Hey, I've never really done this before. But lets just say, I am in desperate need of help, and I don't really have many options left.
I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years, We had a great relationship.
We were always the perfect couple, we got along, we fought, made up. I met him 5 years ago, where he fell in love with me while I was seeing somebody else. It was like a scene from a book, or a movie. It was perfect. We were perfect. Couple of months ago, we started having some issues, regarding the fact that he didn't like me getting close to a guy friend of mine. And even though he isn't the posessive sort, this was something that was bothering him, and we both always gave importance to what was important to each other, so I told him I'd decrease the friendship.
Though I wanted to, I couldn't, due to many reasons, or stupid excuses.
I lied to him profusely, I told him we were not even friends anymore, though we still talked.
He found out, I told him to give me another chance, and then he found out again 4 months ago, and to him that was the biggest blow. Me lying about another guy, he felt like he was not important enough for me. He broke up with me. I tried really hard to get him back, because then I knew it was my fault. He finally, after a month and a lot of efforts, he gave me another chance. I did everything he wanted me to, I left everything that he had a problem with, because I loved him. And I wanted things to be the way they were. He was really hurt, he cried, though he isn't the crying sort. And after a couple of months of taunts, we finally got better, I felt like we were finally crossing that stage. I did nothing to lose his trust this time, which I thought I had gained.
My university starts in a month, and as soon as I brought that up, 5 days ago, he changed. He started talking about the whole thing all over again. And how he didn't think he could trust me yet, he gave me so many chances, and he wanted to trust me, he loved me, but he was going to be very insecure and weird thinking that ill hurt him again. Or break his trust again. And he couldn't go through with that. I tried to rationally explain to him so many things, though he's very stubborn when he wants to be. And he just convinced himself, that he wouldn't be the same with me when my university started, even if I wouldn't do anything, he just didn't have it in him he loved me, and he cried again on the fone when we talked about how we were always together. I can't imagine life without him. I grew up with him, he was always there. And now, he said I won't be happy without you, but being insecure and crazy, it would only break me more, so its better if we won't be together.
I don't know what to do, I have done everything I could to take back my mistake. But he still can't let it go.
I just want to know, after 5 years of loving somebody, like crazy, passionately, do you really just give up, no matter how sure you are that it's the right thing to do? Will he come back to me?
Hes not like most guys, if something is a big deal to him, it's a huge deal. And this, this is like cheating for him. I need to know if he will come back?

Every relationship is based on trust and your guy seemed to be very insecure about you. You people had fought before over the issue and as you said things came to normal again after months.
But about his sudden behaviour, I think you should give him some space and time to think over. Living with such an insecure person who doubts you every time is really very difficult and love will gone sooner than you think. Its your life and here you need to be a little thoughtful about it.
Just give him some space and in the meanwhile join your college, make friends, give yourself time without him. Sometimes distance make your thought and your feelings very clear.
Goodluck.

I am afraid that once the trust is broken it can never be the same.
Some can find ways to repair it and learn to trust again, but even at that I think there is always that doubt because of the broken trust.

It sounds like your boyfriend is being realistic with himself and knows that he will not be able to trust you again.
And without trust there cannot be a meaningful relationship.

I am sorry for you , but you brought it on and now you will have to live with it.

I think you have lost him.

Like others have written here, trust is a very big part of a relationship. I don't think after 5 years of being together he will just stop loving you and believe me it is probably as hard for him as it is for you at the moment. If you have tried speaking to him and tried reassuring him that it is going to be OK, then the only thing you can do at this point is give him his space for a while. It is so hard to hear this because all you want is the answer YES he will come back or NO he won't so that you can move on but to be honest no one will be able to tell you that. Have you guys still been in contact since last week? I really hope that it works out for you and hope that he does come back. Be strong, DO NOT give up your university for him, give him some space and make him realise what he had with you.x

Leave him alone to get over himself, and do your thing. While you may not have deserved it, he agreed to try again, but its blatantly unfair to play the insecure card, because you will be leaving for school.

On the other hand, you started this with lies and deceit, and though he came back, it was with doubts that you planted. That's why you leave him alone and do what's important by getting your education, and letting him make his own decision about what he wants to do.

Your actions had consequences, so does his, but its not worth losing an education over.

Who knows what he will decide, but don't add to the disrespect by begging the fool, who was insecure from the git go, even though you LIED, when you didn't need to.

He is not really playing fair here. What is he expecting you to do, not to attend the college?

You can't change the past, what's done is done. Yes, you broke his trust, but you went out of your way to repair the damage and to show him that you can work through it together as a couple. If it's easier for him to pull away because of his own insecurity, then not much you can do about it.

Good luck with your studies... let him be. There is no telling if he'd come back or not. Maybe by the time he'll decide to, you won't even want him anymore.

I think your relationship with this boy is showing signs of him becoming controlling, I agree you did betray his trust, however had he not been so demanding you might not have done so.

Hes already got you to give up one friend, and now I think he's hoping you'll give up going to college.

Whilst you haven't helped matters with his trust issues, they're still his problems, and he too should have helped get them resolved when he had you back.

Leave him be he is wanting to control you and what you do, you're better off out of it.

Leave this relatioship. He'll have you eating out of his hand if he can. Losing friends aren't things a real stand up guy would want you to do. Move on

We are all human.We make mistakes,lie,cheat,do stuff that jeopardise beautiful relations in our lives and hurt them.Sometimes things end happily,people forgive us,come back to us and sometimes we end in the doldrums.

No one can ever say how its all going to end,how things are going to pan out for us.All we can do is give your best to this wonderful life we have been blessed with.We do that by learning from mistakes,by learning to work on our weaknesses,by learning to respect,trust,love,grow and be the absolute best we can be.

Quitting your education isn't in that list.Dont get into a chain of making mistakes because of one.

"I met him 5 years ago, where he fell in love with me while i was seeing somebody else."

"he didnt like me getting close to a guy friend of mine."

"I lied to him profusely"

Can you blame him? His fault too.

"after 5 years of loving somebody, like crazy"

Not really...

Figure out what you want before, not after.