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klk111 · Sep 20, 2011, 05:58 PM

So I have been in a relationship with my fiancé for 2 years now. The first month or two of the relationship we probably saw each other 2-3 times a week and would probably have sex 3-5 times each visit. As our relationship grew we fell in love, and saw each other everyday, and would have sex usually 2 times a day. After about 6 months, we moved in together and our relationship continued to get stronger but the sex probably dropped to 2-3 times a week, which I expected, and didn't necessarily mind. Give it a few months more, and we are having sex less and less.

At this point we have it about once every 3-4 weeks, and even then it is only if I push him,or if I mention that it's been a very long time. I've asked if something's wrong, and why he doesn't want to have sex anymore. He says nothing is wrong, and he says he doesn't know why he is not in the mood. Other than sex, our relationship has grown stronger over time. We get along great, rarely fight and completely enjoy each others company.

He has asked me to marry him, and once we finish our degrees that is what we plan to do. He is not the cheating type, and I've seen no signs of that going on. But I'm still concerned that our not having sex is a bad sign. We are both fit, healthy and in our mid 20's. This can't be normal, right? Any insight, guys?

mmresd · Sep 20, 2011, 06:04 PM

First of all, if he was cheating, you wouldn't know it. Don't get paranoid about it, trust him as you do now, but just something to point out. Another thing is maybe you can try to spice things up? Read on diet that increase testosterone in the body (it is what makes a guy want to have sex) and maybe you might get a response. If you try your best and nothing changes then you will have two options.

One, it is to accept the way he is and get used to even LESS sex in the future (personally I think it is health to have sex at least one time a day).

Two, break up with him and find someone that satisfies you completely.

talaniman · Sep 20, 2011, 06:49 PM

Don't ignore the obvious, he has something else on his mind besides sex. Something more important. Ask him. Don't make this about you, or sex or the lack of it. Make it about what's on his mind. What he may be going through or a change in his life.

landomando · Sep 20, 2011, 07:57 PM

Once you have sex that many times a week for a long period it does get kind of get old. Have you tried to spice it up? For example Getting some really sexy lingerie. Or just walk out of a room when he's not expecting it and be wearing something that would turn him on.. things like that... or don't ask him and say no for like a week or two or longer if he asks. Just say no. and Be nice about it! Do something he wouldn't expect from you... If he doesn't seem like there's stuff going on in his life like school or job or something that's effecting this. And he seems fine then he is probably bored... HAHA Oo and I don't know why I thought this was really funny, when I was reading this I thought it was a guy who was writing it just because Im a guy and usually we ALWAYs want to do it! AHaha. Good luck!

vanheart · Sep 20, 2011, 08:37 PM

Have you talked to him?

Communication is everything.