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    Thandi Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 19, 2009, 05:07 AM
    Your man is has disappeared and no longer in contact
    I have dated a man for few months in the same company. And I only have his work cell phone and he resigns and unfortunately I wasn't present at the time he resigned its been two 10days since he left I have no contact with him thought I have an option to ask for his other number from colleagues which I have decided not to do. What do you think I should do in this situation? Should I be the one looking for his contact and call him or should I wait for him to contact me?
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    Oct 19, 2009, 05:23 AM
    If you ve been dating on a regular basis for a couple of months and he disappears on you I d say count your losses-dont try to contact him- for whatever reasons he has decided to be unavailable.
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    Oct 19, 2009, 06:02 AM

    It think it speaks volumes that he didn't even give you his personal cell number. That, to me at least, would be a pretty clear sign he was never really serious.

    I am not sure what to say, but I know I wouldn't be waiting around for him. He knew he was going to resign (I assume) and had plenty of time to let you know about this.
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    Oct 19, 2009, 06:04 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by kctiger View Post
    It think it speaks volumes that he didn't even give you his personal cell number. That, to me at least, would be a pretty clear sign he was never really serious.
    Yes... in light of the fact that you never got his "real" phone number, I'd even hazard a guess that he's married!
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    Oct 19, 2009, 07:44 AM
    That he resigned rather quickly is a huge red flag. While it may have been his choice, quick resignations usually are of the 'quit or be fired' variety. How many people, if anyone, in the company knew you were seeing him outside of work? It may be an idea to not call attention to your relationship with him.

    I would not be trying to get in touch with him. He knows you only have his work cell phone number, so, it would be up to him to get in touch with you. He knows where you work and your phone number.

    However, I don't think I would have any more to do with this person. IF he thought more of your relationship, he would have called you the day he left the company. Since he didn't, that puts even more red flags on the relationship.

    I agree that he may be married/engaged/in a serious relationship.
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    Oct 19, 2009, 08:17 AM

    He obviously knows that you only have a work cell number. If he was interested in you, he would have given you another means to contact him. Furthermore, if he was really interested in you, he would look for you.

    None of the signs of him being interested are there, so you can move on.
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    Oct 19, 2009, 01:26 PM

    Forget this guy, he is hiding too much to be real.
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