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mohsin9890 · Jun 7, 2009, 04:32 AM

Dear Sir/Madam,

I'm in love with a girl. We are in this relation for last 10 years, but due to some family problems we were unable to met with our relationship to wedding knot. She was forced to marry her elder sister's brother-in-law & then for about 4 months we avoided seeing & talking to each other.

Now we both want to re-invent our relationship & want to tie a wedding knot

Also we need our families blessings to our relationship

Hence need your views please over how to go way forward.

Yet I'm not married, she is married but wants separation from her present relation. Her mother knows about our relations, however I can convince my parents too.

Thanks in advance

I wish · Jun 7, 2009, 04:40 AM

If you haven't been able to convince your parents or her parents during your 10 year relationship, then I'm not sure what else you can say.

Furthermore, both sets of parents were able to separate the two of you and forced her to marry someone else. So even if you try to get back, they will feel a certain power/control over you, knowing that they will be able to separate you again.

I'm sorry to say, but there might be nothing you can say or do to gain the blessing of your parents. But she would have to get divorced first. Are you sure you should be forcing her to get out of a marriage? I hope she wants to get out on her own term, because you should be staying away from a married woman.

talaniman · Jun 7, 2009, 05:44 AM

Also we need our families blessings to our relationship

If they have not given their blessing in 10 years why would they give it now? If she is married, how can you have a relationship, and also how old are you and what was the nature of the relationship before?

Yet I'm not married,

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/pregna...ds-104155.html
I'm just confused with the facts you gave.

Megan2345 · Jun 7, 2009, 12:31 PM

So she's married to someone else but wishes to be married to you?

There are some major red flags in this situation.

She is talking to you about being with you while she is already married to someone else, do you really trust that she won't change her mind with you too?

It doesn't sound like she's ready for the marriage that she's in much less another one!

As far as your parents go, they're probably seeing things in a different light than you. Their judgment is not clouded be love, lust, whatever. They're looking out for you.

I don't think you should move forward in this relationship.

talaniman · Jun 7, 2009, 04:22 PM

Talaniman Rule- Leave married people alone, and stay out of their business. Doesn't matter how you feel about them at all.

I don't think its smart at all to mess with a married woman. Ain't that much love in the world. But there are an abundance of available females to get hooked up with.