My boyfriend and me have been dating for a month and I am very very into him, but we go to different colleges. 2 weekends ago he came to my college and spent the weekend and things were awesome! Even after he left he was very cute and affectionate towards me and this last weekend he invited me to his college for a night and so I went and we went to a party and that was the first night we did more than kiss but we didn't have sex or anything. Then, after I left I was expecting him to be as affectionate and cute towards me as before but he didn't even text me the day after I left so I texted him and then yesterday he texted me but was sort of talking to me as a friend rather than a girlfriend. I am confused because he is not being as flirty. What do you think is wrong with him?

Maybe you need to wait a little because I don't see nothing wrong yet. Just wait a little and see if he is acting like a friend because a text message is notenough to juge.

Are you sure that he wasn't busy or something when you texted? Give it some time and see if you continue to feel more like a friend than a girlfriend. If you do, then why don't you straight out ask him what's going on?

Don't get all insecure over a text.

Surviving a Long-Distance Relationship

Maybe this sight will help you with the long distance issues.

You've only known him for a month and don't know him very well.

One of the things that girls do is think that guys are like girls and they over-analyze everything that is said and done by their BF.

Try and chill a little. Don't over-think each move. Try not to text too much - guys tend to find it boring.

Give yourself and him the time to get to know each other, and understand that maintaining LDR's is hard work.

Nothing else to add. Be patient, don't push anything, guys like their freedom and make decisions, rather then being pushed. Let it be, see what happens and just make yourself busy with things that you like and enjoy.

Yes I finally asked him if something was bugging him and if it was me and he said that I did nothing wrong and not to think that and that he is just stressed about school :)

You better relax as you are so insecure for only a month, and unless you take better control of your own emotions you will drive the guy away for nothing.

Insecure people can only see their own feelings, and not those of others, and when things don't go as they think they should, they panic.

It is hard to be comfortable around those kinds of people as they are needy, and smothering. You don't want to be like that do you??

Only a month and you were already hitting the panic button, be careful, slow it down. College is stressful enough let alone add a relationship to the mix

Tal's right no matter how great it is when your together, in an LDR it is easy to feel smothered by constant texts, calls and wonderings if 'Everything is OK?'

The reason that an LDR is so hard is not only missing the affection of a relationship, the ease with which some people find to cheat in the absence of a partner etc. What I find is the real killer: insecurity.

Both for your mind and his. It leads the smothered to believe that it just isn't worth the hassle. Try to take it easy.

Guys are funny like that, if u haven't read men a re from mars u should it is pretty close to what guys are like.

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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a month and a week and we go to different colleges and only see each other about every other weekend. Well last time I saw him I was visiting him at his college and it was a great weekend and that was the first time we hooked up, no sex just hands. After that visit he started acting very distant. He is a virgin also, but keep in mind that he used to be very affectionate towards me with kisses and cuddling. Anyway, this weekend was valentines day and he came down and got me a dozen roses and such but he was very unaffectionate all weekend. We even slept in the same bed and he didn't touch me. He only kissed me twice the whole weekend. What is wrong with him?

We cannot read his mind.

Your best bet, would to ask him very calmly and listen to what he has to say.

"Baby, I have noticed you are not kissing and cuddling as much lately. What is on your mind?"

Ask him as he is the only one who knows.
Honest communication is vital in relationships.

Whenever I ask him if he's OK he's just like "yeah". Won't tell me

Then ask him what you've asked us here,rather than just asking him if he is OK.

Honest two-way communication is essential to a healthy relationship. Tell him he needs to do that in order to fix the problem.

If he still doesn't want to talk about it, your best bet would be to cut your ties while you are not too invested and save yourself the heartbreak later down the road. It sounds like you have pretty good expectations of a relationship and there are guys who want the same.

Its not him its you expecting him to know what you want. Tell him what you want, (or show him) and stop making him read your mind.

He is a virgin, and has no clue as to how far your wanting to go.

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So, me and my boyfriend were together for 2 months by the time valentines day rolled around. He came down from the college that he goes to to see me for the weekend at mine. Something was weird though, he wasn't being very flirty or affectionate at all actually and it got me mad. When I called him and asked him why he was acting that way he said I don't know my bad. This pissed me off so I told him that he could start talking to me when he decided to start acting like my boyfriend again but until then I would let him be, then I hung up. Next day he calls me and tells me that the long distance is bothering him a lot and he is already stressed and thinks that he needs to be single right now but wants to continue to be cool and hang out as friends when he is home because he has a lot of respect for me and my family. I asked him if he still liked me and he said yes but not as much as I did in the beginning when I saw you before we went to dif schools". This break up was a week ago from today and I have made no contact with him, I'm trying to give him his space. He imed me on the internet a couple days ago saying hi and kept it really short then said bye. He still wants to hang out when he comes home for spring break though and when he is home. Do you think there is any chance that when we hang out spring break we can fix the relationship? I miss him a ton and it will be 3 weeks apart by the time spring break rolls around so hopefully then we can work on getting back together. Does it sound like he would be likely to want me back or do you think there is no chance for us? If you think its likely that he would want to get back together what should I do when I see him to make him realize we should be together? Sorry that was so long.

Dating relationships change,evolve and people move on. Especially when the two are apart for long periods. Maybe it is simply time both of you move on to others.