So last week my girlfriend told me she needed some time to think(aka screw someone else, although she denies it)... so today I texted her that I slept with another girl(even though I didn't)... basically to see if jealosy would have any affect on her... was this a bad idea??

Yup. Very bad idea. You don't know for a fact that she wanted a sexual relationship with someone else, you just assumed. You know what the word ASSUME means don't you?

Well I do know for a fact that she has cheated on me... and she has told me that she wanted to meet other girls

Yes very bad idea!

If your going to start playing games... be prepared to lose.

Oops... I meant she wanted me to meet other girls

So you lied to her. Is lying acceptable?

No... but the thing is... I would love to screw someone else to get my mind off her 24/7... I just suck at meeting girls.

Is sex what it's all about? It seems your brain is all wrapped up in sex. You assume she is going to "screw" someone else, and you need to do the same to get your mind off her.

What ever happened to RELATIONSHIPS?

Geez I am really coming off as the bad guy here aren't I?. well I'm not ready to post the whole story yet... but to answer you, it is definitely not all about sex... I would be willing to have no sex until marriage if it meant I could have her back with me.

Might make it easier for people to give you advise if you did.

Yeah, you are coming off as the bad guy... excuses and then sex with no relationship.

It always helps to post all of the info to get the best answer.

Frankly, I'm embarrassed to post the whole story, because the relationship has gotten to this point of complete unhealthiness... I know that the responses will only be to get out of it... problem is I am so hung up on her and just can't move on... this latest thing was maybe an act of desperation on my part.

If the relationship is unhealthy why stay in it?

Because I still have hope that we can get back to how we used to be... I'm at that 'holding her on a pedestal... don't think I'll ever meet a girl like her' phase.

Okay... so her response was basically asking me about all the details... (where we did it, who she is, what we did, is she pretty, did I like it, etc... )

My responses to her was that it was all a mistake... I could only think about her while we were doing it... I don't want a relationship with her because I still love my ex too much, etc...

So she responds by saying I should go on another date with this girl, as if she is excited for my opportunity...


What do you guys think... does this mean she really doesn't care, and I am in the past to her? I probably made her feel better about the fact that she is screwing someone else is my guess...

Should I tell her it was a lie now? I now definitely do feel like I was wrong for telling her it.

Strangely enough... just the fact that I told her this... and that she was so intrigued in finding out the details... has me feeling a lot less depressed right now than I have been in days.

It seems like this girl doesn't want to be you anymore so I don't think it matters if you lied in the text message or not. Even if you tried to take back what you said most likely she wouldn't believe you anyway.

I've two questions for you. Why would you want to be with someone that cheated on you? How can you even want to be with someone while you still in love with your ex? I know I said two but just one more question. You ever heard the saying "It's time to move on"? Well, I think this saying fit this situation because it's time to move on.

Well you know what they say... The best way to learn a new skill is to just DO IT! Because honestly if your relationship is revolving around cheating, jealousy and games do you think it's even worth trying to figure out why it's not working?

I think now is a perfect time to try and learn how to pick up some new women.

Also maybe she has caught on to your bluff?

Oh man... I'm sorry... but this is wrong... so wrong... all of it... I don't think I need to hear the whole story to tell its wrong...

Dude... your lying to the person you "love" just to see if you get a reaction? What the..

U don't do that to someone you truly love...

She obviously doesn't really care that you slept with someone. She is not angry at all about it... doesn't that make you feel weird?

Telling her that it was all a lie right now would make no diff... Sorry, but honestly, if you wanted to be with this girl, you went about it totally wrongly... lying to someone, and telling them you slept with someone else, but while you were doing that, you were thinking about your ex, is not the way to win a woman's heart, and if she does come back to u, then I'm lost for words...

Sorry to say... this may not be good advice, or advice at all, but I have to say this is all wrong... and nothing you can tell me is going to change my mind... the whole story doesn't make a diff... even if she was the worst person in the world to you, or you were the best person eva, what you did was wrong, and if I was a woman, I wouldn't go back to you, because you lied and said you slept with someone else...

Even your thoughts are wrong... u wish you could screw someone else to get your mind off your ex... argh! So wrong!

So in conclusion... U ARE WRONG!


The end...

Unhealthy, unproductive, unloving, spiteful, games,
Doesn't sound like anything to base a relationship on at least not to me.