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NC is the best thing right now. The fear of out of sight out of mind is natural, but if its true, is this girl really who you want to be with? Someone who was with you for two years, can...

Hey idunnno. Your question is one that most if not all of us on this board has initially come across. "How do we make them come back?" "How do we make them see it the way I do?"

The answer is...

I would back your idea of taking it slow, if you really mean it. I'm not a fan of defining it as casual, yet you guys are kissing, and everything else. I won't speak for you or anyone else, but I...

Take a look at my post on No Contact on my experience with it. I'm not saying that it will bring her back. It provides reasons for doing No Contact, which you are not doing.
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Sometimes the person leaving has a difficult time and has as I would call it withdrawals. You are out of their life because that's what they wanted, but now that you are, they still want that...

Talaniman, thanks for making that clear. It's a process and it takes effort on working through things, which is true for a relationship that didn't experience a break up.

Personally, I am faced...

I had class with her, so we did have face to face contact. Sometimes we would talk, small talk to keep things 'pleasant'. Other than that, I just did it.

It was hard to have lost her, but for my...

NC is a big topic on this board, and the main question is usually will it bring my ex back? The answer to that is Don't do it to bring your ex back. Do it because it helps your healing process. ...

What's done is done. You broke NC. Only you will know if you are truly over it.

The important thing is to focus on yourself, and not how he might feel if you threw his friendship back in his...

I've been there. I saw my ex with new guys, and it felt exactly the way you described it. It hurts, but it also helped me in a way to move on. It was kick by reality.

Someone shared this with...

Talked about it, and as anyone would guess, there's no good outcome from it. We weren't together, she went out with guys, says nothing happened. I believe nothing happened, but the fact she did go...

Why do you continue talking to her, knowing that what she tells you confuses you and I'm sure doesn't make you happy? If she loves you and such, she wouldn't being doing those things.

I guess curiosity killed the cat, but it's going to bug me not knowing and my imagination will get the best of me. What a place to be in.

I do agree with you. I know that we aren't the same people as we were before, hopefully she grew and is more mature and ready. Is it fair to ask her not to speak to the guys that she met during the...

She contacted me and we decided to talk on the phone. Which lead to seeing each other in person. She explained how she felt, and it wasn't easy for her. Said that she missed me and realized how she...

Im in a similar situation after being with someone for 2 years. She suggested the friend thing, but it hurts too much for me. I still care about her and would not be able to be a friend after what...

I really thank everyone for the support and responses. It's good to know that Im not facing it alone completely. It is confusing because I can't talk to the person causing it. I wish I could, but I...

Thanks for going through the whole post. I did respond with a short reply,which was followed up by another email asking how I was doing. I didn't respond and that has been a week ago, with no...

There's probably some underlying issue that is not allowing her to be happy. A break may sometimes be an easier transition to a break up for the person breaking up. If you've been miserable for a...

I was open about my emotions and feelings toward her. She meant the world to me and I treated her the best I could. I respected her, and gave her everything I could. This is what makes it hard. She...

I;ve given this some thought. I was surprised and saddened to hear that she was open to seeing other people. It made me think that she didn't care about us or our old relationship, which made me...

All of the pain that we are feeling is just apart of love. Love and pain go hand in hand. The level of hurt that we are facing shows how compassionate each of us are. It's a great idea to post...

"Those that get chased, runs."

Feelings can seem that they change over night. My ex's feelings "changed over night," but really it's not being truthful with the other person. Regardless of what the reasons are.

It's normal to...

Think about it seriously... why do you want the other girl? Is it because she was someone that you couldn't have, but now could possibly pursue?Are you trying to catch her on the rebound? You tell...

What ever she is doing now, should not matter to you. Easy said than done right, but really, what does it change? You guys aren't together, so she can do whatever she wants. I don't want to sound...

Have some comfort that you are not the first to experience this situation. As you will see from this board, there are many others (unfortunately) that have faced this and are experiencing this heart...

I'm not sure how to be partly there, not as a friend, and be cordial. It's so damn hard to talk to someone that you two had so much feelings for, but having the situation change. She have her cake...

Looks like you've answered your own question. NC means you do not contact your ex. NC does not mean that it will get your Ex back. NC is a way for you to heal with minimal or no reminders of your...

I checked it once, and it created so much emotion in me, I never went back to check. It stirred up so many emotions within me, I did not know how to contain them. It was one of the most hurtful...

I know that it's her decision, IF she chooses to come back. Even if that were to happen, I wouldn't jump right into it. I wasn't thinking that I could force her to come back, I wouldn't want to. I...

Do you want to be friends with people who are influenced by a ring leader? Those people aren't worth your time or deserve your friendship. Be yourself and you will find friends.

I guess it's not the right direction to go. If I want her back, how would I do that? Could she say that she thinks of me everyday, but not that way, as a hint that she does miss me?

Let's see if I got this straight. She told you she was with one guy before and you found out that she was with 5 guys. You feel she lied to you about how many guys she was with. Maybe she was...

I can see your point. It was unclear before. I can leave door open and be friends, and she may like me for me. I can not do that, pretend everything is OK and be her friend. Why would she need my...

It's hard for me to know what her intentions are since her actions have really surprised me and she isn't the person I thought I knew. She says she thinks of me, but not in that way. I could try to...

That's what I am wondering. Why is her motive to know how I am doing? Is it to make herself feel better, if she heard I was not so good? I guess at this point her feelings should not matter because...

It was a 2 years together and she broke up with me, citing wanting independence and us having different personalities. It was a "break" which of course was a nice way of saying break up. I soon find...

In her email she says that she thinks of me everyday, and still cares, but not that way. Why would she say something like that? It seems obvious and it hurts to hear that. I think she is casually...

My ex broke up with me over a month ago. I'm doing nc and recently she has asked me how I am doing. I didn't answer, and she asked again, in email.

Why is she asking?

Ex keeps asking how I'm doing. I haven't answered. Is she asking because she wants to know Im doing horrible to make her feel better? B/C she wants to know if I'm doing horrible like she is, and...

My ex called, but I missed it. She then emails me and says I did it on purpose. Then goes on to saying that I'm thought of everyday, but not the old way, and she's not dating anyone in particular....

I'm continuing the no contact thing, its actually not that hard. There's nothing really that we would would talk about. Plus she's with someone else and that shows me the type of person she is.
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I'm not sure if you will completely forget about her and your relationship with her. You will think about it less and less. You will begin to accept the situation and stop asking yourself why or...

Enigmagnetic, I'm glad that you have found peace and closure. I've found myself in a similar situation, finding out that my ex is seeing someone. My feelings and self image has also been bruised.
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chris28, I know how you feel. We are caught between a rock and a hard place, trust your heart or your brain... In times like this, the lines are blurred in what we should do. Sometimes our hearts...

It's been hard for me and I've just started making some progress. It's odd that people want to know how you are doing, or how bad you are doing. It's cruel in a way because why ask when you don't...

I know she wants to and is meeting new people (males) and I suppose it's human nature to want to see the person you dumped in shambles because it boosts your ego a bit. I don't want to be checked in...

I was doing no contact except in person for the above reasons. One time she mentioned that I look like I was doing well. How can she expect me to be OK or doing well after what happened. Can this...

Yes, she left me. I did not respond, but want to know why she would I'm me. She can make that small talk in class. Im trying not to make a big deal about it since if it was important she could...