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I need some third person advice so I don't freak out. My daughter hasn't seen her father in two years. In the past five years she has seen him maybe ten times during supervised visitations with a...

I agree with not letting the children get their hopes up and keep your affections discreet, friendly.

It's easy to forget your problems when you just enjoy your time together and then part ways to...

You're on the right track now. Good for you. If you don't have a lot of family around, then get together with your friends or make new ones, even doing different things with your kids, to get your...

I couldn't rep you again, Homegirl, but you're exactly right. It's a poor example to the children (let alone dangerous) to allow this guy to remain in their lives. Hope she sticks to it and keeps...

It does hurt when someone chooses an addiction over you.

It is not possible for the addict to love. An addict is numb to emotion.

You are intelligent, so follow through and keep him away from...

You're welcome. You sound like you're on the right track. Taking care of yourself, while you're taking care of three children is definitely a plateful for the best of us.

It's never too late...

I suggest slowing waaay down. Being separated and facing divorce can feel like a ride on a runaway train and you don't want to be a train wreck.

First of all, I agree with the others. You...

Tell him confidence is sexy and so is a man who has his own life and interests outside of the relationship... that way there is actually something to talk about when he calls.

Insecurity is a turn...

A part of loving someone is putting their needs before yours. It is wanting the best for that person. Therefore, you do NOT love her. You don't even love yourself.

You are feeding your ego...

I was wondering, too. Glad to hear from you.

This guy has serious issues and will only bring you pain and unhappiness.

You can't help him. So, help yourself. Saying you're done to...

Yes, I agree not to play games like making him jealous. You are young and inexperienced. These situations are how you learn and grow.

Be honest with him. You can ask him straight up.

If...

I agree with all the others. Wipe the dust off and get down from the shelf he has put you on, just for safe keeping, and move on, without him!

Well, she can't have it both ways. Sleeping with you while she's out looking for someone new for some excitement! Come on. Give her what she wants and needs. Freedom. Do the same for you. No...

Despite what you may think of yourself, you sound like you have a level head and you have not been abused in the past nor have you witnessed it growing up... that's why that little voice in your head...

You ask why men just can't be men and want to have relationships with us.

Men can and do.

We teach others how to treat us.

You are allowing this man to do this to you.

I know how...

You sound positive and strong. Keep it up. It will get better. Much, much better!! Every time you feel the guilt or have second thoughts and doubts, push them right out of your head and think...

The guilt is normal. Synnen is so right. Someday it will be gone. You'll get stronger and stronger with each step you take in the right direction. Just be safe. Take care

Wow, I've been away and have to catch up. Sorry you're feeling like the book has been written, read and stuck on a shelf. Hope you're feeling better.

Listen, I could tell you what you already...

I'm happy he is out of the house. Things happen for a reason. You did take a big step. Follow through. Stay strong.

All I can say is BE FIRM. I know you don't want to use the help that is available to you. But at least back up what you say and what you want by your ACTIONS. Lock him out. Tell him you will...

Hello Loves Animals,

Thinking about you and hoping you update soon and more importantly that you are all right.

Everyone has their breaking point when enough is enough. I hope for the best...

You sound like you're beginning to think you are your own person. That's good.

I hope it's not too much longer that you make the bold move that needs made.

Just a reminder to make sure...

Glad to hear you're still okay.

YOU are not a loser. You're just living with one.

And, yes, the court stuff will take forever.

You know what you have to do. When you're strong enough,...

I think you're just attracted to him. No big deal. And no guilt either. Like Taliman said, you can't help your feelings. I suspect they'll fade in time anyway.

You're right about seeing his...

Yeah, I agree that lying about her age is a very bad idea. This is why teens having sex is a bad idea. They're not equipped to deal with the physical, emotional and financial consequences.
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Wanting to discuss any matter that is important to you shouldn't be dismissed as "you're too heavy". The red flags are he can't communicate, you don't trust him and he drinks too much leading to...

Hello and welcome.

How much time do you spend with this friend and how long have you been married?

Are you just physically attracted or is it more?

Are your needs being met by your...

Before you start thinking abortion, get the pregnancy test. You could save yourself all this stress.

Remember, birth control is not 100 percent effective, doubling up methods such as her being...

You're welcome.

By the way, I'm all for trying new things. That's what life is all about. But when the "new" thing is a known thing that could ruin your life... well, you know. I'm getting off...

The authorities would have to be contacted to pursue charges against you.

I'm from the U.S. If you were here, you would not be charged unless you got her pregnant after you turned 18.

I do...

I did the best I could with your post. Smaller summaries are better. You'll get more replies.

I'll answer each question:

1. Give her the space she asked for.
2. There is nothing wrong...

Iwish is right on.

You are not a joke. Your needs are not being met, even after you've expressed them, which hurts your feelings, all by someone who claims to love you. It's confusing.
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I would need to know more about his relationship with the ex before I'd call it a red flag, but it is a legitimate concern.

Once you've done what Paxe suggested and talked about this and you are...

Unfortunately it is not strange at all. Teenagers having babies is very common. What's important, if they're going to keep the baby, is that they get along, whether they're in a romantic...

She probably also wants what she once had--a future as wide open as the sky. When you met, she was most likely a carefree teenager. That's not who she is now. She is going to be a mother soon. ...

I can't add much more to all that's been said on here but to say I agree with all the answers/advice.

How sad that this boy is supposed to just wait it out until his dad gets his s**t together. ...

You need to go to court and petition for a name change. Consulting an attorney is best. The father needs to be notified also, either through the mail or proper publication.

Need more information. I'm assuming you have visitation rights. Are they to be supervised? Why did she get sole legal custody?

You always have "rights" to your children unless they are...

This man is not emotionally available. He is married. You are fulfilling his needs right now. He is number one in his mind. Jake is right on. You are only getting one half of the story.
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I'm sorry to hear that it has gone this way, though I'm not surprised.

She needs to be held responsible for her own actions. Maybe jail might be a wake up call.

I feel for you. I know...

If you've been on suboxone, I'm assuming that was to wean you off a drug and you probably should not have been prescribed Lortab. I'm just suspecting that your tolerance to pain medication is pretty...

Oh, I forgot to add that if you're trying to help someone and you sense it's an addiction thing, then unless they realize what they are doing is not healthy, there won't be much you can do. Like any...

When you use the words "won't leave someone alone" it makes me think of a stalker. If someone is obsessing on someone and that someone wants them to leave them alone, then there's a definite...

Patience, patience.

Think of life like an amusement park, so much to see and do. So exciting. Some rides are our favorite and we want to go on them over and over. Then the ride is shut down,...

Hey Noney, why so down? Something else going on?

What I think is that, yes, life does go on and you know that.
I also think that after a long time has passed that our minds only let us remember...

Well, you stayed true to your user name Let It Be.
Well done. (I'm referring to the $500 in stuff you left behind).

You made the right decision for sure, but just in case you're tempted, DO NOT...

I do understand and I'm certainly not angry at you. I get angry at the whole situation and many like it. But it will get better. I, too, think you will get rid of him... eventually.

Just...

If your plan fails, and he doesn't go to jail, which it doesn't look like he will since you're helping his case, I'd use the police to get him out. That's what I did.

I understand wanting to...

I couldn't rep you, Noney, but you're absolutely 100% correct.