So my boyfriend and I got in to this huge fight about how he doesn't think I care about him or that I do not think that he is important to me. I tell him that I care about him so much and that he means the world to me. So I asked him how can I show that your important too me. His response was that if I care about him so much that I should tell my mom that and that if he is important to me that I should tell my mother that I am going to go see him and just leave.

We have been together for 7 1/2 months and I am busy between school and soccer. He just does not understand that school and soccer are important to me because that is what's going to get me in to college. He doesn't realize how busy I am and that if I had more time that I would spend it with him. When we first meet I told him that I am going to go off to college and now I am second semester senior and he wants to know about our future together. And the only answer I have for him is that I do not know. Which for him is not acceptable. I graduate in June and I don't understand why spending the last few month together just won't work for him. He would rather be alone and depressed then spend the last few months together before I go off to college.

We had this huge fight over the phone this morning concerning the fact that he doesn't think I care about him and the fact that I am going off to college and as of now I don't see him in my future. I just don't know what to do.

You should recognize that your guy is immature, as is typical for a young person in love, and sees growing up as losing something/someone who will leave (change).

You have priorities, and he doesn't feel at the top of the list because lets face it he probably has few personal goals that don't include you, and if he goes to college, it's a local one and he most likely will work locally too (just a guess).

Simply put, he either does not understand your goals and priorities, or he has none of his own that don't include you. Why else would he expect you to ignore your parents to be with him?

Are you breaking up when you go off to college? That would be scary to a young guy who has made you his world. What do you do? You keep on your path you have set for yourself, and let him adjust on his own. He will either accept it, or NOT. He will cope with his feelings maturely, or NOT.

Those are his problems, not yours even though your feelings are likely be as strong as his. And if you think its weird now, wait until the reality of distance and absence for long periods presents itself.

These are normal challenges that young people face as they morph from the teen years (high school), to becoming adults (college/work), and the "growing pains" they go through. We all do.

My advice, be gentle, but very FIRM with him.