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    bollywoodshee Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 6, 2008, 07:14 AM
    Why is he ignoring me?
    Could someone please help me. My boyfriend of 4 years has started to ignore me over the last few weeks. He doesn't ring me or see me, ignores my calls and I honestly have no idea what I have done for his to act like this. Is he not interested anymore? I know he is not cheating I don't think he would do that. He spends all his time with his friends, only a few months ago it was me he put first. I really want to make it work and its making me really upset. I know he loves me but is he pushing me away. I love him so much, we were best friends not so long ago. I'm depressed without him, have been in the past. Please male or female give me your point of view and advice. Thanks
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    Feb 6, 2008, 07:18 AM
    Curious... How old are the two of you guys, is he in college?
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    Feb 6, 2008, 07:25 AM
    If he is becoming distant after 4 years then something is most likely wrong. It could just come down to him being a bit annoyed at something you said and so is distancing himself until he gets over it so he doesn't say something he'll regret later.
    You need to get in contact with him somehow and talk to him seriously about why he's been this way, considering your pretty far into the relationship it should be no trouble to ask him how he feels. It sounds like you love him a lot, and if you're a strong couple you will always fight to stay one. Communication is the key! Number one relationship rule, trust and communication!
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    Feb 6, 2008, 07:44 AM
    I know he is not cheating I don't think he would do that
    Yeah well I was with a girl for 4 years as well, I carried out the same actions your current man is carrying, and I did start seeing someone else. She, too, didn't think I was capable of such actions.

    That doesn't mean that this is what's going on. Either he has a problem with you, or he is thinking about or has already started to see someone else. You need to talk to him, but he's ignoring you 100%?. What a loser. This guy should be a MAN and say what is on his mind, not ignore what he doesn't want to confront.

    Text him, tell him it's over. Break up with him. Then you'll get some answers. The sad thing is, I bet that's what he wants. We'll be here for you though, so if you need to talk to us, feel free to write in this forum and we'll help, OK!
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    Feb 6, 2008, 07:50 AM
    Yea, Eura... Every person is capable of cheating at some time or other. But I agree he should be a man and at least text what is going on. Even if you text him and say "if you don't reply to this, i'm going to take this as we are over and I wish you well. Goodbye (insert name)" and then come to the forum, vent her and go NC with his sorry behind
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    Feb 6, 2008, 09:43 AM
    Do you live together, and how old are you??
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    Feb 6, 2008, 09:52 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by bollywoodshee
    i honestly have no idea wot i have done for his to act like this.
    Darlin, sometimes its not "what you do" that makes people distance themselves from you, its what they have done. This guy could be pulling back for a number of reasons... some more believable than others (which have been mentioned in above posts) and others are simply quite possible - he could be going through family stuff or physical stuff that he's embarrassed to share with you. You really never know until you talk to him.

    I can't tell you that its all going to be OK, but it may be. You're not going to know until you sit down and talk to him. Don't be emotional or clingy, don't stalk him and "find out what he's up to," be calm and just tell him that you need to talk.

    Like its been said, we're all here for you - thanks for asking!

    Good luck, hon.

    No matter what happens, keep your chin up. :)
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    Dec 10, 2011, 09:51 AM
    U know it"s happening to me right now we were both great after we make up but after few days he started ignoring my calls and my messages . do you think u can force somone to call u back or cares about you no of course.just leave him alone for a while even it"s hard I'm going through the same situation
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