After the whirlwind honeymoon comes a period of adjustment that slows things down to manageable level, where you both can see what's really going on, and make decisions how to proceed.
You like many of us do are so worried, and carried away by your feelings, that you fail to see that the changes that have been made are for the best, and your actions are to be changed accordingly, especially in dealing with a child.
Relax, and get practical, and see this as a way of her keeping the lines of communications open, and I think you will see a bigger picture, and stop just thinking through the lens of your own feelings and wants, and see and empathize with what's everyone else's feelings and wants are.
YOU must adjust to the NEW changes before you in a thoughtful, mature way, as that's the only chance to build, and not tear down what you have. Appreciate you have some contact, as opposed to none at all.
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