Why does my Boyfriend go out with his friends but not me?
Asked Apr 28, 2010, 11:54 PM
My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 3 years. Hes a sweet guy and would do anything for me. The problem I have is when he's with me he doesn't want to do anything just stay home and watch a dvd. I have to ask him to go somewhere with me. Or if he does want to go out he wants to go to the same restaurant every time or to the movies which is once in a blue moon when I have complained.
I asked him if he would go on short holiday with me but his response was I cant, I don't have the money id said I pay but he said 'when I go away with you I want to pay for both of us'. I kept trying to get him to come cause I had time off work organised and it was only a few days he had to take off which he could do easily. Two weeks later he is telling me he's going to go away with friends for the weekend. Naturally I kicked up a stink and he decided hed come away with me as well as going with his friends.
If I say lets go here hed say 'nah I don't want to. I just want to stay home' and all we'd do that night is watch a dvd. But when a friend ask him out he gets all excited and wants to go. Its not because I ask him to do boring things. Ive never asked him to do anything like a walk on the beach or anything he would call boring. I have asked him to go places he likes.
I have bought this issue up to him a few times and every time he starts to get better for a month then again it dies down. Lately I've been asking him to go somewhere on this day, he said he'd see... then makes plans with friends.
I have asked him why he doesn't want to go anywhere with me but is perfectly fine to go everywhere with his friends and his reply was... You ask me out on the days I don't feel like going out. When I said how come every time your friends ask it's the day you want to go out? He didn't have an answer.
Once when I bought this up he said I was asking too much of him. Is asking your boyfriend to go somewhere with you every now and then asking too much from him? Please give me your opinion. Because I don't think it is but maybe I'm wrong.
This is my first and only boyfriend and I know he loves me it just I don't know what makes him not want to go anywhere with me. Any advice would be great thank you.
Last edited by I wish; May 11, 2010 at 08:30 AM.