, she...

Tal, if he wants to get her back, how will ignoring her help him reach that?

OLG, just leave her alone. No need to go begging to apologize. If she took offense to that, let her tell you that...

Chuff and Tal, thanks for answering my question. It makes sense to me now. I know if I set my mind to it, I can do it!

Moving on is your first priority. Cut contact with EVERYTHING that reminds you of the ex. THe last thing you should do is contact them. Use this time to grieve for you loss and heal. Only time can...

Nice thread...

I've made a commitment ot get into the gym when school starts up again. I've always thought there was a very handsome guy underneath all my fat. I will use the pain of my loss as...

What did you do to get to this state of mind?

I did do that in the course of the relationship. She laughed at tons of my jokes and we'd talk and joke in the most weird places. As for her not contacting me, it's either she wants nothing more to...

I've reached that same conclusion myself. I also feel the same way about my ex, as I want her to come back on her own, rather than coming back out of guilt or some misplaced responsibility to make me...

She said this many times during the relationship. It became something of an ego stroke for myself, as it felt good for someone to tell you how great you are. She has a fair bit of insecurities, as...

She gave me that line constantly! At times I wished she would just accept how great of a person she was and that she DID deserve someone like me. I know that I'm a catch, as I truly value and care...

You make good points. I've let her go, as she feels more connected to people she's known for a couple of months ans felt her LTR boyfriend was worthy of the boot. I like the part about her life being...

Hello everyone. I'm just wondering how much age and perceived immaturity have to do with a relationship ending. My ex is 18 when she left. And I know others here whose ex's were young (under 21)....

Dear Wildcat...

How do you show an ex that you aren't this way anymore?

I thought this "new year" stuff was just crap when I first heard it. But I do feel better that I can say that everything happened last year. I look forward to 2007.

Thanks, Geoff. It's nice to know someone cares about me.

You make many good points, and I know you're right. It's just that I can't see this right now. I know I'll come out of this eventually. But...

Why would her life not be pretty good. She's out of a relationship that caused her a lot of pain apparently (ours, pain that I never knew existed), has an apparently great group of friends, is into a...

I've done a good bit of focusing on myself. I've analysed my life and found what I'm uphapy with and am trying to change said things.

I think what's most bothering me is the feeling that my ex...

Very cool. Jrussole is uncanny with her comments.

Thanks for the support. I've been told by many that I am more mature that usual for my age. But I still feel an attraction to "immature" women. Maybe because I didn't date in high school. I sure hope...

In a strange way, this gives me a sense of closure. Now I know there is absolutely no posiblilty of us coming back together. I don't have a myspace page (and I never will), so I only see her profile...

Thank you for the support, Geoff. I understand everything you've said. Last night was just a relapse. After thinking about it, I know that I would have made a very grave mistake. I came here to share...

You are right. Maybe this was only a moment of weakness. I will continue with no contact. I don't need to prove to her that I still care, I always will.

I think this all spawned from her having a...

Be honest and tell your boyfriend everything. It will hurt, and your boyfriend won't be too happy, but it will save you from the soul-killing guilt that will consume you if you don't tell him.

That makes a lot of sense. But are you in still in contact with this guy? I could do this, but it's not what I want. She knows the good times we had together and (hopefully) she will not forget them....

You know my story, You know what I've been through. How can I not be healthy enough to have a friendship? I do consider myself a great friend.

I know she can just write me off for the rest of her...