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    crushedovernover Posts: 260, Reputation: 19
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    Dec 7, 2008, 12:20 PM
    Why would a ex do this
    Ok in a nut shell, I have had NC literally since July 2007. Over the time she has pulled stunts, got married after 5 months of our split. Things have been rough with her new hubby apparently lol. Anyway recently AGAIN she used her friends acount on Facebook to check up on me, and to add the girl who I'm talking to. If your married and so happy why are you so curious to see what I'm doing or who I'm dating. If someone says oh she was just wondering WHY. I don't wonder who people are talking to or what not.
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    Dec 7, 2008, 12:32 PM

    She is confused. If things are not going well with her husband she gets curious about your life.

    The important thing is your feelings. Do u want a person like that checking up on u? Even if she later tells you her marriage was a mistake would you want to be with her?

    THe more clearer you are about what you want the more prepared you will be to deal with the next stunt she pulls.

    I would ignore her and try to block her from my cites... eventuallyu she will go away..
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    #3

    Dec 7, 2008, 03:04 PM

    So if things are not good she then gets curious?
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    Dec 7, 2008, 03:08 PM

    Yeah pretty much you are her back up plan?
    If things are not working out
    Then hey. Your weak. And she knows you are easy. So why not see what you are up to and see if she can get you

    You really want to be that guy?

    No no. tell this girl to sod off
    And enjoy the mess she has made for her self

    Tell her. That she is getting left back in the cold and rain!

    While you go all the way!
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    #5

    Dec 7, 2008, 03:11 PM

    Well I do have a son with her
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    Dec 7, 2008, 03:21 PM

    GEEEZZ

    Way to leave out DETAILS you doughnut.

    Well yeah that changes everything!

    But still you should not be with her. Have her there for the son but that's it

    She made her bed lie in it
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    Dec 7, 2008, 03:23 PM

    That's how I feel, I just want to be friends with her for our son. But her friends have been asking some weird things, like if I would ever get back with her, if her and I are going to have any more cute babies
    When they know exactly what's is going on
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    Dec 7, 2008, 03:25 PM
    Lol, and me having a son with her doesn't change much. Your right I'm still her back up plan, unless you think dif.. if so explain
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    Dec 7, 2008, 03:42 PM

    Trying to guess what's on a females mind, is a total waste of good beer drinking time.
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    Dec 7, 2008, 04:05 PM

    Whatever happens

    Just don't get back with her and let her lay in the bed she made simple as that.
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    #11

    Dec 7, 2008, 04:42 PM

    I can't go through that again, so I will never get together with her again. I just don't want to deal with her trying if that is what all of this stuff has been leading too
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    #12

    Dec 7, 2008, 04:50 PM

    Why don't you just delete the friend who let her check up on you on her account, and then forget about it. Why did the girl you're talking to now add her to hers?
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    Dec 7, 2008, 09:03 PM

    Miss understnading, cause my ex used one of her friends acount to check up on this girl . But this girl kind of knows.. Anyway.. I had this girl I'm tlk to block her already.. Im curious as to why she is doing such things.
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    Dec 7, 2008, 09:11 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    Trying to guess whats on a females mind, is a total waste of good beer drinking time.

    Haha. Me like beer too :) unfortunately can't have any right now :(
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    #15

    Dec 8, 2008, 01:46 AM

    What I am really curious about is why you want to know what she's up to? She left you and married another man, and has your child. That was an important detail you left out there! Her marriage isn't going as she expected, so now she is trying to see what you are up to, just in case her marriage fails, which it likely will if she is playing these childish games.

    Don't waste time wondering why or what she is doing. Take care of your child, and leave it at that. Don't get involved in her games, and instead of focusing on what she is doing, put that energy into taking care of the child you share.
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    Dec 8, 2008, 02:06 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    Trying to guess whats on a females mind, is a total waste of good beer drinking time.
    I demand to drink some beer with the almighty Talaniman!

    Heineken's on me!
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    #17

    Dec 8, 2008, 02:32 AM
    God woman are evil and I am one! She's got some nerve but I can sense that she wouldn't have to do much to get you back so she can probably sense that too.
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    Dec 8, 2008, 08:05 PM

    It's a girl thing. We are curious. I don't think she's being a stalker. I know I still like to know what my ex is up to... I don't think she's crossing a line..

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