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ddarsee1 · Sep 12, 2011, 03:01 PM

I've been in a relationship for about two years now, we live together, have pets together and have had a wonderful relationship up until recently.

I try everything to get her attention, and even try getting her attention by not doing anything; however, it just isn't working. I've tried spicing up our sex life by toys and taking her on adventures and hotel rooms. I've tried everything. I've told her how I feel but she swears that everything is normal. I cry night after night because of this. I love her so much but... I feel like she isn't interested in me. Not even attracted to me. I've gained a few pounds since we've been together. We argue everyday now and we're slowly just pushing each other apart.

Is there anything else I could try?
Has anyone else been through this?
Do you think its something I'm doing wrong?

talaniman · Sep 12, 2011, 03:32 PM

Are you insecure and so needy you have not recognized that things have changed and you need to make adjustments?? Is that what the arguments are about? You not getting enough attention? Have you wrapped your life around getting her attention that you are neglecting doing things that make you happy without her?

All of these things are what can make us distracted from the things we need to do to be happy, and unfairly burden our partners. Is that you? What do you argue about??

hheath541 · Sep 12, 2011, 06:02 PM

How long has this been going on?

Is it just sex she's lost interest in? Or has contact like cuddling and just spending time together stopped, too?

If it's just sex, you may need to reorder your priorities. Learn to be happy with just cuddling together watching a movie or talking. Spend time just being together and doing things together. Go on dates. Treat her to a massage every now and then.

Stop focusing on, and expecting, sex and just enjoy being together. It's very likely that your persistence is turning her off. If she feels pressured, or like you see it as her duty, then she's not going to be in the mood. She's also unlikely to tell you, to prevent an argument.

vanheart · Sep 12, 2011, 06:47 PM

Maybe she needs some love.

Not toys.

Spend some time getting to know your girl. Without selfishness.

What's underneath. That's goes for you, in the meantime.

Is that all you care about? If you want to keep this girl, then do some thinking & start paying real attention.