Dear all,

I've been in this relationship not for a very long time, but here's how it started.
I've been living alone for quite sometime now, and all my friends and family were trying to get me married, finally they introduced me to this nice girl, and we clicked straight away, afetr sometime I proposed and we got engaged.
Now after the engagement started all the problems for me, sometimes I feel she really cares and has feelings for me, but she gives much much more attention to her friends than me or even her family, and she has a lot of friends, but also another problem is she doesn't know how to make me happy, although we had a conversation before and I told her what I'm missing, she still doesn't do any of it but at the same time she does these things to her friends..!
Another big issue is that she listens too much to other people, like anything that happens between us, we talk about it and solve it, but then she goes out with her friend(girl) and comes back to talk about it again but when she does that I see her friend talking not her.

Seriously I got lost and don't know what's going on...

You are how old?
You have been together for how long?
You've got common interests in music, literature, family planning, gastronomy, future goals.etc?

If your family told you to jump off a cliff, would you ask which one?

Have you told your family and friends what you've been going through since you met her or are you both putting on a great act?

What exactly was the reason you proposed to her? Is she a great cook, funny, does she have a wonderful personality and smile?
When you talked and you told her what was 'missing', did she also tell you what she was missing and did you listen?

Do you both have careers and goals, or do you count on friends and family to guide you every step of the way in your life?
May I suggest you write a list of all the pros and cons of this relationship and then without your family and friends, figure out exactly what it is you want in your life.

No matter what your choice, get back with us and let us know exactly how you are feeling right now. And, if you don't want to answer the above questions on this post, at least be honest with yourself and think about them.


Good Luck.

I think you kind of answered your own question. She's not making you happy. She won't change. You aren't happy. Do you really think it wise to get married?