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espejuelo · Sep 27, 2010, 06:37 PM

I've hurt my ex boyfriend a lot and we are back to trying to work things out, but I've to work extra hard since I was the one who broke up with him, and he is kind of reluntant to jump into anything too fast, which I do understand. I'm really working hard to show him that I want to be with him, but he's not just coming around in terms of the text or calls, I've to be the one to text/call first and he do always respond. My issue is if I don't contact him for a whole day he doesn't bother to check up on me. Am I wrong for expecting calls/text from him if we suppose to be working things out? Or is it OK if I put a deadline for myself to when I expect him to come around? When ever I complian or bring it up he tells me he's stress or have a rough day at work. He's trying to retire in like 4months and start his own business, but I'm so paranoid that he's interested in someone else, even though he's told me a million times he's not and he still has feelings for me and there was no one else. He has told me that he do care about me and is planning a vacation for the both of us soon. I need some advice on what to do or how to handle this. I don't know if to wait until he has less work load

talaniman · Sep 27, 2010, 08:30 PM

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Same guy?? Or is this him??

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mmresd · Oct 26, 2010, 09:51 AM

The change of heart that you had can be, and usually is, mind twisting. He might resent you for the emotional pain and heart break that you caused him. So if you guys are trying to work things out and you have your ideas straight, maybe he doesn't so give him time to figure out how he is going to do things. And also a really bad way to start again is you not trusting him so when he tells you there is no one else, after what you've done to him, the least you can do is give him a little trust.

Good Luck,

Javi

answerme_tender · Oct 26, 2010, 11:57 AM

Maybe he is tired of your trying to call the shots in this relationship all the time. You are the one who broke it off and now you want him back. He is not going to jump when you want. You are going to have to prove you want this relationship. Part of that is showing patience and trust.
If you have sent a text, then don't attempt any further communications until he answers the first. Don't go over board acting like you can't live without him. You can still indicate that you want a relationship with him and are willing to work on it, but you will continue to grow in your personnel life either with or without him.