Ive been in a relationship ( the word relationship I use loosely) with a married man for the fast approaching past year. I am so in love with this man, Its not about the excitement, it never has been. I was in a bad place when I truly got to know this man, he helped me and supported me. I over stepped the mark by asking him to sleep with me. From that day the situation snowballed out of control (I hasten to add I wouldn't take it back) I hate the situation, all the lying because its not just lying to his wife its all the families too. He has told me that after christmas he is going to leave his wife so we can be together. I don't know if to believe him or not. I have read so much about affairs and men recently that it has put doubts in my head. Should I listen to my heart or listen to my doubt?

Listen to your head. Leave him,he's a cheat and most probably lying to you. Why wouldn't he? It seems he's lying to everybody else.

If your asking yourself these questions,I think you already know the answers..

He cheated on his wife, he's cheating on you, married men rarely leave their wife's.

As hard as it is, and as much as you love him,understand you were in an emotional state when you met,and having someone to talk to and listen to you helped,it also formed an attachment to this man,the same thing happens with therapists and clients..

Get out while you still can..

There is so much you are missing out on..

Listen to your head and your heart. Your head is being smart by doubting the sincerity of a man who was willing to cheat on his wife. If he wanted to be with you and he was a real man, he would have divorced his wife first.

Your heart knows this is wrong. You're not a bad person, but you have made bad choices. Think not just of yourself and how much you want to be with this guy, but really consider the pain affairs and being dumped for another woman cause others. Most decent people are unwilling to cause that level of suffering to another person, regardless of what they feel they will gain.

Also, karma is a . If you "steal" a man, don't be surprised when another woman "steals" him away as soon as you get him. Remember, it's only "romantic" when the other woman is you, otherwise she's called a "home-wrecker".

There are a lot of disappointments, and setbacks, for the 'other woman.' While you sit and wait for him to throw a few crumbs your way, he is maintaining his marriage, and all the benefits that entails. He probably had a nice Christmas with his family, as he has for likely many years past, and many years to come.

He has a life that he has chosen, over you, for a year. While he too may enjoy his time with you, the fact is you will always be in second place, you will always be a secret, and you have no hope of replacing his wife, or his family, or being a part of his life, as he knows it, and as everybody else knows it.

I think more to the point is, why you would allow yourself to be used in this way. Think about the place you are in, and the person you have become. Think about being where you are now, for another 10 years.

If you are willing to settle, then there is no point in worrying about whether he's going to leave his wife for you. Be prepared for a very lonely life, and be prepared to miss out on some of the most important events that you could have had in your life, because you chose him.

I think once you get through the heartache of losing someone you love, regardless of what the circumstances are, you will have taken control of your own life again, and you'll be much, much happier in the long run.

I wish you well Wolves.

Stop having sex with him, and all your questions will be answered.

First of all, he probably won't leave his wife. Second of all, your wasting your time. Third of all, lets say he left his wife, what would make you think he would be faithful to you?