My boyfriend and I have been together a little over a year and majority of the time we have a great relationship. However, in the last 6 or so months we have been going through periods where he makes me feel like he doesn't even want to be around me.
We work completely different schedules, he works mornings and I work over nights 8-16 hour shifts... So during the week we only get to see each other after he gets off work (if I'm not still asleep or out doing errans or visiting my mom.)
I look forward to my days off and spending quality time together and finding new things to do, etc. . But recently, he ALWAYS has something else to do! Or something to fix for the landlord or work or something with his friends (which of whom are the neighbors 20 feet away and other people located in the intermediate neighborhood-so they're ALWAYS stopping by.. Which is soooo annoying!! )
I don't mind him having friends or going out with them, having fun, and having a life besides me, because I have my own life as well and like to go out for "girls night" every other Friday and am in every other sense independent as they come.

I never get a whole day or even 4 hours of him to myself, unless were watching a movie-which doesn't count.
Our sex life- lol "sex life" is horrible! When We actually do have sex its great, but far and few between the times. Maybe 2-3x a month! (I'm 24 he's 34 but it feels like he's 90 and I'm 16.)
He will occausionally tell me that he will be sure to make more time for us to spend actual quality time, but that never happens.

This is such a blow to myself esteem and much of the time I spend alone or doing something solo-while he's with his friends.
I know he loves me and dose show it in other ways but I don't feel important to him in any other way than a roommate.

We have talked about this before, and for a few days after it will be fine but then eventually we'll end up back in this rutt. I don't want him to think I want to be his whole world or come off clingy. I just miss my boyfriend and hate feeling like there's something wrong.