Well a little backstory

Me and my ex were together for about 2 years, we were real close, we live like 3 houses from each other, we are both 18. Anyway, about 3 months ago, I found out she was cheating on me with her ex boyfriend, it was a real nasty breakup, and she even went so far to get her mom to talk to my mom and stop me form talking to her. Of course I did all the cliché things like beg, call her non stop, and text and stuff after the break up, none of it worked, she would just tell me to leave her alone and such. Well I finally took the hint, and I went no contact, Even though its been really hard since we live so close to each other, I did it. So last week she calls me and I ignore it, she leaves a message aasking if I was all right because I was in the hospital, well I never was in the hospital and I thought it was just a stupid reason and she probably just called to talk to me or something, well not even a minute after I sent a text back, she calls me, and of course I answer, well she said she heard it from a friend and I was like yeah, but I was being nice and such, well ever since then I let her be the one to contact me, she texts me constantly, and she is always asking how my family is and such and saying she misses them a lot and starts crying. Yesterday I ask her how her life is doing, and she says she is doing real good with her boyfriend right now, saying they are soooo happy and this and that. But the funny thing is that I know the guy she is talking to and I know that they were talking for a while but I know that he doesn't do all that stuff they say they do because he's constantly online playing video games lol. He's on my Xbox 360 friends list. Well anyway, she's confusing me, one minute she is crying apoligizing about how she took everything for granted and then the next she is saying how happy she is and this and that lol. I love this girl like crazy, but I'm using my brain instead of my heart this time and I just want to know why she is doing all this stuff when I know its not true... sorry for the long story

Sounds like she wants you back but she is afraid to ask

She probably feels guilty from hurting you so much. You need to STOP talking to her right now! Also delete that guy from your game list. Your only going to get hurt.

She may have lost the romance feelings for you as a boyfriend, but she gets to keep you in her life... as a friend, she can still talk to, and text, and all that friend stuff, when she has time.

Its pretty normal after a break up, and really shows she is over the "love stuff" with you, but of course your not over her, and would love another chance at romance, so you look very hard to see some encouraging signs.

Even the fact that she still calls, texts, or shows any attention to you, makes you feel she still can take you back. Am I right? Of course I am, because this is what we all have gone through, and despite the feeling we are so different, and unique, its still the same thing, a break up, and that's what happens after a break up. Its just some cope with it better than others, is what's the difference.

Just read other posts here, and the stickies at the beginning of this forum and you will see your not alone with your situation.

She probably wants to keep you as a friend so she has a 'back up plan' in case things fail with the new guy. Ask yourself if you're happy being #2 in someone's life. If so, more power to you. But if you respect yourself and have healthy self-esteem you'll never settle for being left hanging on a string. All it will do is keep you clinging to the false hope of getting back with her, keep you down in the dumps much longer than you should be and ruin any chance you have of meeting someone new

She wants to alleviate the guilt she feels from how she was. It's cliché, I had the same thing happen, twice. Don't buy into it, it's a nasty web that you don't want to get tangled in