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xsweetmoment · Feb 20, 2011, 10:50 PM

Okay well.My boyfriend and I have been off and on for about a year and two months.Basically everything was fine until he hurt me once.I never fully got over it and then also my friend ended up liking him as well while we were apart and we got back together.Everything went smoothly but I just got all these thoughts and emotions and stuff and it just ended up to the point where I kept pushing him away and kept saying things.We tried again and I tried to control it but I just couldn't and we broke up again, he said it wasn't how it used to be basically.I still want him back though, I'm being positive and I'm also working on myself.. I realized I have trust issues due to everything that happen and I'm working hard on that to make myself feel good again.Is there any chance of us getting back together? I mean before that point we were just fine but after the pushing away started he just started to be distant and stuff.I really miss him, I'm giving him space and focusing on myself but I don't really know what to do.

volleyball7girl · Feb 21, 2011, 12:00 AM

Hello.. I know how you feel and what your going through. Samething happened to me. Have you talked to him about it yet? It took me months to get over what my boyfriend did to me. It really hurt and he knew it... but you can't let what happened in the past take over and control your relationship. If he has apologized and you really think he meant it and won't do it again... then keep trying to be with him :) its good to give both of you some breathing space for awhile... but if its meant to be and you love each other (or like each other a lot) then you two will be back together soon :) also... let him no you forgive him and tell him you trust him. That always works... plus if it does happen again... he'll feel more guilty and that's when you need to either say good bye, or have a SERIOUS talk with him haha but good luck and I hope I helped some :) if you have anymore questions... just ask :)

talaniman · Feb 21, 2011, 04:57 AM

How old are you both? Generally unless you resolve the issues that broke you up, they will break you up again, and after so much pushing away between you, then maybe staying apart until those issues are resolved would be best.

When a partner has hurt us, it may well take a long time before we can trust them again, and if you don't fully deal with it properly, you never trust them. Maybe its not all you, but you are the one who has to deal with the fallout.

For sure make up to break up wears both partners out in the end.

summer_girl · Feb 21, 2011, 08:30 PM

Pushing away is never healthy. Talking about your feelings is a much better way to get what you need. You will never be able to "control" feelings and make them disappear, but if you talk about what's bothering you it won't get so bad that you feel like you need to be destructive with pushing away.