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    luv2teach Posts: 20, Reputation: 0
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    Feb 11, 2008, 07:43 PM
    Is this wrong?
    This is long but bare with:
    My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months, he is 32 I am 24.(Mature answers please)
    The Saturday before New Years, I went to a family get together with my grandmother & I ended up learning about my mother's side of the family. I found out my great grandfather came from a family of 12 siblings & that he had a set of twin sisters N1*& N2*. N1* married a man john smith*(not real name) they had no children.as well what town(real small pop. 300) my family was originally from.
    Later that day I went 2 my bf's parents house & was talking to them about what I learned. When I mentioned about N1 & N2. His mother got a serious look on her face. I then told them the name of the town where my family was from. His mother spoke up stating that, that was the same town where her family was from & that N1* was her great aunt who took care of her & her brother when younger. We were all in shock. In her mother's house is a photo of my great great aunts

    His father stated that this was wrong and if the news of this ever got out that I was no longer welcomed into their home.. My boyfriend was shaken about this and said that everythingwould be fine. Since then things have gone wrong as of the last 3 weeks, him stating that he is torn between his head and his heart and that he doesn't know what he wants. Since that day we never discussed the issue of family... but since that day I have not been back but he would come to me and stay but now that has changed..


    He also said thought that we were incompatiable because I was not fluent in the fields of education and politics now he isn't talking to me I asked him what we were and he said that he didn't know that was last Monday.. we haent spoken sice except for a kiss on the cheek on Wednesday... well my question is what do I do and do you feel that the story above is revelent to the on going issue and is the relationship wrong


    To our knowledge it is only through marriage


    My boyfriend and I never discussed the issue again he told that he loved me and that he didn't want to lose me.. His father's reaction was the worst and I am thinking that it isn't my boyfriend but maybe his father
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    Feb 11, 2008, 07:54 PM
    luv2teach says: "his father stated that this was wrong and if the news of this ever got out that i was no longer welcomed into their home". Questons for you: Do you believe blood is thicker than water? What state do you live in?

    luv2teach also asks: "is the relationship wrong; to our knowledge it is only through marriage"? You are not blood relatives, are you? Doesn't sound like it to me, but sometimes I'm slow.

    See: Prohibited degree of kinship - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
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    Feb 11, 2008, 08:03 PM
    I am from memphis, tn but currently living in ms where my family is from originally taking ccare of my grandmother... my bf's family is really concerned of the rest of family finiding out.. my family also married brother in sister to brother sister(not incest type ) kicker is that my great grandfather middle name is rainer and his sister married a rainer.. rainer is a family name in my bf's family as well... we havenlt been able to research it out
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    Feb 11, 2008, 08:05 PM
    Think I would just file this under, "Ain't It A Small World!"
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    Feb 11, 2008, 11:40 PM
    Sounds like a very distant relationship, distant enough that I don't see why his family is freaking out. I agree with george_1950.
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    Feb 11, 2008, 11:57 PM
    If he breaks up with you, it isn't over the family tree issues. Seems like there is more to the story. Not sure what all the not fluent in the fields of education and politics talk was about, but that seems to be a much bigger issue to resolve.
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    Feb 12, 2008, 11:36 AM
    This relationship has a bunch of issues. Where do you start? Start with him. You could use a break. Time away from his BS!! Yes I have read your other posts.

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